Submitted 9 months ago by s0larfl4re@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
when replying that way in any way, on text or actually just saying “cool”. my friends say cool a lot and I really don’t mind it and my partner says it too but some people have thought it was rude and I had a friend say “that’s what I say when I don’t give a damn”.
You need to find ways to convey your intended tone of voice, that’s just the way it is. You could add a smiley. Even “Cool!” already looks a lot more enthusiastic than a dry “Cool.” with a full stop.
When “cool” is clearly an understatement about something negative or is in response to being stonewalled it is rude, otherwise it is chill.
It depends both on context and on tone. Tone can make it excited or dismissive.
what if it’s “Cool.” over text? it seems fine to me but people have gotten similar responses saying it’s passive-aggressive.
If it’s saying “cool” as an end to the conversation then it’s usually pretty rude. You need to show a bit of interest with a quick follow up like “how did you get it?” or “it took you a while?” and then ending the conversation is fine.
To be honest I think it’s the trailing full stop that does that. Over text I find that usually comes across like you’re trying to shut down the conversation (even when you’re not)
To make sure I don’t mean it to be sarcastic, I usually say “Cool cool”. That usually goes over nicely
I’ve heard from Gen Z that ending a text response with a period is passive aggressive. So “cool” may have seemed glib on its own, but the punctuation might be giving an additional, if unintentional, tone
Then it’s context. If you’re going for the excited delivery, try throwing in a ! other it could be misinterpreted as uncaring or dismissive.
i agree, may be why op is fine with people saying “cool” like that because they are not dismissive
devolution@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Fine: Friend: We are going to the movies on Friday OK?
You: Cool.
Not fine: Girlfriend: I love you from the bottom of my heart and I cherish all of our memories together.
You: Cool.