MyBrainHurts
@MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca
- Comment on Everytime I use frozen spinach in a recipe 5 days ago:
You should write a poem about that!
- Comment on I Got This Right, Right? 5 days ago:
I can’t speak to the shooter’s motivations (though meme forensics seems pretty silly) but the “at a Right wing state with a Right wing governor” etc bits seem pretty dumb.
It’d be like saying the guy who went after Pelosi was clearly a Leftie because it was in a Leftie state, with a Left song governor, in a Left wing city against a Left wing politician. Pretty nonsense points and make us look dumb.
- Comment on What is with this new generation of shooters writing stuff on the bullets? Is this some new fad like if I go deer hunting or something I write FUCK BAMBI on the bulllet? 1 week ago:
Back in the day, shooters etc wrote lengthy manifestos.
I think they’ve realized that these days no one is going to read a full length manifesto so it’s better to note their thoughts in…
Bullet point.
(Sorry.)
- Comment on US officials plan to punish foreigners ‘making light of’ Charlie Kirk death 1 week ago:
No better way to honour someone who, as much as I dislike him, consistently argued government should not restrict speech and different opinions, no matter how repugnant.
- Comment on don't trust cowboys or people doing cowboy voices 3 weeks ago:
I thought LLMs were better than this.
- Comment on Deal to get ChatGPT Plus for whole of UK discussed by Open AI boss and minister 4 weeks ago:
Interesting gamble for a government in desperate need of either economic growth or a very public win.
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 4 weeks ago:
If they were approaching this from a truly moral position they would boycot establishments where tipping is expected. Instead they freeload and feel entitled to a server paid the literal minimum wage.
Exactly my thoughts. All this attitude does is punish a probably vulnerable person trying to make a decent living.
You can seek out non tip places etc but to go to ones that are tip and just give a shitty tip… Ugh.
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 4 weeks ago:
Might be different where you live but at least in North America, a lot of places split tips between front of house and the back (cooks, cleaners etc) and they do that on a percentage of volume, not the actual tips that come in.
Say, back of house takes a standard 5%. If you tip the server 5 quid on dinner and drinks for 4 which is almost certainly over 100, the difference comes out of the waitresses pocket.
Personally, I find that a form of theft from those least able to absorb it. And being a person with empathy, I think that is wrong. But to each their own.
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 4 weeks ago:
Not tipping for drinks, 5 or 10 on a meal for 3 or 4 is being cheap. (Even if you manage to all spend only 20 a person, 5 on an 80 bill is less than 10% and such a bad tip that depending on the establishment, it may have cost the server money to feed you.)
I assumed you were justifying it with “pay your staff so they don’t need to rely on tips.”
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 4 weeks ago:
Really depends.
Typically, $1 is for a standup bar etc with high volume.
If I’m sitting at the bar top, getting fed, I’ll tip like I would were I sitting at a table. If I’m just sucking down beers, probably a buck or two a drink and if I’ve been a while, a 5 on top at the end.
But, I’ve known a lot of people in the industry etc… Also I’ve found that being a good person who tips helps out in the long run, it’s nice getting the occasional free drink, having the server on your side when flirting with folks at the bar etc. Best one was the bartender gave me really high end ski gloves that had been left behind a couple nights prior, the cash equivalent would’ve been huge.
As they say, it’s nice to be nice.
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 4 weeks ago:
You not tipping doesn’t teach the business owner, it just hurts those who aren’t in a position to change things and depending on the place, really need help. I’ve known too single moms who were servers to agree with this.
Lobby your local politicians, seek out places that don’t accept tips but don’t be a cheapskate and act like it’s a noble cause.
- Comment on Why is the abusive parent always portrayed as being the father, why is the mother never portrayed as abusive? 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, I think the underlying message in a lot of disney is you’re better off with a dead mom than a live one.
- Comment on Why is the abusive parent always portrayed as being the father, why is the mother never portrayed as abusive? 5 weeks ago:
Not really answering the question but if you’re looking for movies with an abusive mom, there are more than a few! (especially horror.) Off the top of my head:
Carrie is the classic, hereditary is a new classic. Braindead (dead alive) is a classic splatter horror.
Non horror: I Tonya, black swan, Mommie Dearest, Precious, Beau is afraid, Wild at Heart and maybe 8 mile?
