Comment on Why is it considered sexist to ask women to smile?

jbrains@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• over_clox@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Nobody asked Luigi to smile, he just did…

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  • IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Gigachad Sigma Grindset 😎

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• btr_fan87@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I agree with the sentiment but I, a man, actually get told to smile more weirdly often working retail.

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  • jeffw@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    And they say it’s because “you’re prettier when you smile” or something like that?

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  • jbrains@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    That’s one exception that doesn’t surprise me. Do you have any sense how often they are doing this with intentional irony compared with genuine obliviousness?

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    • btr_fan87@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s really only creepy old dudes I get it from. It seems pretty genuine most of the time. These comments are more frequent and more egregious with my women coworkers, though, as one might expect.

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      • jbrains@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        How interesting! That makes it even less surprising.

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• Boomkop3@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  People have told me, it’s how I’ve seen friends and family go trough dating profiles, and weirdly enough I once saw a researcher use a lot of tech and data just to conclude the journalist should smile more

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  • jbrains@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m enjoying being told about these counterexamples, as I’m seeing even more clearly how this attitude is embedded in our shared culture.

    So far, all the specific contexts in which men are being told to smile is one in which others feel entitled to the man attempting to impress them. In contexts such as dating or performing on video or working in retail, this doesn’t particularly surprise me.

    I suppose another reasonable context is one in which the people asking you to smile are genuinely worried about your emotional state and want you to seem happier. By chance is it typically like that for you? (Let’s set aside for now the complex matter of whether they actually want you to feel better or they merely want to control your behavior or feel less uncomfortable themselves.)

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    • Boomkop3@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That has happened, yes. Not as often anymore though, but to be fair, I already smile a lot nowadays

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• mushroomstormtrooper@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Well people have frequently mistaken me for a woman most of my life and thats happened to me a few times. Its intrusive and irritating to be told I should look a certain way, especially by a stranger and I would consider it rude to say to anyone unsolicited.

  Thats not to say its not worse for women having to deal with the objectification layer, too.

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• Free_Opinions@feddit.uk ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I can tell you 100 stories of telling a man to eat more so that they wouldn’t be so skinny.

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