Look into freezing sperm now while you’re young and it’s squirmy and spermy and healthy. Then you can get the snip (or the no-snip method) and when you do want kids you won’t be ruining your sex life with scheduled sessions. She can get inseminated when the ultrasound shows an ovum is waiting and it’ll have a better chance of conception. Go in with her if you can and she’s comfortable with that. Just as you will for the birth.
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Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 23 hours agoMy guy I am 23. I kinda want kids at a later date.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 22 hours ago
swampdownloader@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 hours ago
“Ruining your sex life with scheduled sessions”? Oh no I have to fuck a lot, woe is me
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 21 hours ago
It sounds like fun but having gone through it for a couple of years, it’s not. There’s times of abstinence and times when it’s all about impregnation, not spontaneity or fun. She’s constantly watching her cycle, and every period is extra depressing. And that’s not counting any infertility treatments like hormones fucking with emotions. Our now-adult offspring are amazing and I’m glad we did it, but it wasn’t just “fuck a lot.”
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 22 hours ago
I think I can live with using condoms to be completely honest. I do intend to get a vasectomy after I either have kids or decide that I don’t want them.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 21 hours ago
Condoms are cool, all the ladies love a man who uses condoms.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
…really?
looks around world
…why?
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
I dunno. Things might change. I also don’t wanna grow old alone.
TheBat@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
Why are you expecting your kids to be your caretakers?
And what if they move to another country for work? You’re still growing old alone.
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
I am not. I just see how much better my grandparents lives are with their kids and grandkids that they get to see often.
Not as alone as if I never had any family. I also have 2 brothers so they might have kids and worse case scenario they remember I exist.
Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 19 hours ago
As someone who isn’t going to have kids and doesn’t want them, I still get the growing old alone concern.
It’s not that I would have wanted children to take care of me, but that I don’t trust the social safety system in the U.S.
Even if things are going well, it’s still a terrifying proposition. My first job ever was as a dietary aid at a mid-level retirement home, and while some of the people there were thriving (namely the folks who somehow managed to go into the home with their partners), the majority were a study of what happens when the ability to live exceeds the will. It was a formative experience.
And why I’m in therapy and desperately scared that between neurodivergence and trauma, that I’m not going to be one of those really social old people with friends everywhere that care for them and keep them company. Although I think it’s not a given that kids will automatically be there for you as you age, I can see the appeal of doing what you can to hedge your bets. It’s a terrifying world out there, and we only have each other.