It’s not about being rude it’s about not being nice, specially in professional settings. It’s sad but it’s true. But also, like everything else, there are exceptions but we can never know
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HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
This is a pattern that if applied broadly feels guaranteed to spiral into the opposite of the desired outcome.
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Be rude as a rule to men
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Men interpret what was once ‘rude’ as normal behavior
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Stepping positively outside the new normal gets interpreted as possible sexual interest
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Now you are required to be even ruder baseline to avoid misinterpretation, and men just get treated worse socially.
MissJinx@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 8 hours ago
It’s not about being rude it’s about not being nice
The first words are ‘I’m always a little mean’ so I think rude counts. I understand the motivation for doing this, but this is a strategy that the more it is applied the less it works. The core issue is men taking small deviations from their expected social treatment as flirting, and I think that moving the expectation lower by being meaner means that it will take less ‘nice’ to accidentally communicate interest, thereby making it worse in the end.
MissJinx@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
I get it. I can only speak from myself and I can never be rude or mean but I am serious and professional in my workplace because I have had bad experiences before
mienshao@lemmy.world 1 day ago
morphballganon@mtgzone.com 1 day ago
They’re describing a well-understood sociological phenomenon. Sorry you’re so triggered by actual human psychology
HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Oh no, I’ve replied to a meme in a non-hostile way without downvoting it and boosted its platform visibility. How dare I?
Engaged, but appreciate the concern for my dating life.
Turret3857@infosec.pub 16 hours ago
Congrats on engagement!!
HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 8 hours ago
Thank you ❤
usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
I see you’re already on step 4
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
🤣