Comment on ‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity

• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Tbh i was fucking 40 before my mother casually mentioned haematomachrosis "ran in the family’ and there’s plenty of disconnected ignorant or straight up deluded people out there. Not really a strong argument.

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  • jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Argument by bucket of crabs

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      i don’t understand this comment

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      • jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality

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  • Fleur_@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Right but if a doctor asked you to check with your biological mother you would know who to go to and be able to get accurate information.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      uh, no

      1 - Doctors don’t do that. they may ask “Any history of X in your family?” but it’s not a supercritical diagnosis factor, they can easily work without it.

      2 - a number of people - myself included - have no contact with their biological parents despite being raised by them. Quite the opposite, ironically. There are also a number of people who have lost their parents / family over the years

      3 - your parents are not accurate information sources.

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      • Fleur_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Right so a doctor would say “any history of x” and you could ask and get an honest answer.

        Sure, only being able to reply “I don’t know” isn’t helpful. But it’s far better than telling the doctor false information that you believe to be true because you are under the impression that you know who your biological parents are

        That’s exactly why adopted children should be required to know they are adopted.

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• Killer57@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I can agree on that, but those are things that can be mentioned as running in the family.

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