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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is laying on your stomach every once in a while good for you?⁩ ⁨⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  How on earth are you reading while lying on your stomach??

  Anecdotally, I had a quenching desire to lie on my stomach after giving birth. Like, I was exhausted and sleep deprived and you could have told me that this would kill me and I’d still sleep on my stomach in the hospital. I later looked it up and apparently lying on your stomach helps with the back formation of the uterus.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's weird looking back at life, and seeing all the paths I didn't go down⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I often regret a lot of decisions and long for the paths I didn’t take. Then I remember that I was very likely to take a path that would have gotten me killed. Be it through rape, accident, suicide, or - most likely - by drinking myself to death. My life right now isn’t what I thought it would be, a lot of things didn’t turn out as I had yearned for, but it is a nice life and I am so grateful. So when I get sad about the missed opportunities, I try to humble myself and be grateful and impressed by what I have achieved. I didn’t die. And if I think about what deep pit I got out of, then my “life career” is so much steeper than a lot of people’s. Going from the mariana trench to the coast is quite a climb, even if you’re just at sea level at the end.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What life hack helped you this year?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Can I suggest putting some frozen kale or spinach in it as well? For extra veggies and taste. We basically cook that every week and I love it. Granted, I put a tad more effort into it (stir fry onion and garlic and tomato paste before I add rice, lentils, greens and broth) but it’s basically the same.

  Also try adding soy sauce, smoked paprika, and liquid smoke. Just a drop but it does wonders. Yeast flakes are also great.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Insulin⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I am so, so sorry about your loss. I’m glad to hear that you were able to feel a beacon of hope last year, and that this painting was a way for you to cling on to it and feel it a little longer. I hope you find a way to keep holding on to it, and through that hope find the courage to not give up and try to support change instead whenever you can and have the strength and energy to do so. But I can’t even imagine how hard that must be. And most of all, carry the love you had for your mom in your heart despite the grief, and the disgust and hate for the system that led to her demise quicker than it had to be.

  I hope you don’t mind if I save that picture of yours.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Insulin⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Making an AI meme of Luigi as a Saint is one thing.

  Making a painting and having it casually displayed in your room is a whole other level.

  Also, I can’t believe it’s already been a year.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not to get all religous but was not Jesus pissed for people making money in churches? Didn't he flip tables and everything? Then how do churches nowadays explain the collection plate?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Just want to say I love comments like yours. I love when people know their stuff about the bible (or other holy texts) and can put it into a reflected context. Thank you

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MAGA, splitting hairs.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I see your point about distraction from the matter, and I agree there. At the same time I am very bothered by the media coverage saying pedophile 99% of the time. Because, as you have mentioned in your first two paragraphs, pedophilia is a disorder, and not every pedophile/ephebophile/hebephile is an offender or consumes CSM. They should be calling them child rapists, sex offenders who raped minors, whatever. At least in Epstein’s case you can reasonably assume he did, indeed, have a sexual disorder, I’m not sure if it is true for all his clients. But they all are child sex offenders, there is no doubt about that.

  Language matters. The last decade was putting such an emphasis on this, but with this case a lot of people seem to agree that “language distracts”. Let it be vague, everyone knows what is meant. Don’t distract from the important matter by being specific about the words you use. Well, I disagree, and I disagree not because it is ephebophilia or hebephilia, I disagree because a) It’s not about the …philia, it is about the offenses committed, and thus b) there are more precise terms that should be used in this case, and these terms (child rapist, statutory rape, child sex trafficker, etc) sound much harsher anyway. Also c) you are working against the interest of non offending pedophiles here and dismantle any awareness there is about everything you had pointed out above. Language matters for them as well.

  I’m lucky enough to have a very bland, healthy sexual orientation and preference, but I do have a kid, and God knows I want to protect her from harm.

  For this, I need people who are attracted to minors to be open about it, and they won’t be if we run with torches after them for just their orientation, or if we keep calling every person who offended a minor a pedophile. They won’t be open or seek help, and the discourse right now is incredibly counterproductive.

  I also need people to be more aware that about half of sex offenses concerning minors are committed by people who have no attraction dysfunction. If it were so easy as to just “remove all the pedophiles” to stop child sex offenses.

  So, in my opinion, the response to “ackshually he’s not a pedophile” should be “you’re right, he sex trafficked and raped minors. Better now?”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨He's on a mission⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Then you’re definitely not from the Munich area

  Looking back to my first 20 years I wonder why tf we all thought it’s a great idea to bike through storms and blizzards instead of just walking

  That could be me at 18 years, 3:30 am, with way too much alcohol in my blood going home from the sbahn station after clubbing

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Perfect Picture of Helth⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Absolutely. Even if I make pizza from scratch with whole wheat flour and homemade sauce, the amount of vegetables I can reasonably put in/on it is so limited. If I want to mimic a typical pizza as it is served in Germany, I need about 2 mushrooms for the whole thing. Even with the sauce, there is just so much sauce I can put on the dough - and so many veggies I can put on it - before it just becomes a soaky pie. And this is nowhere near a ratio I can really approve of. Our usual dishes consist of 50-80% vegetables. With pizza, I feel like we are just eating 50-80% dough.

