Comment on How can a ugly and short guy compensate for his looks?
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months agoYou need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it’s simply hindering you. Not only that, it’s only superficially true. It doesn’t conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.
This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
It is not a way of thinking it is just the truth.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
Naw dude, it’s manufactured and it’s limiting you. You’re not gonna overcome that until you figure out how to destroy the part of you that believes this.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
What is wrong in believing truth
idiomaddict@feddit.de 4 months ago
Is it truth that no unattractive, short man has ever had a relationship without being rich? No. That means it’s possible, which means it’s possible for you. But frankly, it’s not going to happen if you are in your own head about it.
DaGeek247@fedia.io 4 months ago
The only truth here is the one you choose. There are upward of seven billion people in the world. The truth you chase is the one that becomes your reality, especially when it comes to your relationships with other people.
To answer your question; believing yourself to be ugly and that woman only date men taller than you is a bigger factor in your ability to find a partner than the woman who dont date short and/or nonconventionally attractive men.
ivanafterall@kbin.social 4 months ago
What would you say if I told you there are girls who actually prefer short guys? Hell, some people just like variety--I appreciate tall women, short women, medium women. I like 'em all.
Having said that, I have met the girls you're referencing. They do exist. A few months back, I went on a coffee date with a girl. Just before it, she made some joke about wanting to make sure I'm tall, because she hates dancing with guys who are shorter than her, so she just wanted to make sure. I wanted to vomit. I very rarely encounter a girl taller than me. I'm ~6'1, maybe pushing a little higher on a good day when my posture is okay. I want nothing to do with a girl who so values my height. Because if it's THAT important, you're literally one 6'3 guy away from a relationship crisis.
There are girls who are like you say, but they are absolutely not all like that. You just need to focus on a better class of prospect.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Where are girls who like short men, I bet you will find them lmao. What are the chances 0.000000001 % or lower
fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.world 4 months ago
They’re out there. But if that’s your attitude towards life then none of them will like you.