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prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• ickplant@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  “And where do you feel that in your body?”

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  • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    To this day I don’t understand this. My therapist used to ask this so many times and every time I was like:?? In my brain??? Where thoughts and feelings live???

    Can someone explain?

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    • kata1yst@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      There’s definitely some physical manifestations of your strongest emotions. Strong feelings of fear or anger trigger musclular reactions in your belly, strong feelings of anxiety or tension in your neck, love and contentment in your chest, etc.

      Perhaps they were trying to find those physical connections to gauge the emotion or intensity?

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    • Lizard@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think we sometimes tend to forget that our physical brain lives in a physical body, and the “abstract” thoughts and feelings we experience are very much physiological processes as well. The question aims at reminding us of this fact, drawing attention to any potential psychosomatic responses your body might exhibit to strong emotions. It is easy to repress awareness for these, so to me it makes sense for the therapist to try and dig a little deeper. They’re not doing it to annoy you, they’re trying to help you become aware of (or be more mindful of) your feelings and how they affect the physical body that is experiencing them.

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    • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s the physical manifestation thing. It also helps you try to be more mindful of your feelings. For instance, if you normally feel anxiety in your jaw, and you find your jaw tightening again in whatever situation you find yourself in, you might see if you can slow down and think of your next steps. Why am I feeling anxious? Should I take a break?

      This only really made sense to me for the emotions that I strongly felt physically, like anxiety so bad I would get tunnel vision. For smaller physical reactions, not so much.

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    • lurker2718@lemmings.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I was always annoyed by this question for the same reasoning. However, as another person already said, you can sometimes feel it in some part of the body. When feeling bad, it feels like pressure in my stomach, there a a few other.such connections. Now I find it somewhat useful as part of mindfullness.

      I do still get annoyed when asked this question, partly because whenever he asks the question i do not feel it anywhere, also it seems irrelevant. But the main reason is probably defiance that this seemingly stupid question of him was sensible all along. So much I had to write this response.

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    • SpongyAneurism@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      My therapist asked me this on some occasions. Part of my problem is to realize and acknowledge how I’m actually feeling.

      “In my brain” was never the answer, when she asked that, I always felt different parts of my body.

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  • NaibofTabr@infosec.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    “Show me on this doll…”

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• arakhis_@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  unironically sat 2 hours in pure silence because there were no other inputs from both sides. so i rather just sit the silence out in isolation

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  • 211@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I did this too! Started out as a “test” or temper tantrum, but afterwards it felt so safe he didn’t start talking, that it really was a space where I was in control.

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    • arakhis_@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      sounds positive, glad it helps you. my message was more resignation based ^^

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