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
It’s a uhhh, metaphor. Not actually about housing but about being forced to learn a new skill (in this case, dating.) The more common expression/metaphor would be “thrown into the deep end.”
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Honestly, I found dating in my late 20s early 30s to be the best. Everyone’s been in a few relationships, people are starting to get their shit figured out, folks generally have some disposable income etc. Yeah, some folks have baggage but others had baggage from family, high school or whatever else and some have worked through it.
Late 30s onwards, there’s a lot of “I’ve been to 4 weddings this summer, when is it myyyyyyyyy turn!” Or on the 2nd date, “let’s make a baby!”
- Comment on Cyberstalking has surged by 70% in the UK since 2012, study finds 1 month ago:
That’s actually probably impressive.
In 2013, instagram hit 100 million monthly users (and now has 20x that, unsure about geographic distribution but…). I personally assume cyber stalking and mass online social media adoption are reasonably correlated.
Rough thesis? Back in the day, higher proportion of people were cyber stalked. Many more people went publicly online, more people stalked but as a percentage of those online, probably less than the apparently brave trail blazers.
- Comment on What do you call the first person with a new genetic mutation 2 months ago:
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 2 months ago:
Which of those groups do you routinely lie to?
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 2 months ago:
“Sorry date/group of friends/family/work function, we can’t eat here. I don’t want to scan a QR code.”
- Comment on Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few? 2 months ago:
Judging by how many people wear clothes made by children in sweatshops, I’d say the wants of the many seem to outweigh the needs of the few.
- Comment on My Take Home Pay 2 months ago:
Admittedly, a lot of taxes are misspent but a quarter of your income seems a bargain.
For example, I imagine getting to your jon would be really difficult without roads. Or a semi functional legal system that stops people from just robbing your business whenever they feel like it. Or a system that enforces contracts and property rights.
I’ve had a job where I didn’t pay taxes. It didn’t end well.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 3 months ago:
I’d like to be friends but only if we can have sex.
Doesn’t really sound like a rock solid friendship there.
- Comment on Gaza will be entirely destroyed, Israeli minister says 4 months ago:
At least Kamala learned her lesson! /s
- Comment on What do office workers actually do? 4 months ago:
I can only give my experience and I think mine is a bit unusual but here goes.
Like the Office Space folks, I’m a dev in a large (admittedly, non profit and really good) organization. Since covid, I’ve worked remotely but my day to day hasn’t changed.
We have a help desk where people send questions/issues. Someone on our team generally splits those roughly based on workload, skills, knowledge etc. Our goal is about half our work should be those one off requests.
I also have client units within the organization. They usually come to me with wild, bold ideas that I help make a reality or explain (gently) why what they are asking for is insane. Some of thr projects are based on what folks have heard are best practices in our industry, others are about cutting down manual work/seeing what we can automate.
Any of those projects can take anywhere from a couple hours to a couple of months. Some require buy in from other units, so on those I end up on a lot of meetings and email threads answering questions, hearing suggestions etc. I then (usually) coordinate with my manager to make sure I’m not stepping on any toes or there aren’t considerations which I had yet to consider.
Today for example, I spent about half the day working on help desk tickets, about 1/3 of my time was clarifying “what the hell are you trying to say?” Or pointing out logical gaps etc (much easier to do this upfront than write a bunch of code and have someone realize they meant something else entirely… People are dumb.) The other 2/3 was coding.
On my major projects, I spent an annoying amount of time emailing around to get approvals so a project manager would accept that my clients were fine with something I built, even though it was a bit unorthodox. Then a couple hours actually working on another project.
Plus, y’know, Lemmy time, cat skritching time and a bit of cooking.
Admittedly, my experience is unusual. I’m hihhly skilled but slightly underpaid in a non profit, so folks compensate by giving a lot of leeway. So a nice work environment plus I think what I do makes the world a better place, I’m pretty happy. I understand most office jobs are not quite like that but I don’t think they’re far off.
- Comment on House Republicans unveil bill to avoid shutdown and they’re daring Democrats to oppose it 6 months ago:
If a Conservative President, Congress and Senate can’t pass a bill and the government shuts down, I wonder whom the people will blame.
- Comment on U.S. has halted sharing intelligence with Ukraine, CIA director says 6 months ago:
It’s wild how many of trump’s decisions are exactly what Putin wants.
