Monument

@Monument@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Donald Trump Said He Promised Ivanka He Wouldn't Date Girls Younger Than Her | “So as she grows older, the field is getting very limited.” 😬⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  He had also been dating Milenia for about a year when he said this, and was also not fully divorced from Marla Maples (though they were separated).

  Bastion of morality, that one.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Don't do it, we all care about you⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Weirdly, I saw Mike Ehrmantraut

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨LICENSE TO KILL⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s inferred.

  There’s a whole subset of people for whom that statement would be an expression of endearment.

  I would more just assume some people have a playful relationship with their partners and the subject of neurodiversity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨you are a snack :)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  A real treat for the right raccoon, possum, bear, or Grouch.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is lemmy.sdf.org running poorly for anyone else?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Definitely slow.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perspective⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s a curtain rod to a window midway up the stairs. We’re looking down a flight of steep older stairs. The mattress is lit by the window that is (mostly) under the rod, and by an open door at the bottom of the stairs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Genius⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A gentleman of the streets.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Genius⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  $37.50 an hour to talk to a minimum of 6 strangers that want something from me and think I can deliver it for them?

  I’d rather be an urban outdoorsman.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Was surprised by these stats⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My finger hurts and I spent the last of my gumption posting this comment.

  Go on without me. Text my wife. Tell her I’ll be

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Was surprised by these stats⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s weird that 4 people are in there for rape.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Like - I’m excited about sensors that uses higher frequency versions of this for health monitoring. I think that’s a perfectly valid use. But also, in my use, I’d be installing it as an IoT device on a network I control, feeding data to services I own.

  This use - where it’s opt in for now, until they figure out how to monetize selling how much time you spend in front of the TV, in the kitchen, bedroom, or bathroom (paired with ‘anonymized’ data about what you’re looking at online in each space) is creepy as fuck.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Trump Administration is Building a National Citizenship Data System; State and county election officials can now check the citizenship status of their entire voter lists.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Why this is unneeded

  Citizenship is already required to vote in state and federal elections. Every state currently maintains its own voter rolls. These voter rolls are administered at the state level and how citizenship is proved occurs according to state laws.

  Why this is bad

  This database represents a breach of state autonomy to administer their elections.
  Some localities do not require citizenship to vote. This database could disenfranchise voters in those localities.
  This represents a huge target for hackers, and given that every municipality will have access to it, there are a lot of potential ways in which it could be compromised or manipulated. The federal government is rife with inaccurate information, and is often understaffed to address the issue. These issues can and will disenfranchise voters. States and municipalities are better equipped to handle their voter rolls.

  How this will be abused

  This database will be used to both verify citizenship, and for election officials to upload who is registered to vote in a given electoral area. This will lead to its usage to disqualify people who are registered in multiple areas. If - 31 days before an election, someone uploads a list of conservative or liberal voters from a purple area such as Florida or Ohio to the rolls of another state using hacked credentials, then it’s very possible those people will be disqualified from voting and may not know until they try to cast their ballot - shifting the balance of the election.
  With the Supreme Court recently discarding birthright citizenship without clarifying who qualifies for citizenship, a sufficiently malicious actor could ensnarl the electoral and legal system with arbitrary claims that people’s parents were not U.S. citizens.
  Invariably, the data from this will be used to stalk hapless people — either by electoral workers, or by anyone, once it has been hacked.
  And, speculatively - what happens if the scope of this morphs to a ‘voter eligibility’ database, where it tries to ascertain if someone is eligible to vote on additional criterion, such as criminal history? Will it be plagued with errors, such as not registering expunged records, or applying one state’s laws to another?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Literally this community⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Honestly, all the childhood trauma has given me an incredible sense of humor. Practice makes perfect!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lämp⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m genuinely confused. Do furries who style themselves after dragons, lizards, and snakes not refer to themselves as scalies?

