I mean, I’m prone to spiralling occasionally and having someone call it out can help ground me, but ymmv
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Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Can’t think of a situation where ‘calm down’ is a constructive thing to say
Curiousfur@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
it depends on why you’re not calm, if it’s not due to anger then being told to calm down might work, and if it’s fear then having someone calmly say “hey hey calm down, it’s ok” will work by sheer dint of seeing someone else obviously not being bothered
FelixCress@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Calm down.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Constructive
cRazi_man@europe.pub 1 month ago
When my toddler is over excited and bouncing around too enthusiastically and is about to hurt himself. It seems to work OK to ask him to calm down.
That’s one specific situation from my life, since you seemed to imply you were looking for an example.
Kyle_The_G@lemmy.world 1 month ago
has panic ever actually helped? Staying calm is generally a good idea
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
it helps for the situations it’s actually evolved for: running from a fucking lion that burst out of the bush
the whole point is that without having to consciously decide to, you start running or fighting and doing so with full force thanks to all the adrenaline, then after you’ve run away or made the nasty thing run away you can analyze the situation and do damage control
DmMacniel@feddit.org 1 month ago
Never in the history of ever has calm down ever caused someone to calm down.
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Works if it comes from someone you respect/ look up too. If a doctor or EMT says it, it tends to have more effect. Because the people believe they are working in their best interest. Anyone who gets more upset at their partner for saying calm down either does not trust them to have their best interest at heart at that time, or does not respect them.
Quadhammer@lemmy.world 1 month ago
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onslaught545@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
It sometimes works with our neurotic dog.
HikingVet@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Emergency situations. There are others. Just because you think all your emotions are valid doesn’t mean they are helpful to those around you.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Jokes aside, I know there’s many situations where you should help someone to calm down. What I mean is that phrase won’t achieve that.
phonics@lemmy.world 1 month ago
To be fair. I was frustrated 5 mins ago. Needed a break. The phrase ‘calm down’ in this meme made me crack a smile and I actually did calm. So in a weird backwards way it actually worked.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Calm down