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DioramaOfShit@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.

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  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m doing 54, no kids, still utterly fucked.

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  • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    even single

    It’s worth pointing out that coupling up often buys *more" leisure time, at least before kids. Many household tasks benefit from volume where doubling the output doesn’t actually double the work to be done (cooking, laundry) or where combining households basically consolidates two tasks into one (bills, cleaning, home maintenance).

    I didn’t have all that much free time when I was single, but those dual income/no kids years were glorious.

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• aceshigh@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  A possible challenge is that some men struggle to cut their salary because their job title, salary, lifestyle is a big part of their identity. Take that away and who are they?

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  • dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Idk, kids are pretty effective at making it clear that you are now the household NPC lol. Or at least that you’ve transitioned to a role as a supporting character.

    2nd kid really hammered that one home.

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    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Best way of putting it. We have a set expiry date. Didn’t finish your business by your late-twenties? Too bad, throw it in the thrash.

      Time to give society your life back.

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  • arrow74@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You know what makes cutting my salary hard? Everything is far too expensive. Kids even more so.

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    • aceshigh@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think a part of that is being attached to things, to material possessions, to experiences. There’s nothing wrong with it of course, we are in charge of creating our own meaning, but attachment influences behavior and decreases our options.

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      • arrow74@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Ah yes the frivolous attachments of rent, food, and electricity

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      • cheers_queers@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        This is a horrendously dystopian way of looking at life.

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      • FatCrab@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        In my part of the US, it is on average 38k/yr to raise a child to 18. Rent/mortgage is about the same. Not even getting to utilities, food, and healthcare. Life is wildly expensive for families these days.

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      • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        My teeth would be falling out right now, if I didn’t do a 54 hour work week. I want a part-time job too, so I can actually gain ground.

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