Imagine making a radical life change based on a dating app hookup
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UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Had a couple of friends who went on vacation to Europe - Spain and France, specifically - and had totally different experiences on the dating apps. Men were open and friendly, knew how to hold up a conversation (in non-native languages!), showed politeness, responded quickly, made first contact easy and low-anxiety, looked good, smelled nice, knew how to dance, charmed the panties right off them both, and then kept in contact afterwards. Like, even after they flew back home, these guys were still saying “Hey, what’s up, here’s something cool happening in my neighborhood can’t wait to see you again”.
Just a radically different experience than the American dating scene. One friend straight up swore off American men entirely. She’s booking a flight back to France for a three month go - working remote, learning the language, the whole thing - because of how blown away by the healthier and happier social conditions over there.
zalgotext@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Teppichbrand@feddit.org 5 days ago
Once you go France
others don’t stand a chanceAnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Well, obviously. Although if you’re from the US, that’s true for most of Europe.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 5 days ago
The apps reflect the underlying culture and social order. They weren’t the only reason. Go spend a week in the south of France after spending half your life in Galveston and you’ll understand.
zalgotext@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Imagine making a radical life change based on a week-long vacation
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 days ago
More, spending a month abroad looking for a better place and striking gold.
echodot@feddit.uk 5 days ago
Yeah but that’s not dating that’s a hookup. Completely different ball game. Much easier to maintain a facade for a couple of days when both parties know that there is no potential for relationship.
Actual dating requires you to maintain for the long haul.
spionspion@lemmy.ml 5 days ago
Prepare for a changed experience. europe is hating the USA and US americans more and more every day. I get the ick when i hear americans on the street. Gtfo and kill trump.
quips@slrpnk.net 5 days ago
This is bad and you should actively attack these feelings. The majority of us despise this guy.
Honytawk@feddit.nl 5 days ago
The majority of you didn’t prevent this guy from leading your country, so sorry if we aren’t impressed.
sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 days ago
Unfortunately the way the US “democracy” works he didn’t need a majority, and still doesn’t have one.
Lowest approval rating of all time.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 days ago
It’s exactly as you say, people in France and some other places in southern Europe like italy and spain actually know how to treat women properly. and they don’t even have “feminism” (i.e. forced smiles and if you don’t behave you go to jail) there. What they have is common sense and centuries of experience with how to actually treat women well.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 days ago
they don’t even have “feminism”
I mean, they do have feminism. The trick to understanding feminism is to recognize how it benefits both genders when the walls of segregation and elitism come down.
Once you’re able to treat each other as peers, rather than income streams or commodities, you develop the kind of common sense they enjoy.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 days ago
what comes first: the common sense or feminism?
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Tourist hunters. They know the game. They aren’t the norm.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
It’s a two way street. Some people need to go to some completely different place to relax enough, and some other people bet on tourists being relaxed enough.
I even remember that kind of effect from school, during school time I would always get into fights with kids that I was happily hanging around with in the holidays.
AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Tourist hunters are different. They know France is, for some reason, the first worldwide destination and flock here to steal your wallets. They’ll be on the steps to the Sacré Cœur to tie a bit of string around your wrist while a comparse grabs your wallet, you’ keys, your underwear and your toupee.