I’m neither being a cheapskate nor acting like it’s a noble cause. Not sure what you read.
You not tipping doesn’t teach the business owner, it just hurts those who aren’t in a position to change things and depending on the place, really need help. I’ve known too single moms who were servers to agree with this.
Lobby your local politicians, seek out places that don’t accept tips but don’t be a cheapskate and act like it’s a noble cause.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 1 day ago
MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Not tipping for drinks, 5 or 10 on a meal for 3 or 4 is being cheap. (Even if you manage to all spend only 20 a person, 5 on an 80 bill is less than 10% and such a bad tip that depending on the establishment, it may have cost the server money to feed you.)
I assumed you were justifying it with “pay your staff so they don’t need to rely on tips.”
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 1 day ago
Thinking a tip is owed for anything is being wildly presumptuous. Nobody is owed a tip, never mind a tip of an arbitrary value below which you ascribe people as cheap. Wise up.
MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Might be different where you live but at least in North America, a lot of places split tips between front of house and the back (cooks, cleaners etc) and they do that on a percentage of volume, not the actual tips that come in.
Say, back of house takes a standard 5%. If you tip the server 5 quid on dinner and drinks for 4 which is almost certainly over 100, the difference comes out of the waitresses pocket.
Personally, I find that a form of theft from those least able to absorb it. And being a person with empathy, I think that is wrong. But to each their own.
Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
There is no convincing them to change their behavior because it’s an emotional reaction they backfill with paper thin logical.
These are people who, if given a position where they determined employees wages they would pay the bare minimum. The temporarily embarrassed millionaire mindset, class traitors, etc.
If they were approaching this from a truly moral position they would boycot establishments where tipping is expected. Instead they freeload and feel entitled to a server paid the literal minimum wage.
MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Exactly my thoughts. All this attitude does is punish a probably vulnerable person trying to make a decent living.
You can seek out non tip places etc but to go to ones that are tip and just give a shitty tip… Ugh.