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- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
This is all an interesting hypothetical to you. To me, it’s my lived life. Trust me, I’ve done what you’re talking about. I was active in /r/changemyview, and I’ve spent a lot of time having this discussion with people on social media.
And in that time, not a single person has changed their perspective or view on the topic. Because they already had a view, and despite the ostensible goal of the sub, they’re largely not open to changing their view. They may want to, but they’re not actually willing to change it. Because ultimately, people arrived at their “concerns” through emotional manipulation, and that can’t be undone by “rational discussion”. Like sure, maybe you’re the single exception, and in my 5+ years of having this discussion, you might be the first to genuinely change your opinion. But even then, after 5 years of normalising the idea that my rights are up for discussion, as if it’s actually ok for people to want them removed because of their “concerns”, I’d have a single changed mind in 5 years.
But you know what else I’ve done in those 5 years? I’ve told every other person that I’ve had this discussion with that it’s actually ok to debate my rights, that whether or not I deserve rights is based on how well I can debate and argue. And I’ve given the bigots driving this whole discussion exactly what they wanted, which is to make myself a target.
Fuck that.
So what does it say about me? It says I’ve got more lived experience in navigating this topic than you ever will, and I’m no longer willing to see “civil discussion” on the erasure of peoples rights, in the pointless hope that it will actually help us. Because it doesn’t.
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
That argument would be torn apart pretty easily
Sure. The argument can be torn apart. But that doesn’t change anything. What changes when you make those sorts of arguments is simply that it gives a green light to pushing back against marginalised people.
If argument being torn apart was enough, the argument against trans folk in sport wouldn’t even be an argument. But it is, because there is a political interest in creating harmful narratives about trans folk, and using exclusion from sport as a wedge to normalise exclusion in other areas. Which is exactly what is happening.
So if you’re ok with that sort of question, I think you need to spend a bit more time looking at the context those questions exist in. Why is it now that people want to suddenly talk about trans people in sports. It’s not because the trans folk have been doing anything different. It’s because there is an explicit motivation to create a culture war, with trans folk as the targets. You shouldn’t be ok with being part of that.
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
I’m not asking you to argue about it. I explicitly don’t want people arguing about it, which I was hoping my previous comment would make clear.
There are people out there that were raised a certain way that want to change or perhaps have questions due to ignorance on the topic. By being combative, you’re doing more harm than good for something you clearly care about.
If someone turns against all trans people because they encounter a single angry trans person, then they were just looking for an excuse to justify what they already felt.
And it’s not my job to play nice with the people trying to erase my rights in the hope that maybe, just maybe, they’ll stop what they’re doing! That doesn’t work. That has never worked. Every single civil right gain has been made by pushing back.
So thanks for the advice, but I’ll keep pushing back
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
So, you’d like to argue for the validity of excluding a vulnerable group, in the middle of a world spanning hate campaign against that exact group?
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
So, you’d be ok with someone arguing that maybe a discussion about racism is warranted, because sometimes, a bit of racism is warranted?
Or is that only ok when it’s trans people?
'cause if you want logical and consistent, that’s something you need to ask yourself. Why is it that folk are quite willing to discuss the erasure of rights of just one class of people, when it’s not something you’d even consider talking about with most other groups?
There is no consistency in that desire, it’s not driven by a desire to be logically consistent. This is driven by political interests and think tanks trying to create social divide. It’s not a co-incidence that you just want to consider the logical merits or trans folk, right now, at this moment in history.
Until you’re willing to face the reasons behind that, and the impact your social context has on you, you can’t be logically consistent.
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
What do you want changed then?
- Comment on New to lemmy. Is there a version of /r/changemyview? 1 week ago:
Also, if you come in expecting to debate for the removal of trans rights, you won’t last long
- Comment on That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing 1 week ago:
Put it behind a reverse proxy!
- Comment on That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing 1 week ago:
I guess I haven’t noticed that. The non technically literate folk I know use smart TVs, or can download Jellyfin from an app store. Then they just use the URL when the app asks for it.
There’s no other configuring to do on their end.
- Comment on That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing 1 week ago:
As long as the technical person does all of the setup on their end, the non technical person only has to enter a domain and port in their jellyfin client.
- Comment on A load of mastodon users think groups are just autoboost accounts. 2 weeks ago:
That’s because from a mastodon perspective, that’s what they are!
