I wore a black kilt to a club once and had a similar experience.
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unknown@piefed.social 6 days ago
Anyone else see this post and realise they still have ptsd from wearing similar to a club once and sorely regretting it because random drunk men spent the whole night trying to put their hands up your skirt?
clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
M137@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I’m male and had a similar experience with women doing that when I wore a kilt to a club once.
And just to be very clear, I’m not defending anyone of any gender who does that at all. And in no way saying women touching men is as big a problem, most women have experienced it while only a minority of men have. Your comment just made me remember it, it wasn’t fun.
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 6 days ago
I’m sorry you went through that. I don’t understand why it’s hard for men to not touch something they like.
Is it because I’m (probably) autistic? Like, look these kind of outfits are simply awesome, but touching someone else without invitation just seems so incredibly… Wrong?
Its something I’ve struggled with understanding my whole life. Just cause you are into a woman doesn’t mean you need to break boundaries to satisfy urges?
I mean, shit, I remember from a really, really, really, young age: don’t touch others. Did this message not become a core concept? Or do I just pass out before alcohol has that much of an inhibiting effect on me?
Iceblade02@lemmy.world 6 days ago
No, it’s a basic human decency thing. No man I know would (intentionally) touch without invitation (whether verbal or body language) and if someone does they deserve a smacking.
The most common gray area is tight crowds where some assholes try to get away with groping disguised as “accidents” which is disgusting.
onslaught545@lemmy.zip 6 days ago
As a man I’ve never understood it either. Like, I’m hesitant to even touch a woman on the shoulder to get her attention or something like that.
But, I’m ADHD and possibly a smidge on the spectrum, and I also realize that being a tall muscular dude is inherently threatening to women who don’t know me.