iltoroargento
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- Comment on Epic Games is delisting Dark and Darker due to an ongoing legal dispute 4 hours ago:
IP/Copyright law is a fucking joke and a scam.
- Comment on Something something sexual tyrannosaurus 1 week ago:
Fucking weirdos.
- Comment on No means no 1 week ago:
First thing I ever do with a new computer is delete it.
- Comment on Day 216 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games l've been playing until l forget to post Screenshots 2 weeks ago:
Lol I loved that. And I’ve seen mods for MCC that let you do multiplayer somehow but never got it working myself lol
- Comment on Day 216 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games l've been playing until l forget to post Screenshots 2 weeks ago:
How do you play 3 player campaign on one PC? Doesn’t the MCC prevent that? Or did they patch it out?
- Comment on Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? 2 weeks ago:
For the most part, yes. Definitely depends on the person, but this can be a very challenging social dynamic. It sounds pretty chaotic and I am not sure how many people would be able to deal with that day by day.
To your last point, emotional communication is always tough and it’s really hard to piece things together to get your thoughts across when tensions are high. I think that coming from a mindset of refining and explaining, to yourself first and then to others, why you feel a certain way or did a certain action could be a good start.
Additionally, a lot of people do not respond well to “tough love”. I would argue that for the majority of scenarios, it’s one of the least successful ways to go about showing support and care for someone else. Setting clear and respectful boundaries is one thing, but providing only conditional support is a great way to tank a relationship and have someone distrust you. I think it’s also helpful to unpack why you feel you need to act that way with people you care about. For me, that took a lot of work (still does) and goes back to my relationship with my dad (which has its positives and negatives, a lot of which we’ve worked through over the years).
One of the most important ideas I’ve come across with communication is that you should ask yourself if your actions are helping you meet your goals in the conversation. If you really want to build a strong trusting relationship with someone, that’s going to look wildly different to the actions you would take if you really want to distance yourself from someone. And if you mess up with how you presented yourself or how you meant to come across, address it as soon as you possibly can. Clear communication is key and being clear with yourself and your goals/wants/needs/preferences is the start of that.
Hope that helps lol good luck out there. There’s a lot of happiness to bring to the world if you work toward it.
- Comment on I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought. 4 weeks ago:
Ah, yes, Thag Simmons… He discovered the thagomizer at his own peril…
- Comment on I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought. 4 weeks ago:
I mean… Do any teens think older generations are cool? I didn’t think that was a thing.
- Comment on I guess this means I need to get blown 4 weeks ago:
Way, hey, blow the man down!
- Comment on Hope you forgot about it 4 weeks ago:
Context?
- Comment on If "more money=more problems," why doesn't "no money=no problems"? 2 months ago:
“Believe it or not, straight to jail.”
- Comment on Effort require Effort 5 months ago:
Not sure if you meant it this way, but this comes off as a pretty flippant take on humanity’s evolutionary history and psychology as applied to a middle school classroom. There’s a lot more going on than just humanity’s supersocial nature.
Of course, we’re social animals lol but within that reality, we have largely been able to communicate effectively and engage in learning. What the original commentor is saying is that those kids, apparently one third of each class, are severely lacking in any functional communication skills and framework.
Throughout our species’ history, we have developed efficient ways of communicating and learning. These kids mentioned are not trained to consider (or, in some cases, are completely oblivious to) how their communication and behavior is perceived by peers, teachers, and concerned parents and bystanders. As was stated in the original comment, many kids think/care only about how their actions and words are perceived by their target audience. That has always been part of the learning process, but I see it has become more prevalent and somewhat louder/more pronounced in older kids than it has been in the past.
I see a lot of factors feeding into this, but I think most of them boil down to the increased isolation and anxiety experienced by teens and preteens, today, and the lack of exposure to/familiarity with efficient, substantive, and effective communication.
Growing up is confusing and frightening enough, and, now, these kids are exposed to a lot more information that’s increasingly curated into smaller and smaller sound bytes and memes designed to highlight outrage, anxiety, and disillusionment.
I think a lot of the “brainrot” culture we see today stems from young people wanting to communicate nonsensically as they are desensitized by the sheer amount of similarly coded content and communication they are exposed to. I grew up with other ways to shut off my brain and deal with the anxiety and inherent loneliness that comes with growing up and finding more of a sense of self, but these kids don’t have the same breathing room as I did.
To your last point about education systems fighting against social behavior, I actually see the opposite. A massive amount of studies and practices have been implemented on how best to utilize the double edged sword of our social nature. Nearly every professional development training or meeting I go to deals with encouraging positive social interactions and discourse. I think if you look to schools and districts that actually walk the walk of education, you’ll see a lot of progress.
- Comment on Why does the media print rags to riches stories? 5 months ago:
It isn’t ironic that they are revolting people, though…
- Comment on I always get them confused. 5 months ago:
I, too, love stories of otter space.
- Comment on This is my hole! 5 months ago:
“That’s right… the square hole!”
Honestly this YouTube video loves rent free in my mind and I often find myself hearing those voices when something similar happens irl lol
- Comment on when AI tries to get in my way 5 months ago:
“It’s not going to happen!!!”
- Comment on Amazon's Monopoly of the tech industry is ruining the US economy 5 months ago:
Agreed as to Walgreens. Walgreens has surprised me with their photo and printing options. They are also located in the burbs, so that is nice.
- Comment on Important information 5 months ago:
“Observe my trolley. These are my weapons…”
- Comment on beams 5 months ago:
I’m enjoying both, but go with your preference!
- Comment on Any non-tech-background self-hosters? 5 months ago:
Are you me?
- Comment on This is a painting of Commander Riker fighting Godzilla. 5 months ago:
“They’re just wrestling, Timmy.”
- Comment on If Necromancy suddenly became possible, can the undead be called as a witness during court proceedings? 5 months ago:
I hope someone is writing this novel already, but there’s definitely some gold in a story featuring witness tampering and faking DNA signatures for recently deceased witnesses to take the stand.
I’m out of Dresden Files novels, so this would definitely scratch my urban fantasy/magipunk itch.
- Comment on If Necromancy suddenly became possible, can the undead be called as a witness during court proceedings? 5 months ago:
Oh, there are far worse things than death.
Lol seriously, though, I’m sure we’d come up with something. Humanity is remarkably inventive when it comes to punishments. Thankfully, now, some of us are at least talking about better ways to make them fit the crime.
- Comment on Taco Bell Programming 5 months ago:
Love ol’ Jim. My stepdad and I caught him for his 2014 tour and it’s been one of the highlights of both our love entertainment experiences lol that and seeing Rush in 2012.
- Comment on I'll have a Number 9, a Number 9 large, a Number 6 with extra dip, two Number 45's, one with cheese, and a large soda. 6 months ago:
So full of hope in this still lol
- Comment on NASA says astronauts stuck in space will not return on Boeing capsule, will wait for SpaceX craft 6 months ago:
To be fair, I’m so desensitized to this stuff that it is becoming hackneyed lol
- Comment on Microsoft formally deprecates the 39-year-old Windows Control Panel 6 months ago:
Not great, not terrible…
- Comment on california 6 months ago:
“You must never go there, Simba…”
- Comment on california 6 months ago:
I mean, for the most part, yes, you’re totally right. However, one drive through Bakersfield and you might think you slept through a nuclear apocalypse…
- Comment on How my family got to Star Trek 7 months ago:
Fully automated, too!
