Submitted 5 days ago by drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
some straight guy i was friends with was obsessed with me. he only cared if i liked men and had a bf for some reason, and would ignore that i liked women. he would act like i was straight and that if i dated women, that just meant i was single and obviously interested in him.
That’s just narcissism. Can’t comprehend someone not being into them.
ahhh, tysm
The funny thing is I bet he’s also the kind of guy to call a straight woman a lesbian if she rejects him too.
You make it sound like this is your first experience with human beings.
nah, just upset me a lil
Tell him he should smile more.
he also told me “i love what females smell like, especially during sex. i bet you smell nice” or something like that :,)
That whole comment is creepy as fuck, but using the word “females” especially sets off my ickometer.
You should put as much distance from this fella as possible…
Sounds like a combination of homophobia/gay erasure and misogyny (I know what women want, not them) to me
I mean to me, if I’m trying to get with you, or while I’m with you, all I care about is if you like me or not.
I think a lot of guys think that it would honestly be perfectly ok for you to go on having gay sex in your straight relationship. They aren’t threatened by another woman because that woman isn’t fulfilling the role they fulfill: sex with a penis. They also probably think you’d be missing out not to have both in your life if you are bi.
Or they are just erasing. But sometimes the same behavior can come from completely different ideas.
some straight guy
Based on everything else you said, I’m unsure about this.
😂
Homophobic.
Yeah, that sucks. I’ve had the same thing happen with one of my (former) gay friends; he just wouldn’t drop it. It was really uncomfortable, and I eventually dropped him as a friend because he refused to respect my boundaries.
I mean, yeah, I get it; you don’t really have a choice over how you feel. Some people experience limerance, and it’s not a choice, but how they act is. I’ve had the displeasure of experiencing limerance a number of times, and each time I’ve found that it was more productive to cease contact with the person than to, well, do exactly what your online friend is doing.
Mostly bigoted indoctrination they are either unwilling or incapable to deconstruct
jol@discuss.tchncs.de 5 days ago
Bi erasure comes in all flavours. Gay guys around me also often don’t believe guys can be really bi, just gay in denial, or closeted gays living a straight life. The B in LGBT+ might as well be the bigotry in the community for how prevalent it is.
LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 5 days ago
Ironic because bi is the largest demographic but also the one that can blend in the easiest which hasn’t forced people to advocate for acceptance.
jol@discuss.tchncs.de 5 days ago
And is also a spectrum. Most people would probably be bi, if social pressure didn’t exist. It’s honestly weird to think that anyone would be 100.00% gay or straight.