  Just because whole wheat is good, tomato sauce is good, veggies are good, and a bit of cheese is good, doesn’t mean the combo of it is anywhere near balanced and healthy. We usually balance it with a huge salad but honestly we just don’t like filling up on bread/dough, so we rarely eat pizza.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what is the best fruit to leave in a fridge?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Any particular reason it has to be in the fridge?

  The thing is, it is actually not recommended to store tropical fruit in the fridge. So mangos, bananas, kiwis… The other thing is that most fruit doesn’t need to be refrigerated and will still stay fresh at room temperature (assuming room temp is between 20-25°C).

  You can buy a bunch of green-yellow bananas and they will ripen throughout the week without going bad and leave them outside. Apples will last a long time outside of the fridge too - even in warmer/moister climates. So do citric fruit. Berries and grapes are probably the only thing I would refrigerate, as well as cut fruit. (Tbh I wouldn’t refrigerate berries either because that makes them lose their taste, so I’d just eat them right away. They are a fleeting breeze of summer that should be enjoyed within the blink of an eye.)

  Why do you need to limit yourself to one type of fruit? Idk your fruit portions, we eat so much fruit at home that I am shocked we haven’t died of fructose induced liver cirrhosis yet. So get some greener bananas (store outside) for Tuesday and Wednesday, grapes in the fridge for Thursday and Friday, and bring something fresh like a mango for Monday? And just have a sack of apples as an emergency. They, like, really don’t go bad. If you buy fruit that is not fully ripe yet, then as well, leave it outside, next to the apples ideally, and they will ripen by the middle/end of the week.

  Also, veggies?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what is the best fruit to leave in a fridge?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I, as well, store fruit in the fridge because of fruit flies.

  But man I hate cold fruit :(

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨iSweep⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It helps enormously, this was exactly what I was looking for! Thank you for pointing out the noise level, this is actually the other reason I hate vacuuming. I absolutely cannot stand these kinds of sounds and I want to at least be able to let the robot vacuum a room I am not in and not be bothered by it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨iSweep⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not sure what exactly regularly means when it comes to emptying, but if it is once or twice for a run of a 70 square meter apartment that is absolutely fine with me. With cleaning, I don’t mind once a day. Do you think that would be enough? Also, may I ask what model you are using? I’ve read so many professional reviews but somehow a stranger’s opinion on the internet feels more authentic xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨iSweep⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We are thinking of getting a roborock (any recommendations welcome). I don’t expect it to do a deep clean but as it is right now, we have a kid, and ergo, there is sand and crumbs everywhere. We live in a three room apartment. There is so much sand and dirt in the corridor oh my god. I vacuum it two times a day. And then there are crumbles everywhere. I just don’t want to feel like I am walking on literal egg shells most of the time. My back hurts from vacuuming so often and it is loud and unhandy. Will a roborock handle the superficial crumbs, dust, sand? If yes that is enough for me. I need it as an addition to regular cleaning, not as a substitute.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I love fucking pasta⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Can someone brave enough please FINALLY post the eventual tier list he comes up with

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Some People Can’t See Mental Images. The Consequences Are Profound⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ok your comment sounds a lot like what I am experiencing, now you got me interested in reading the whole article after all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Germany seeks deal with the Taliban to expedite expulsion of Afghan migrants⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m out of the loop on German politics

  Honestly, just continue to space out for about 3 years or so. Nothing good will come, anything good, any achievements of the past years are being actively reversed, and at that point it’s like a bingo card of dystopian Murphy’s law jit points.

  Just assume everything bad that you can think of with Germany is happening, is happening.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨For those who have all the right answers for the rest of us⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well I mean… A colorblind student at our university once pointed out that red green blindness causes you to see red laser pointers worse than green ones, and he had trouble seeing where it is being pointed at. Our prof got a green one the next day and has been using it ever since.

  There are also several color schemes that are disability friendly so that charts (diagrams and stuff) can be better read by colorblind people.