They’re basically the same thing as gup.pe groups to them
- Comment on Why is my community modding everyone who comments? 2 weeks ago:
You are the only moderator of both communities you moderate, so it sounds like a display bug
- Comment on Do British people say "brr" when they're cold? If so, how do they pronounce the R? 2 weeks ago:
I’m Australian. I say something closer to “buh”, but I introduce vibrato to the sound down near my vocal cords, rather than by trilling the R in my mouth
- Comment on Endurain is a self-hosted fitness tracking service designed to give users full control over their data and hosting environment 3 weeks ago:
Is it federated/does it have social elements?
- Comment on Which Lemmy instances have signups without registration? 3 weeks ago:
Instances that don’t have email approval, captcha or manual approval, tend to get defederated pretty quickly, because they attract spam bots
- Comment on How much are additional lemmy instances needed/wanted beyond what we have at present? 5 weeks ago:
just dicking around on my own for testing purposes.
Start with this, and if it gets traction, you can always move it to a more serious setup.
That’s pretty much what happened with this instance
- Comment on No background, AMA 5 weeks ago:
Did you deliberatelyskip the background section when you were doing character creation or was it accidental? Do you regret this character configuration? Would you create the same character if you were starting again?
- Comment on A 'US-Made iPhone' Is Pure Fantasy 5 weeks ago:
Yes, I can hear you Clem Fandango
- Comment on Interviews with Australians about segregated swimming pools [1965] 5 weeks ago:
She was young, still a kid, raised in the country, and going to school in one of the most racist towns in Australia. She had only turned up to go to the pool and go swimming with some friends. She wasn’t there for the Freedom Ride or the protest, so it all caught her by surprise. It was stumbling in to the protest, and seeing all of the folk that had turned out for it, pushing back against racism that made her realise that racism doesn’t have to be “just the way it is”.
Unfortunately, Moree is still a racist, bigoted place, with deeply entrenched inequality. The segregation is still there, it’s just social now, instead of legal.
- Comment on Interviews with Australians about segregated swimming pools [1965] 5 weeks ago:
My mum was in Moree to visit the pool on the day the Freedom Ride arrived there. She was 16 at the time, and she’s always told me the impact it had on her!
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 5 weeks ago:
What in USA is considered “left” more-or-less align with what is considered left outside of USA
What is considered left in the USA is largely considered center or center right outside of the USA
- Comment on YouTube removes 'gender identity' from hate speech policy 5 weeks ago:
Hey. I’m learning Spanish, I’m a volunteer, and I run and cycle on the regular!
Somehow, that doesn’t stop you sounding like a bigot though…
- Comment on Organic Maps migrates to Forgejo due to GitHub account blocked by Microsoft. 1 month ago:
kind of how AOSP is for Android)
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
You don’t “confirm” it. It’s an attempt to describe a system/outcome. It’s a model of a system, not the system itself and no model is perfect, because all models are our attempt to understand and describe things, and there is no such thing as perfect understanding.
However, it’s a highly accurate model, that explains things very well. So, either we will find that one day, we make a brand new, better model (this seems unlikely given the accuracy of the current model, but possible). Or, more likely, we continue to come to a better understanding of the system, and improve the model we use to describe it.
- Comment on Why are Maries Sues hated while Gary Stus are loved? 1 month ago:
I think this thread of replies largely denying it happens, or arguing as for why there’s a good reason that it happens should give you an idea why the issue happens in the first place.
- Comment on Sharing posts across instances 2 months ago:
And smart clients/UIs like tesseract realise that the link is to a remote lemmy instance, and then give you the option of viewing it remotely or from your own instances perspective
- Comment on Discord in Early Talks With Bankers for Potential I.P.O. 2 months ago:
On the horizon? They crossed that horizon a long time ago. It’s just going to accelerate now
- Comment on fedi 4chan? 2 months ago:
Any place with anonymous/ephermal account and posts as the default is going to attract the worst people in the world…
- Comment on Can you create/moderate a community on a instance other than your own? 2 months ago:
Reports federate, in a limited way. They federate to the instance the community is hosted on, the instance the reported user is hosted on, the instance the reporting user is hosted on (well technically, it doesn’t federate to the last one, as that is where it started). I don’t believe that a report will federate to a remote instance that doesn’t meet one of those criteria, even if it hosts a moderator for the community, but I’m not certain about this one.
Either way, report resolutions don’t directly federate, so resolving a report doesn’t resolve it on the other instances. It looks like they federate, because post removal from a mod federates, and removing a post auto closes the report. However, a report that was spurious or a troll or whatever that isn’t going to be actioned, has to be manually closed down on each instance it federates to.
- Comment on What is the name of the sexuality of being into the opposite gender and willing to date the same gender but not finding anyone of the same gender attractive? 2 months ago:
I’m panromantic, but attracted to men, however I only date women. My partner is a woman :)