  Did I get taken by a meme like a decade ago and just decided that was canon?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yes, this is what people did back then⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  First consensual experience. My usage of the word molested earlier downplays things a bit – we had full penetrative sex, but I was 6 years old. It’s something that occurred dozens of times. It’s not the only time I was sexually abused as a kid by someone older, but it’s the one I’ll mention.
  Not very much later than that very first experience, I had a rather thorough introduction to pornography. My parents split up, my mom moved far away, taking us with her. After she kicked her drug habit, she became a workaholic and put in 80-hour workweeks. Another kid at our apartment complex had a “cool mom” who figured that her preteen was going to get his hands on porn, so she had some available that I guess was okay by her. He then showed it to everyone - including my then 8-or 9-year-old self.

  Honestly - I think I did alright. We had several multi-hour long trysts, usually one to two a weekend for at least a month (probably more like 2 months) until she moved in/we got caught. I don’t know if I knew what I was doing, skill wise, but she did, and I’m able to have multiple orgasms/erections, so like if one pops off (and they did with way less control back then), it wasn’t a mood killer. Plus, I think I lead off that initial encounter by trying to eat her out. I’m sure we talked and found stuff that worked for her. But maybe not? I don’t know. She kept coming back and wanted more. I assumed that was satisfaction - although it could have been whatever her emotional damage was.

  A lot of it for both of us may have been the completely open embrace of each other without any kind of guile or awareness that we were, you know, being gigantic emotionally destructive idiots. As well as being fairly risky on contraception. Woof. Rhythm method most of the time. I’m sure she grew up to be a lovely person, but man, what a mess we could have made of our lives.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lämp⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No, you’re good. I think I was reading too much into your comment/crotchity first thing in the morning.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yes, this is what people did back then⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It was weird times. I mean, great. But weird and great to my half-cooked, traumatized, and hormone-addled teenage brain.

  She was my sister’s best friend at the time and, well, physically she was like the girl who’d molested me as a child, which definitely had (and still has) an impact on my physical preferences.
  I don’t exactly know what her deal was, but I think it was that any male attention just short-circuited her. I recall her telling me she loved me after a few weekends of sneaking around, and after about a month, spinning a yarn as pretext to try to move in with us.

  It’s probably a good thing we got caught a day or so after she moved in. Stupid football game. It pushed some TV show back, and my mom/sisters stayed up late to watch it. My sister (her best friend) came downstairs to check in on her and caught us in bed.

  As for the how - I don’t know. I was an awkward gangly teenager, and she was honestly a pretty attractive girl. She had some self-confidence issues, I think.
  It was like the first day she’d come over for a sleepover. I had never met her - my sister befriended her when we were in foster care, so this was not unusual - and I was instantly into her. I have no idea if she picked up on that or not. We were watching movies (me, 2 of my sisters, and her). The couches were occupied, and so I had a pallet on the floor. So did she. Our feet were under the big couch, hidden by the little skirt that all couches had back then, heads pointing toward the TV. I thought I felt her foot touch mine (but it was probably wishful thinking). I edged my foot over, discovering the distance between us was way too far for her to have accidentally touched me, and sort of bonked her foot with mine while awkwardly exploring. I pulled back just slightly and she immediately pressed her foot against mine. Footsie lead some sneaky suggestive glances, then surreptitiously bridging our blankets together and doing our best to conceal our roving hands. At one point during a bathroom break everyone had left the room, she told me her intentions, and I was very okay with them. We made a plan - I was going to go to bed, and she was going to find me after everyone was asleep. (She was sleeping in a guest room that was conveniently located - my bedroom was in the basement.) And that was that.

  She used to page me with “143” (code for I love you - which I don’t think either of us could know what that actually meant) and I used to page her back with same. We were so dumb and teenager-y. It was fun, but unhealthy. I didn’t get enough positive attention, and this sort of reinforced a belief that I could only be of service to someone sexually. If I wasn’t serving someone sexually, I wasn’t of value emotionally - another formative belief that was maybe not the best and is still hard to shake.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lämp⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not sure how to respond here. Obviously it’s a reference to the leg lamp. That was never in question.

  I was responding to the alt text of the image that called it a furry rendition, saying it was a probably better akin to a scaly rendition.

  But if we’re going to try to out-pedantic each other here, I’d like to know if it’s common for lions or tigers to have non-retractable claws and a rearward facing first toe with a claw (which has been styled in the lamp above)?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lämp⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That is fishnet tights — I meant that t-rex’s are scaly in general.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lämp⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Seems less furry and more scaly. Also. I love it. I want a t-Rex leg lamp.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yes, this is what people did back then⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Am I a grown adult that wakes up in a foster care home and the child that was there previously is gone?
  Do I have to spend the rest of my life without an identity, or clinging to the “delusion” that I was this child that mysteriously disappeared?