  So, the analogy doesn’t really work. Colorblind people get to dictate color schemes because that is how inclusion and a low barrier society works. Or am I missing the joke here?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gotta get those tickets!⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m in my city’s Share&Care chat and you wouldn’t believe how many people keep asking for sound cancelling headphones for their babies because they want to go to some concert

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gotta get those tickets!⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Baby carriers are expensive xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gotta get those tickets!⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s moronic, not gonna lie, but I just want to say, man, being the first one in my friend group to have had a kid, it was bonkers what I was invited to, with all seriousness. Concerts, house parties, clubs,… When I pointed out I have a 3 week old baby it was “just leave it with their dad for the night!” When I told them it was a fully breastfed baby it was “oh then just bring the baby! It’ll be fun!” When I tried to point out that I am exhausted, recovering, and am using any minute that I don’t tender to the baby to sleep - as did my partner - I got “oh wow I thought they mostly sleep lol, well ok then maybe next week at that other house party at the other end of the city? It will be full of people you don’t know and it starts at 10 pm, there will be beer but you can bring some hard liquor!”

  So, to heavily play devil’s advocate, maybe these are new parents that were pressured into being cool and staying the same despite having a baby… By outsiders or by themselves.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"I used to be with it"⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Why aren’t Normies speaking up

  I’m the most bland person you’ll ever meet and I kept all my CDs and DVDs. I would never buy something only as digital/cloud format that I couldn’t burn on a disc. It gave me anxiety from the beginning. I have multiple external storages with the same copies of photos and I still print the most precious ones out. I’ll have music and memories if the internet ever breaks down, I just need a power generator.

  I also absolutely don’t see physical copies of books, music, or movies, as clutter. Booklets in CDs are to die for, and I think it makes for great room decor. If I burn a CD I usually make some collage artwork as a cover to accompany the disc.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Banana⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t forget the pesticides that are so fucked up that the farmers end up infertile

  I can’t buy non organic bananas, I feel like I am castrating someone. But realistically probably organic also isn’t that much better.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i enjoy using drugs and that will never change⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I have to admit being and staying sober is much easier for me if I frame it as “it’s a period in my life where I want to be sober, I choose to be sober, that doesn’t mean I have pledged to stay sober until I die”, and allowing myself the idea of a future where I will drink again feels relieving - although I realize it will most likely not happen. So your sentiment with getting back on drugs at 60-70+ resonates with me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My body is a roadmap of pain⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh can I chime in with a question as well?

  What is that “and then there’s this fucking asshole” muscle? Because from the location that is exactly the asshole that got me hospitalized twice for intercostal neuralgia - once with an ambulance ride, highest doses of morphine (didn’t ease the pain and made me very sick and whiny), and an x ray because they assumed I had broken a rib bone.

  When I had my third attack I recognized it was that fucking thing again and that I could do nothing but wait it out for two days. I also realized there is a connection to emotional distress and it probably has a big psychosomatic factor. I hadn’t had a big attack in years but when I get distressed I still get pain in that stripe next to my spine. It gets tense just writing this out and remembering.

  I’ve given birth and with the biggest honesty and calm asked my partner to kill me during labor. The intercostal neuralgia was about 2% less painful than childbirth and I didn’t end up with a cute baby afterwards so it’s really not worth the pain. It’s cramping up to a point that I think the muscle will rip, then it goes away. After a couple of seconds again, cramp, can’t breathe, can’t talk, gone. For days. Nowadays it’s usually not that bad that I cannot breathe but WHAT IS THIS FUCKER and what can I do to strengthen it and, more importantly, to actively relax it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When you say you don't like linux on Lemmy⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  For real, I am even calling over friends for help to set up a Windows PC or a printer. I have absolutely no idea about technology and computers. I want something easy and mainstream because this way I have an easier time getting support. Two steps are one step too much. I have a lot of strengths but understanding tech is definitely not one of them. And frankly, I neither have the time nor interest to learn anything about it. I have a great respect for linux and I have fond memories of playing a game on my dad’s computer, but it’s not something that’s for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When a person gains weight and keeps the weight on for a long time, is that old fat in your body, or does the fat get replaced over time?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve studied nutrition science and we talked about what you described and yes, the blunt “truth” is that liposuction is the only reliable way to really get rid of “emptied fat cells”. There are a lot of things playing into the dreaded yo yo effect but the fact that it is much easier to refill emptied cells than to make new cells via division is definitely a big factor.

  (“Truth” is in “” because I dislike this term in a scientific context but english is my third language and it’s pretty late over here so I am struggling to find a better suited word)

  Good luck on your weight loss journey. It is an incredibly hard and brave one to take and I admire that you are trying.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨yin yang⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In our school in Germany there was an observation: students who do well in math usually have somewhat worse grades in statistics. While students who were bad at math often did better in statistics.

  In grade 12 and 13 it went like algebra, statistics, geometry, geometry (per semester). Basically, you either got A B+ A A, or D B- D D.

  Writing this down I realize they should absolutely make a statistical analysis on these results.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Decided to dig a big hole⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Are you friends with Dave?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nightmare blunt rotation... or killer rotation?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s interesting you point that out. It seems it shows the grip of Reddit and Lemmy as well. Since I am not in the US I am not in touch with their regular news outlets and media. I’ve never seen the Dem shooter before. Somehow he wasn’t that talked about.