Yes he was being a bit rude but it is surprisingly common for women to expect the men to pay for their friends and it is not at all unreasonable for him to put his foot down early and refuse before she even asks.
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Garbagio@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago[deleted]
Soulg@ani.social 3 weeks ago
echodot@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
Nowhere in the screenshot does she ever say she expected the guy to pay for her friend.
He’s getting mad about a made-up situation in his head. How do you actually deal with someone who’s mad about something that hasn’t happened.
Jerkface@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The situation OP predicted wasn’t the one where she asks up front.
Garbagio@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
[deleted]Soulg@ani.social 3 weeks ago
It’s cool that you haven’t been online dating lately and all but your ignorance of trends is not my problem.
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
She NEVER said that she didn’t expect him to pay, she just ignored it, and kept justifying why it was okay to bring her friend. She fully expected him to pay for dinner and drinks for both.
These girls are predators, and they tried to treat him like a chump, and people are pissed because he showed some self-respect.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
These girls are predators, and they tried to treat him like a chump
You’ve been successfully baited by a fake screenshot and are displaying misogyny.
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
It’s not misogyny to recognize and acknowledge that women can be bad people, just like men can be.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
I don’t think all women are perfect (and never said such), but this post is 100% a fake screenshot that’s misogynistic rage bait.
BussyCat@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Like the guy defenitely comes off as a dick but also if you check out conventional social media you will see guys who talk about being expected to pay for not just the girl but also their friend, and you will see girls talk about how if she brings a friend for protection then the guy should pay for the friend too.
So many variables exist that we don’t know but for some people there an expectation that if a girl brings a friend the guy needs to pay for both and I wouldn’t default that to just misogyny
echodot@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
I had girls bring a friend with them when I asked them out on a date and it didn’t even occur to me that I would pay for them. But also I wouldn’t expect the friend to hang around the entire time either, once it turned out I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone they generally went away.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Try and remember when you read this type of stuff that these people are the minority. These stories are not the norm and the much huger proportion of people going on dates that are more or less normal are not reporting their experiences because there’s nothing notable really about them.
BussyCat@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m not saying that is the norm but more so that it may not be just internal misogyny that causes the poster to reach their conclusion