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• LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  No I just learned on YouTube to never put vibrators on your neck. There are arteries there, and you can fuck up your blood flow to the brain. Fainting, blood clots, death possible.

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  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    … What?

    Seriously?

    I don’t mean like, jam it into your neck to the point it restricts blood flow.

    … Can you send me your source on this?

    If what you are saying is true, than massage guns of all kinds would basically cause blood clots, and I’m pretty sure they don’t.

    Like yeah you can potentially restrict blood flow if you grip or press around the wrong/right areas with enough force… but yeah, I am incredulous at the idea that vibrators being able to cause blood clots.

    Maybe if you have some conditions or disorder where you have exceptionally weak capillaries, they could cause bruising, …

    … but like, I’ve been using a massage gun on my neck/shoulder blade for over a year now as part of a doctor / phys therapist designed phys therapy routine for me to recover from a set of injuries, and they’ve never risen any concerns about this, and I’ve never fainted nor developed blood clots from this (get my bloodwork every couple of months).

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• dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Okay, here’s the plan:

  We get Bluetooth controller prostate massagers and those egg ones for the folks with vaginas.* Everyone has one in, everyone else has group access to control it.

  We all go to a karaoke bar, and whoever is up on stage we all mess with the remote app while they’re singing and try to throw them off. Everyone’s gotta sing at least once. Try to stay in rhythm while the thing is buzzing, or nothing happens and you’re so focused on what to do when it starts, never know if they’re going to do it or not. Will that low note suddenly become a falsetto? Who knows‽

  I swear to God, if I had the money to buy the things, I have at least 3 friends who would go for this. 4, honestly, but the 4th one would be too embarrassed to go because he’s the dad of one of the other friends. Lol.

  To note, this isn’t a sexual “get you off” kind of thing. This is fully platonic “can you maintain decorum” type of game. It’d be a blast

  *I know very little about sex toys for girls, whatever the best one is.

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  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Exactly, you detailed out exactly what I had in mind.

    Though uh… I’d say maybe emphasize the idea of consent, not ‘platonic’.

    Some people can seperate sex and love in their approaches to relationships, but lets be real, the vast majority of people cannot.

    I would say probably don’t involve people who have uh, genealogical relationships to anyone else in the group, probably try this eith a group of explicitly consenting, open minded adults.

    You’d also have to have some kind of ruleset to say like, each other person cannonly send a total of XX seconds of vibration per song, or something like that, maybe more complex rules if you want some ‘gameplay’ in that regard.

    The good news though is that simple bullet/egg type wireless vibes can be pretty cheap, maybe $25 or less.

    The bad news is that everyone is gonna need to be ok with potentially pissing/shitting themselves, especially if people are also drinking, and they’ve not used such vibrators before too often.

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    • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yeah, someone’s home is best. Lol.

      platonic in the sense of romance. Lol. Like, honestly, fun game with a sexual component like strip poker. You’re not necessarily getting off, or getting entangled with anyone there. I see this is as a game of endurance with a “thrill” aspect.

      Also, I may have said dad above. He’s step dad, and that family is definitely close enough they could play that and it not it be weird for them. I doubt the step dad/son would actually be the ones to mess with the others settings, but they’d probably be down to be at the group event. Lol. Hell, even the mom might be. Super open family. Strong boundaries, but those boundaries are places a lot further afield than my family’s. Lol

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      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        You can fuck someone aromantically, you can love someone as a very dear friend with no sexual desire toward them, platonically.

        As I understand the world platonic, it essentially means “lacking a sexual and romantic component.”

        I… I mean sure, there are some people who can seperate a uh, literal sexual buzz from having desirous or repulsive sexual/romantic feelings about that, but most people do not do that, many think they can, and then nope, turns out they can’t.

        As to the step dad situation… uh, nope, nope thats still a hard nope from me, that’s weird.

        Maybe other people disagree on that but uh nope nope nope from me.

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