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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you create/moderate a community on a instance other than your own?⁩ ⁨⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Reports federate, in a limited way. They federate to the instance the community is hosted on, the instance the reported user is hosted on, the instance the reporting user is hosted on (well technically, it doesn’t federate to the last one, as that is where it started). I don’t believe that a report will federate to a remote instance that doesn’t meet one of those criteria, even if it hosts a moderator for the community, but I’m not certain about this one.

  Either way, report resolutions don’t directly federate, so resolving a report doesn’t resolve it on the other instances. It looks like they federate, because post removal from a mod federates, and removing a post auto closes the report. However, a report that was spurious or a troll or whatever that isn’t going to be actioned, has to be manually closed down on each instance it federates to.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the name of the sexuality of being into the opposite gender and willing to date the same gender but not finding anyone of the same gender attractive?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m panromantic, but attracted to men, however I only date women. My partner is a woman :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the name of the sexuality of being into the opposite gender and willing to date the same gender but not finding anyone of the same gender attractive?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.

  For me, it’s about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don’t do with my friends, and aren’t things that I’m looking for from my friends.

  Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I’m not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don’t seek it out, and I don’t miss it. Yet, it’s also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it’s very much something I’m happy to share with my partner.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the name of the sexuality of being into the opposite gender and willing to date the same gender but not finding anyone of the same gender attractive?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s pretty much me. I don’t really have a name for it. I just call myself queer, or sometimes panromantic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why can't we go back to small phones?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Phones are already too small. I use a fold because it’s the only way I can get a decent sized phone now!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Jellyfin is not just good... but *better* than Plex now?!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, it does

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why doesn't phones numbers have a "DNS" servet so we can just type in words like we do with the internet?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Like a phone book?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Radical Feminism⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re inspired by an actively transphobic reddit community?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No p zombies here!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Meaning/implication of “you don’t have to do this” in this context?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It means that the person you are talking to believes that you’re just making polite conversation because you’re uncomfortable with silence. They are letting you know that they would prefer you didn’t make conversation, because they prefer silence to idle chatter.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have very good spatial awareness, but it’s non visual. I can navigate my way mentally through a spaxe and “feel” where the walls are without seeing them. I have a sense of how big something is compared to something else and where they are relative to each other in space, but all non visually.

  And I can rotate objects in my mind and change my perspective around them, but all without any visual elements.

  I can sense the mental cube, but I can’t see it. It has no colour, no texture etc. Imagine a sort of mental bat sonar?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No, I don’t get a sense of awe or beauty from reading things. I can appreciate when the folks I’m reading about experience those emotions, but I don’t feel them, because there is nothing to inspire them in me.

  Which is why I tend to prefer books that go in to more depth about what people are thinking and feeling than books that go in to lots of visual detail

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The words have no sound. No volume, no pitch. They’re word ideas not words. I don’t hear anything, I just understand the words.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I can think of words, I just don’t think I’m words. And when I think of a word I can run them together in a sentence. But they have no “sound”. They don’t have volume or pitch, they don’t sound like anyone, they’re just the idea of words. And because the words are after the fact, they don’t exist without me willing them in to existence. So no monologue in the way people describe it, and the idea of a conversation in my head doesn’t make sense. It would be more like writing a script for a conversation

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Like most folk with aphantasia, I thought that people talking about “seeing things in their imagination” were just being dramatic and using common language. It never occurred to me that they could genuinely see things in their minds. And the whole thing where people would be upset when a character in a TV show or movie didn’t look like how they’d imagined they would look, never made sense to me. And shows where people could recall the details of peoples faces for police sketch artists…

  Basically, moments like that started adding up over my life, and then about 10 years ago, I read an article from someone who had discovered they had aphantasia through a similar path, and it all just fell in to place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who here does NOT have intrusive thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have aphantasia and no internal monologue, and a side benefit of that is that intrusive thoughts aren’t really a thing

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to mute posts containing certain keywords on Lemmy?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I know tesseract (an alternative front end) does. And I know that I’ve used mobile apps with that functionality before, but honestly, I don’t remember which ones had the feature and which ones didn’t, because I never used the feature, and these days, I even use tesseract on my phone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to mute posts containing certain keywords on Lemmy?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There are 3rd party apps and alternative Web front ends with that ability

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨FediDB has stoped crawling until they get robots.txt support⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yep!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨FediDB has stoped crawling until they get robots.txt support⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Gotosocial has a setting in development that is designed to baffle bots that don’t respect robots.txt. FediDB didn’t know about that feature and thought gotosocial was trying to inflate their stats.

  In the arguments that went back and forth between the devs of the apps involved, it turns out that FediDB was ignoring robots.txt. ie, it was badly behaved

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Some people are academically gifted. Your flatmates experience was similar to mine, except as well as acing the exams, I failed the written piece assignments that I couldn’t just throw together the day before they were due.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not federated Lemmy instances?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  They were running a self maintained fork of lemmy that wasn’t compatible, though I don’t know if that was the original reason

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not federated Lemmy instances?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Hexbear was the only instance with a sizable user base that used to do this, but these days they federate too

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastodon's federation consistency is laughably bad.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What’s different about the fediverse is that I can pick an instance and know that the admins who run it will ban bigots, rather than just leaving the bigots alone, and telling me to ignore them.

  That’s a pretty important distinction to me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PieFed, a FOSS Feed Aggregator alternative to Lemmy, but faster⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you can find a lemmy trans flag theme that we can easily import, I’m all ears :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastodon's federation consistency is laughably bad.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Bluesky has basically no moderation. What it has is really good user level blocking and the ability to share those block lists with others.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Great Migration to Bluesky Gives Me Hope for the Future of the Internet⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Bluesky just got major investment from a crypto bro…

  It’s not flukey…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why are people preferring Blue Sky over Mastodon?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Because it pretends to be different to the centralised corporate social media platforms

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How long do you think we'll keep seeing "formerly Twitter"?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Just call it the X social media site

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Imagine my surprise when “What could Hamas do to end the violence” wasn’t just an innocent question…