Submitted 2 days ago by goldenbeginnings@feddit.org to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
Sorry, but my answer to this post will be a bit different based on your gender and orientation. There is a huge difference between advising a young professional guy who has a few beers with upper management now and then and a young professional woman who finds the CEO “enjoys my company” but there is a “power dynamic”, if you get what I mean.
Because of the implication.
D. E. N. N. I. S.
Fuckin weird. But if you can tolerate that, you can use him to get ahead I guess.
But that’s not a friend. Don’t trust them as one.
So, in that case, since we can rule out him trying to get in your pants (unless he happens to be in the closet, but that seems unlikely) the key thing you need to watch out for is any appearance of favoritism. Even if the guy is a good manager and is not letting his free time with you affect his decisions, it might affect how other people on your team perceive your assignments. It could also make your boss uncomfortable if they think that you have more access to the CEO.
And everyone is human, the CEO might be older but he clearly has his own issues. Look out to make sure he is not using you as a proxy for his son. But, on the other hand, if he simply has a desire to mentor someone and you happen to share similar enough interests, there is nothing wrong with that.
Like anything else involving adults, though, communication and transparency is the key thing. When people ask you what you both talk about, be honest, without oversharing. And try not to accept any gifts or favors that make you feel uncomfortable – you are allowed to say no, even if the other side perceives it as “generous”.
AFAIK it’s not uncommon for a small upstart company for instance, to rely on friends, because friendship helps working together.
I know it can smell a bit like nepotism, and we know that’s bad.
But there are actual good reasons people prefer to work with people they know. So I think it will be just fine, as long as you are not fighting over the same girl.
You can “consider” him your boss as much as you like but as CEO, he is very much, everyone’s boss.
You have to judge based on the type of person he is, company dynamic and any motivation he may have. Most of the time it’s fine.
I would seperate work and your life. If u have fun just enjoy it, work is work
Work is a hugr part of your life. Getting along with your colleagues and having them as friends is great.
I’m getting some vibes like some things were left unsaid by the OP.
The concern over a power dynamic suggests it’s going beyond simple camaraderie or friendship into something that will not end well.
Depends on the boss. I had a guy I worked for and we'd hang out off work. We'd go to lunch, some days go on hikes during lunch, and went camping a couple of times. He was really laid back, didn't care about my hours as long as I got my work done, and we built him a ramp in his backyard. More than once, he'd give me a bonus, send me to the pizza place for lunch, then tell me there was credit for me at the local tattoo shop. We still talk about every week or two. Good dude all around.
My current boss is cool, fine to work for, doesn't care about my hours as long as I get my work done, and we joke and play around. But I'd never hang out with him. Just too different a life style.
Past boss, no way. I didn't want him having my personal mobile phone number. You need to call me? You call me on the work cell. I come in, I do work. You tell me what you need done, you give me money. Not a bad guy, but that was just work.
Best boss I ever had was one I went out with. (Got fucked up at the bar)
We still talk to this day. He’s since moved to Ohio.
I don’t see why it would be a bad thing. There’s probably more to gain there than to lose if you want to think it that way.
I go discgolfing with one of my customer regularly.
Do you like and get along with him? Would you hang out with him outside of work if you didn’t work with him? I think that’s pretty telling. Adults can be friends, but it is important to separate work life and personal life. Enjoying sometimes time and also depending on them to eat can be messy.
If you wouldn’t want to hang out with him outside of work if you didn’t work with him, I would keep some distance/buffer. If you actually enjoy hanging out outside of work, then just be cautious but it’s probably worth getting to know them.
Hanging out with older generations, especially around people who just have a lot of life experience, is super enriching. Might learn a lot.
viking@infosec.pub 2 days ago
Could be beneficial for your career, but your colleagues might hate you, really depends on the company dynamics (and maybe size). If you actually like hanging out with him, don’t kiss ass and expect any kind of reward and just be yourself, personally I don’t see any harm.