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Pnut@lemm.ee 1 day agoYou want to go the pool route. In the hot tub there’s little differentiation temperature wise.
Comment on Onion be onioning again
Pnut@lemm.ee 1 day agoYou want to go the pool route. In the hot tub there’s little differentiation temperature wise.
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 23 hours ago
Look man
Y’all know far too much for this. I’m 34, my ex cheated on me 5 years (or 6 idk, I lost track) and have gotten laid once in that time.
It doesn’t help i have ADHD with some weird mental thing preventing me from trying to hook up with anyone for any reason
Wait, no, I think my ex and I did try in a pool once but when they say “pool closed” we assumed that meant cause no staff was around
Wav_function@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
Do the test
psychology-tools.com/…/autism-spectrum-quotient
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 11 hours ago
Yeah. I’ve been screened. That one gives me between 20-24 depending on a couple of the middle of the road answers. There’s another one that’s much longer that highlights the ADHD and general anxiety traits, but the two categories ASD rates high on are low scores.
I mean I get it. I’m an engineer, I overanalyze the shit out of everything, I’m anxious socially, I get bored as shit easily, I’m terrified of effort yielding no results. It’s paradoxical in my head: I am lonely, crave social interaction, but I’m so terrified of it I avoid opportunities as much as possible.
MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works 11 hours ago
Best thing to do is (i know it’s cliche) but to not worry about it.
Just focus on yourself and the hobbies you find fun. Then start to look for others (not romantically) that also partake in those hobbies. Maybe try and find local in person meet ups or spaces that accommodate for it.
You just be you and eventually you’ll attract someone without effort. No one is completely unique and you will find a common ground with someone that will eventually flourish. And because it’s around the things you already love, it’ll be less effort.
I know ADHD can throw a spanner in the works too (I have it as well). But it will come to you either through practice or by o professional help (like I did) depending on the severity.