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• abbotsbury@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  That’s still degrading to fellators.

  And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

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  • BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    its still at the end of the day giving pleasure to another. giving the key word: power thing. its the same atmosphere as bootlicker

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    • papertowels@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      If you think going down on someone is only a submissive act you haven’t gone down on someone long enough.

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      • BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        thats not what i think im explaining the insult

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    • MTK@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Being submissive in sex can be expressed in a blowjob, but so can being dominant. Most sexual acts can be both dominant and submissive under the right context. For example a person can forcibly (consensually) throw the other person down, pin them to the floor and start going down on them while not letting them orgasm. Is the person being overpowered and forced to be frustrate by not orgasming the one in power?

      Your understanding of mutual respect and love is unhealthy if you compare going down on someone to bootlicking.

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      • BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        im comparing an insult to bootlicking. jesus christ you people really feel like arguing over absolutely nothing

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    • abbotsbury@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Okay but like, in regular penis-in-vagina sex, the man is (theoretically) giving pleasure to the woman while also doing all the work. Is that still power play? Is pussyfucker the same as cocksucker?

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        i mean yeah, pussyfucker if you used as an insult would be quite a weird insult to throw, but it would work i suppose.

        Motherfucker is also in the same vein like the other commenter suggested.

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      • BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        pussyfucker isnt an insult ive ever heard but motherfucker is

        cocksucker reminds me of the prison mentality of making someone your bitch so thats where im getting the power play from

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    • Redfox8@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      So, if you were to replace ‘cocksucker’ with ‘towelhead’, slut, Yid, or Nig*** would that still just be a power thing?

      Not that it actually makes a difference. This ‘power thing’ you refer to is controlling abuse for self interest. Introducing a predudice is just a way of trying to justify and/or hide the abuse.

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        im sorry are we equating cocksucker, and the n word to be on the same level of offensive slur?

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  • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    find me people who suck cock that actually give a fuck about other people calling people cocksuckers and we can talk.

    And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

    nobody is arguing that sucking cock is submissive??? The argument is that being a cocksucker is a submissive thing.

    Or you trolling? Or are you actually serious?

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• MTK@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  He could have also said “vaginalicker” but he didn’t, he used a well known homophobic slur. Also, if he wanted to say submissive he could have used well known submissive insults.

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  • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    literally nobody says vaginalicker though? that’s just not the commonly understood variant of “cocksucker”

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