Comment on Are there any Lemmy/Mbin instances by women for women?

• Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I give Ada a lot of credit. In the early days, I had the following interaction:

  TOPIC: Something about sexual/gender preferences, I don’t remember, asking people their preferences

  Me: responds with my preferences (I’m straight cis male, I like women so I’m down with post-transition trans women but pre-transition don’t turn me on)

  Some random user: respectfully asks if I would be willing to date a pre-transition trans man

  Me: I guess, but it probably wouldn’t work due to the fact that what I like about their body, they hate

  Some of those professionally offended people took a misleading screenshot of my response and started screaming about “chasers”.

  Ada did an admin post to the community backing me up and calling those idiots out.

  So unless she’s changed a lot, I don’t think she’s a troll. It would have been easy to go with the mob but she stuck up for me.

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  • vxx@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Still could be TERFS.

    I don’t have any knowledge of that instance, so I don’t want to put anything on them. That thought just came across reading your comment.

    I have made a mental remark in the past that the posts and users on this instance are better treated from afar, though.

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    • blind3rdeye@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      It’s pretty harsh to just casually suggest that a person be a TERF without any specific evidence.

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• AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  They also turn a blind eye to misandry.

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  • Irelephant@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    You are part of the reason lemmy is unpopular with women.

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    • callyral@pawb.social ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      i dont understand, please explain further. if blahaj mods have ignored misandry, that would be a bad thing. hate is generally regarded as bad, and misandry is hatred of men. therefore, misandry should be generally regarded as bad.

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      • blind3rdeye@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        That’s true on face value. The issue is that accusations of misandry are almost always unfounded, and only made as a way to deflect and to attack women. So when people start talking about misandry, that’s generally a red flag.

        It’s similar to how “all lives matter” is definitely a true and good value - but yet it is almost always said as a way to divert support away from vulnerable groups. So although the literal meaning is good, it is fair to assume that people saying it do not have good intentions.

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      • Irelephant@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        You are right, but what he is calling misandry is not misandry, and so many people like him think misandry is the bigger problem now.

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    • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      If women have to be misandristic, then I’m quite happy to exclude bigots

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      • Irelephant@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Would you mind giving me some examples of the misandry? To see what you are talking about.

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• sudo@programming.dev ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  The pronoun was just “drag”. PJ is the one who kept calling them “dragonfucker”. You can go read dragonriders comments instead of just repeating gossip.

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  • bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

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    They imply the fucker part themselves, it’s part of their troll

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  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    They are a troll and you are enabling them to harrass your community.

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    • sudo@programming.dev ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      They were already banned for other trolling behavior, just not because they used neopronouns. Please get an actual bearing on reality.

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      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Sorry I’m not allowed to use that space because I called a troll a troll before the Admins felt like doing their fucking jobs.

        I’m not going back now, blahaj is a cess pool controlled by trolls.

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• KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  “dragonfucker” and “attack helicopter”

  i mean, if they’re doing it as a haha funny, i see no harm, but if they’re also being assholes, i think that takes precedent. You aren’t legally required to fill in your gender tagging appropriately so.

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  • TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    They are an asshole though, a serial pot stirring drama seeking troll that gets people banned for reacting to their ragebait. Yeah I identify as a refurbished ebike and you must relearn English to refer to me, and you only rather not because you agree with literal genocide. Funny!

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    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      lmao good meme, sounds like a mess ngl.

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  • boonhet@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I haven’t seen the attack helicopter and the joke is pretty damn old tbh, but drag at least is/was kinda funny. Drag’s profile specified that drag’s pronoun is “drag” in not just third, but also first and second person, which is an interesting concept. Drag also stayed in character in drag’s posts. Drag didn’t ever really bother people with the whole thing IMO.

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    • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      yeah, it’s a dead beat joke, it’s come around to the point now where you can do it ironically and nobody cares. Though i guess you could still just be an asshole at that point lmao.

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