Comment on How to treat a man

• zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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• moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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  • wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Males being raped is a very underreported and tragic occurrence. You can’t compare apples and oranges.

    (I have friends who were raped and never reported or did anything about it, out of stigma, shame, or not expecting anything [justice] to come of reporting it)

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    • flicker@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I have female friends who never reported or did anything about it, out of stigma (what were you wearing? Were you asking for it? Are you faking?), shame (why was he able to get you alone?) Or not expecting justice to come of reporting it (you’ll ruin his life, it was a mistake, I’m sure you deserved it, we don’t have enough evidence.)

      That pendulum swings both ways.

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      • Demdaru@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Meanwhile men don’t have access to support groups, are not supported by anyone when they admit it, get straight up ridiculed for this ever happenning by both everyday people and justice system…

        It happens to both genders. But we managed to build fundamental lattice of support for one of them (fundamental as in there’s still so much to do), while failing to even recognize the other one faces this problem too. We do not have to compromise on helping one side to help the other - that’s straight up not an option. But we should help, and recognize the need of help, for both.

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      • iheartneopets@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Fucking thank you. Men’s libbers (and there’s a loooooot of them on lemmy, as you can see in your downvotes) like to trot out the “men don’t report because of stigma!” line, but it’s like, my guy, women do too?? For every woman brave enough to report, there’s anywhere from 5-10 that don’t report at all due to fear/stigma.

        Of course rape happens to men (mostly by other men) too. But, couple things:

        1. it’s not a competition or dick measuring contest. Rape is bad, m’kay? Regardless of gender.
        2. it’s disingenuous to say that it happens to men just as much, or more. It feels icky, like they’re shoving themselves in a victimhood narrative where they don’t belong.

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• HowManyNimons@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  That depends on what you mean by “treated”. Men are not as well trusted not to be violent, and taken less seriously when the victims of sexual crimes. Women are paid less well and get more online abuse. That’s just a few examples for each side, obviously we could go on and on. Maybe we all want better treatment.

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