Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands
CADmonkey@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
I don’t understand this. I’m married. My wife is the coolest person I know. I wouldn’t dare try to control her. She is too much fun.
That’s because you’re a terrible husband.
It’s disgusting how proud you are about the sick gratification you get from forcing that poor women to use her tiny little lady brain for your own personal amusement.
Report to 4chan before it’s too late! They’ll help you set you straight. Make sure you have nudes handy as payment for their services.
I try to control my wife the same amount that she tries to control me, which is to say not much at all but we communicate expectations which we think are reasonable. Like yeah, have friends and hang out with them without me, but I’m gonna be pissed off if you stay out until 3am without checking in. Extreme example, but you get my point. We check in before planning/doing shit that affects each other, and once in a while there is a good reason for the answer to be no.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
It’s pretty simple.
When life has no clearly defined gender roles, people will make them up.
I’m a single guy in my early 40s. The past 5 years on the dating market, most women I meet now want 1950s gender roles. These are often educated, liberal, successful women. But they have this fantasy that they will only be happy if they find a man who pays all the bills and bosses them around, and all think Don Draper is a ‘real man’. The idea of a partnership where you say split costs and responsibilities, is totally rejected as by them and they see it as surefire path to misery. They see their role in a relationship as to quit their career and be a homemaker/mother, and my job is to work 60-80 hours a week to earn a massive salary and pay for everything.
And when they find out that as a man, I enjyo cooking, cleaning, keeping my house etc, they get really pissed off because they see me as ‘not needing a woman in my life’. No… shit. I dont’ ‘need’ a woman. I want a partner to split chores and bills with and raise kids together with.
atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Are you dating women your own age? I’m a woman in my early 40s and have literally never met a woman my age who thought like this. If you’re dating women ten years younger than you you’ll be selecting for the type who likes to date older men - usually for exactly the reasons you complain about (they want someone to take care of them).
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
Gotta remember selection bias. The single women are on the dating market because of their horrible views, the ones who aren’t horrible are not on the dating market anymore.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Wouldn’t that argument work the same way for men? To be clear, I’m not a fan of that argument for any gender. But fair is fair.
I’m polyam, so my experiences are quite different. I’m finding more married people looking for a third, which is awkward when I’m more of a “relationship anarchist” and don’t want to put my partners into tiers above/below each other (or be put into such tiers myself.)
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
People just want all the the benefits with none of the drawbacks. They are just selfish and greedy.
I often see the whole ‘monogamish’ nonsense now too. It basically means, I want all the benefits of monogamy, but when I also want to be able to bang other people when I want, but also you can’t do that because that would make me feel insecure…
I actaully did date someone like that. She wanted to date other people, but as soon as I started seeing other women she got very very angry and jealous and told me it was not ‘fair’. She was just a selfish asshole who wanted me to be monogamous to her, while she was no monogamous to me.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
it’s not selection bias, it’s what’s on the market.
unless you think I should start trying to date married women?
Nefara@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
What you describe doesn’t reflect reality in my region of the world or amongst any of the people I know. Not sure where you are but it sounds like a generalized statement that should be a hell of a lot more specific. Do you live in Amish country?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
No I live in upper class america.