Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny

• SupaTuba@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Having been homeless before, the resources were not different for me or my partner, male, at the time. Separate sleeping quarters obviously. But the same exact resources.

  Genuinely what are you talking about…Where is this?

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  • doingthestuff@lemy.lol ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Ohio. Cincinnati, specifically. It’s not 100 to 0 women resources to men, it’s more like 55 to 5. There are some cold weather shelters for men, and places to eat, but mostly there are zero beds unless you’re willing to sign up for a drug testing program, and even then there are costs and limited spaces. There are quite a few women’s shelters in the area.

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    • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I would agree here. Shelters are hell for both genders.

      I was homeless with a three months old. Without a kid, I would have done as I always did and couch hopped or slept on benches til I got back on my feet, but I had a baby and wanted to get stable fresh out of a DV situation.

      The shelter I stayed at had a “single” floor with both men and womed (divided by rooms) and the top floor was families.

      Everyone likes helping a single moms out. And I made it out, got stable and its been 12 years without homelessness. It was because of those programs.

      I know a lot of men slip through the cracks. I have met a handful who chose homelessness because thats where they find thier community. I get that, the most community I ever felt was in low places surrounded by others also in low places.

      I’ve also met men like my bio father, who after years of addiction, homelessness, violence and prison time, was able to reach resources and get housed and remains comfortable.

      These resources, especially now, are being cut. It’s definitely scary. I do think there are a lot of well, Walter Whites of the world, where rather than take help and admit vulnerability, they do it their own way, on thier own terms, fuck the consequences. All because being vulnerable and admitting you need help are like, anti-masculine traits in our current culture.

      I think there are a lot of things that lead to men being homeless. There are programs, but usually worh strict requirements and some people, you just cant box them.

      I will say for people with children, there are many more programs available.

      To note, you don’t see many homeless women, and there is reason you don’t see them. When my mother was homeless she lived deep in the woods and moved around constantly as to avoid being detected. You wouldn’t have known she was homeless, if only because she had a car, but still.

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    • SupaTuba@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I mean, there are reasons that women need to be away from men sometimes. And it’s not because we’re having a wonderful time in life. And this “manosphere” is only creating more dangerous situations for us.

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  • Breezy@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I had to do community service in Tennessee, i chose to help feed the homeless at a soup kitchen, anyone could eat there, but there were only permanent beds for women. It was nice they fed the men too but thinking back, where did they go at night?

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    • SupaTuba@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      This was not the case in North Carolina

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      • Breezy@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Im glad to hear it! We have enough empty buildings and houses that there shouldnt be any homeless.

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