  Am I a child with 40 years of life experience?
  Not long after, When I was 14, my first consensual sexual experience involved an 18-year-old. We got caught, and folks widely regard/regarded her as being inappropriate/in the wrong. Huh. First girlfriend, high school dances/romances. College. Jesus - every relationship basically forever.
  If I proceed down the same path, does that mean I’m the creep now?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Interesting way to deal with people who have had enough⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I dated a girl with a very Italian last name for a number of years. She said that ‘back in the day’ certain parts of her family were connected in our city. Laughed it off, because that was history. Her dad was never involved, and her grandpa was only a little involved, I guess, and… whatever. It just wasn’t a thing in their lives and hadn’t really been a thing in our city since like the 70’s.

  We took a trip to NYC, and after eating at this lovely hole-in-the-wall Italian restaurant, she paid. After seeing the name on the CC, the whole vibe sort of changed. Staff got shy. A manager came over to offer us a big discount on our food, and free dessert.
  My GF understood it, I guess, and told him that we were from out of town and didn’t have any family in town. After a very brief pause, the manager said something like “Oooh. It must have been another table that complained about their food…” They still gave us free dessert for the mix-up (we were already going to order dessert - it’s not like we were pretending to be mini-mafiosos out there).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Front Brake Lights Could Drastically Diminish Road Accident Rates⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel that in my area the driving culture has become so toxic that there’s a better than average chance that indicating a lane change (which I always do) will lead to the vehicle in the lane you’re attempting to change into accelerating to prevent you from ‘getting in front of them.’
  It’s so frustrating (and dangerous!). It seems that a lot of folks feel entitled to the road, or the patch of road in front of their car fro as long as the eye can see, and are willing to behave irrationally regarding it.

  I feel that telegraphing that your vehicle is slowing down (for any purpose) will lead to overconfidence or even willful misunderstanding by other drivers. A careful slow-down will turn to panic as they try to take advantage of the situation. I also think that drivers will focus on the vehicles too much, and will not focus on things like pedestrians or perhaps why your car is slowing down, and wind up contributing to the problem.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The 5 stages of Charles Manson⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I love Lemmy.

  So. Honestly, I’m in over my head on a couple projects that I thought were going to be “easy enough.”

  I’m new to the entire “type” of project I’m building - ESP32’s with displays. The starter project is a ‘magic 8 ball.’ I have one of these already and figure the gyro/accelerometer can capture the shake/flip motion. The more complex one is intended to be backed by ESPHome and use a motion sensor/Bluetooth presence detection to deliver customized messages in addition to providing smart home control.

  In the course of trying to figure them out, it’s become apparent I’m going to have to learn/use LVGL for the graphics. I haven’t yet gotten to LVGL and I already am on the struggle bus.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Peak masculinity⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  And ears so big they can be used as handles. For reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MEGA PENGUIN⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I was planning to, but work has been hell today. I’ve barely had any time to shitpost.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Self-Driving Tesla Fails School Bus Test, Hitting Child-Size Dummies… Meanwhile, Robo-Taxis Hit the Road in 2 Weeks.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Ope, now I regret deleting my edited explanation! That is an excellent response to my accidental comment.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Self-Driving Tesla Fails School Bus Test, Hitting Child-Size Dummies… Meanwhile, Robo-Taxis Hit the Road in 2 Weeks.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My immediate thought was “That’s not all they’re going to be hitting…”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The 5 stages of Charles Manson⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d be fine with it, but my wife barely likes men. There’s no way I could convince her to find me a gaming buddy.

  (I kid! I’d actually rather she find someone that knows C++.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For the U.S., the decisive blow came with the Citizens United ruling, although it’s not unreasonable to suggest the refusal to punish Nixon during watergate signaled that the rule of law was merely a suggestion. That kicked off a whole cascade of political and legal maneuvering to get both the legislative and societal landscape into such a contortion that it would willingly hand away the entire nation to vulture-capitalists.