pahlimur
@pahlimur@lemmy.world
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
Good parenting my dude. I kept telling myself that repeating the same failing routines was insanity, so I ran experiments on her. Some kids are just soooo difficult.
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
This is the one thing my kids did well. First one slept through the night day one. Second took about a year to stay asleep once she was asleep.
And I’m gonna be a hypocrite here. Sleep is a learned behavior which needs to be constantly reinforced. I know parents with super easy kids who never set boundaries around sleep time which caused their kids to be difficult sleepers. Don’t ever allow them to get up after bed time and you’ll suffer a lot less. Our super difficult second kid learned we will only come into the room for short periods to meet her needs during bedtime. We started setting timers of a few minutes to let her learn that we aren’t coming in immediately when she started crying. Saved our sanity and slowly taught her to self sooth. I know it doesn’t work for all kids. But IMO a lot of parents will try to solve issues without the assumption their children can learn to tolerate mild inconvenience. It’s a huge cultural issue in the US.
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
I think it’s easy to dismiss the possibility of this kid existing. I am absolutely not a perfect parent but this kid is literally an asshole. Still love her though.
My wife and I think we are mild abuse victims from this kid. We confirmed it’s hereditary with my MIL. My wife as a child was the same monster this kid is. If you listen to her scream she just purposely eggs herself on. She broke our nanny and almost a dozen daycare people. I always say she has like 3 toddlers worth of personality that she is trying to figure out and only recently she is starting to sort it out.
We tried everything related to colic and nothing changed her. Gripe water with fenel seed sort of worked. Omg im just remembering, hiccups 100% of the time after feedings. She almost never ate more than a ounce of formula. My wife had mastitis which killed milk production. Kid was so noise sensitive that I couldn’t close a car door outside the house while she was napping. She needed a pacifier to sleep but would purposely spit it out. She whale tailed for almost a year. Naps were more stressfull than awake time because she needed to sleep 1.5 hours or she would screem constantly during awake time. We think she also had measles at one point, the hospital didn’t do anything about it even after confirming what it likely was.
Kid broke my brain to the point where I understand where PURPLE crying is needed. My memory and anxiety are only recently recovering.
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
I agree with everything you said and I used to think all kids could be fixed by schedules. But our second child was the antithesis to any of these methods. She screamed for almost 2 years regardless of anything we did. I constantly changed our approach to her to try to find a solution and nothing worked for more than a week. She is only recently getting better now that she can understand us.
We are now the parents that discuss our shopping list while she screams on the floor in the grocery store. Some kids are kinda asseholes. Fortunately she’s extremely cute while being an asshole.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 2 weeks ago:
The storyline is a fascism. Frank thought libertarianism would stop what he was writing about. He didn’t want fascism but wrote about it. The second book is mostly about Paul falling apart and dying. Even though he thought he could follow a perfect path to being a perfect leader.
I personally don’t care much about literary complexity. I find it interesting, and that’s all that matters to me. If you disagree, that’s fine too.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, but that isn’t why people like it. Like Harry potter and Wizarding world of the transphobe.
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 2 weeks ago:
I’d not looked into Frank before now, but I’ve read 2.5 of the dune books. It’s weird to see he was a self described conservative and libertarian. The whole dune story seems to mock everything he stands for politically. It’s like he was completely unaware of the power structures he was writing about exist across all US (and non-US) political parties.
- Comment on What techniques do bad faith users use online to overwhelm other users in online discussion and arguments? 1 month ago:
This is everywhere on the internet. I think it’s people looking for an easy way out in arguing. Purposely include a few logic fallacies and watch as the vast majority of people latch onto them. Ignoring any previous points they were trying to make. I like ad hominem.
- Comment on Reddit’s 50% Plunge Fails to Entice Dip Buyers as Growth Slows. 2 months ago:
Reading threads from even 5 years ago makes it painfully obvious reddit is dying. Its mostly repost bots now, and the upvoted comments often have the conversations out of order or have generic fortune cookie like responses.
- Comment on Microsoft's many Outlooks are confusing users and employees 2 months ago:
All of Microsoft office products haven’t changed for the good in more than a decade. I still use office 2007 on my personal desktop and 90% of the features and buttons are in the same spot as the current office 365 offering.
Only thing that is an improvement is live collaboration, but that’s getting constantly screwed up by one drive sucking ass.
- Comment on D.C. mayor to remove Black Lives Matter Plaza amid pressure from White House 3 months ago:
Why not say you are doing it, then just don’t. Constantly act like you don’t know why it’s not done, take forever to reply, pretend you thought it was already done, etc. Resistance isn’t hard in these situations.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
Generalizations of a single person based on where they live make for bad assumptions about them. I do not subscribe to American exceptionalism. I did as a child raised in a republican household, but not as an adult.
I do generally agree though. Most US citizens see themselves as superior to others. I hope the next 4 years help those people see otherwise, but probably not.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
Holy shit dude. You deleted your comment but i can still see it. The incredible sense of self importance you project onto me and other US citizens is your own problem.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
Your right and wrong. If we become as bad as you think, we will very much be a problem for all of the world. We’ll see in 4 years which way we go.
I refuse to sacrifice my family for the zero chance of saving you.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
Ok? What a pointless opinion. Reality is we, as in the whole world, aren’t going to fix my country by being obtuse.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
Yes?
Most of us fucking hate it. And I fear we may become the next fascist superpower.
Our internal politics are probably more important than the entirety whatever country you live in. We spend way too much on our military for you not to pay attention.
I personally will never support any sort of invasion and won’t give a shit if our soldiers die because of it. Wish the rest of the country would get on board.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
My dad is genX and uses it the same way. I have explained it to him multiple times that it’s like sighing at someone.
- Comment on GOP Proposes $4.5 Trillion Tax Giveaway to the Rich While 'Ransacking' Food Stamps and Medicaid 4 months ago:
I’m an American who works primarily with Canadians. Their opinions are very eye opening.
The nuance you’re missing is based in American exceptionalism. You are no different than a Russian citizen, stuck under a government you/I hate. Focus on what you and your family can control.
- Comment on Jeep Introduces Pop-Up Ads That Appear Every Time You Stop 4 months ago:
Yeah I’ve never heard anything good about jeeps in general. Now they are being run further into the ground by trying to become a luxury brand. At least when it was just a shitty jeep, it was still a somewhat cheap shitty jeep.
- Comment on Tesla pulls out all the stops as Cybertruck sales grind to a halt 4 months ago:
It was the weirdest shit. He doesn’t know anything about towing or hauling. His cybertruck is the first truck like vehicle he has ever owned and for some reason his ego tells him he’s qualified to help. Its probably his total lack of experience that caused his upset.
To redeem him a bit he is incredibly willing to help people. He’s just got more money than brains and experience lol.
- Comment on Tesla pulls out all the stops as Cybertruck sales grind to a halt 4 months ago:
The one person I know who owns a cyber truck was upset when I didn’t call him when I had a truck needing emergency, my wife’s car had broken down on a freeway offramp. The people that own these stupid things are cos playing as truck people even moreso than the average truck owner. The weirder part of his upsetness is, I was already driving a 3/4 truck because my commuter vehicle was not running. All I had to do was go get a uhaul trailer and go get her car. My mind is still boggled that he threw a fit about not calling him.
- Comment on If you are a young person you have no idea how bad everyone and everything smelled until at least the 1990s. 5 months ago:
Altria, formerly Philip Morris, still allows smoking in their building as of a few years ago. It’s trippy to book a non-smoking room in the 2020s.