Sorry, but your first paragraph is very flawed
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TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
Looks and height aren’t as big factors as you think. Carry yourself with confidence (fake it til you make it if ya gotta) and you’ll find a lot more success. Also, rejection isn’t life ending. No Means Next. Don’t let it destroy you.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
What do you mean?
db2@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Don’t feed the troll dude.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
I think men can often get stuck in ruts where they become their own worst enemies, especially in dating. They have a plethora of media telling them half truths and skewed perspectives that create a feedback loop of negativity and self-fulfilling prophecy.
Even if OP can’t escape that today and instead posted this to hear answers that affirm this defeatist ideology, other readers may benefit the good advice others have put in this thread.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
You first said looks and height are not major factors. Are you not aware how much height is important for girls In dating. Ask any girl what type of guy she wants and tall is always in answer. Height is most important for girls. Now your second sentence is that if someone rejects you for height then they are not good partners, but the guys who are 6ft tall have no problem in dating a girl who says she will never date a guy below 6ft. So this is just a cope saying that if someone rejects you for height they are not good partners. In fact the guys who say that, they will date a girl who says I don’t date below 6ft if they are given chance.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
You need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it’s simply hindering you. Not only that, it’s only superficially true. It doesn’t conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.
This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.
agent_flounder@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Whatever group online you’re commiserating with about this stuff is wrecking you.
yukichigai@kbin.social 4 months ago
This is what Andrew Tate actually believes.
mrnotoriousman@kbin.social 4 months ago
As a short dude you couldn't be more wrong. Get off incel forums and go talk to real people. Just make sure you shower first.
Montagge@kbin.earth 4 months ago
Weird, then why did 6'4" me have such a hard time until my late 20s?
neptune@dmv.social 4 months ago
Yeah I get it. If there’s not attraction, it goes no further.
I’d suggest you get into a venue with more women and ask them (assuming this is the audience you want to woo)
And then second: get out in the real world. Attraction as a filter works on your side IRL. Anyone who keeps talking to you is already past your looks.
Also, have you considered a career that is associated with money?
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
My crush, who was my friend once openly said to me how she likes tall guys. I was there, she knew I was not tall and she said this in front of me. There was an old survey on Reddit and it proved the same thing that height is most Important for women. And that survey was 7 -8 years old, today’s conditions are even worse.
ivanafterall@kbin.social 4 months ago
You're giving her way too much free real estate in your head. Better to use it as fuel/a chip on your shoulder, if at all.
EddoWagt@feddit.nl 4 months ago
I still don’t know where I’d find someone not on dating apps, I can only think of clubs or something but I definitely do not enjoy being there