MerrySkeptic

@MerrySkeptic@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People often say "Don't talk to the police", but what if a friend, neighbor, or a loved one gets kidnapped and you want to help the victim?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It depends. Location, race, social status, and luck determine what kind of experience someone gets

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does the "White Power Ranger" seem like an odd title?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Relevant Key and Peele sketch

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨50501?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s a decent sized movement, so you’d have to look into what’s happening in your neck of the woods. Mine is planning a protest outside an ICE detention center this week

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot more moisture farming and shooting womp rats. Occasional space wizards. That sort of thing

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don't people like Melon Tusk get tired of the shit they gave you pull through literally every day ? I mean doesn't the guilt of bad decisions pull them down enough like the rest of us ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  1. He’s a narcissist. People don’t get to his level of wealth by having compassion for the feelings of others. No billionaire ever gat there through their own hard work, they did it by taking advantage of the hard work of other people. He literally does not give a fuck. But narcissists aren’t typically born in a vacuum.

  2. Do some research on his upbringing. His father was a narcissist and did all he could to make his son unfettered by compassion for others through constant power games and humiliation. He was raised in South Africa where there was a huge macho culture and it was expected that the strong took advantage of the weak. Elon himself was picked on mercilessly by his classmates, though so he literally had to cope by suppressing his own emotions and not caring about the feelings of most others. I say “most” because the exception would be the fact that he was constantly trying to earn the approval of his father because of his twisted upbringing. Even after his parents divorced when he was 9, he eventually went back to live with his dad despite the constant criticism. In short, Elon learned during his formative years that compassion was a weakness and you can’t just flip a switch to unlearn that.

  3. He does copious amounts of drugs and sleeps with a constant stream of women to hide from any possible problematic feelings that would get in the way of his ambitions

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Ask her to imagine the following: let’s say she ends up being really close to your spouse one day, like she couldn’t have imagined a better pick. The two of them become super close, but as the years go on, for whatever reason, you end up having an affair. Now ask her if she would go no contact with you because maintaining a relationship would condone your actions and ignore your spouse’s suffering.

  If she says no, then maybe she could see a bit of where you’re coming from. If she says yes, well then I would wonder if a lack of empathy was part of the reason your dad sought a relationship elsewhere (not that that justifies cheating).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  “Sometimes I just like to be by myself and listen to my own thoughts. We can talk tomorrow though. You didn’t do anything wrong.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do children address a non-binary parent?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No you have it backwards, it’s DOM. As in, “I was bad so my dom had to punish me.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is it wrong/selfish to cut contact with my trump-supporting father?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do whatever you can live with. That said, you have other options besides all or nothing. You can tell him that it’s taxing to be around him and ask for specific behavioral changes you’d like to see to make things more tolerable. Whether or not he agrees to them is up to him, but you’re at least trying for a workable relationship.

  I emphasize behavioral change because he can’t just flip a switch on his beliefs. No one can. Our beliefs are a conclusion based a number of factors including our experiences, the information we are exposed to, our emotions, etc. He couldn’t switch his off and on any more than you could.

  If you really want to affect his beliefs he will have to feel like you hear and understand them first. Be curious without expressing judgement. If he feels heard he might be more open to reciprocating that feeling and hear you out.

  But you’re not obligated to do that. If you can’t take it then be honest with yourself and take care of you. Just don’t get stuck in black and white thinking