FriendOfDeSoto

@FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is the human body so incredibly bad at responding to colds?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  It is there to give men an idea of what childbirth is like. (Tongue very much in cheek)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Due to the bystander effect its highly unlikely any stranger would help you if you got attacked in a public space⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Good choice

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Due to the bystander effect its highly unlikely any stranger would help you if you got attacked in a public space⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  No, I don’t know which one. And I don’t want to watch people get hurt so I won’t seek it out either. There are incidents in this world that fit the theory of the bystander effect. That is not what I question. I’m questioning your calculation of odds regarding intervention. There are enough examples of “heroes without capes” that did intervene as well, also within groups of people.

  A shower thought doesn’t have to be well thought through. On the flip side, you don’t have to double down on it when folks point out the flaws.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Due to the bystander effect its highly unlikely any stranger would help you if you got attacked in a public space⁩ ⁨⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  The bystander effect is a theory, not fact. It can explain after the fact why people in groups feel less responsibility to do something. But it isn’t universally applicable to all assaults in public. There are many variables at play. So “highly unlikely” is an exaggeration in my view.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the origin of the whole "X destroys and humilates Y" genre of debate videos?⁩ ⁨⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  So what did the dog find? What? WHAT DID THE DOG FIND? TELL. ME. I HAVE TO KNOW!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the origin of the whole "X destroys and humilates Y" genre of debate videos?⁩ ⁨⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s just YouTube speak. The implied drama gets them more clicks. It’s how to frame the ancient medium of public debate for millenials and genz. It’s like YouTubers pulling the dumbest, silliest possible face on the thumbnail. It’ll have more views too.

  It’s also a sign of the times since Y2K that you couldn’t just have an enlightening discussion. Somebody has to get owned. Hitchens was forthright in his rhetoric but I never heard him be disrespectful. I’ve only ever seen him tracking the ball, not the players. But that’s boring so people add their own spice to it. And they tend to cut out any counter arguments if the footage was from a public debate.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is this still on the ace spectrum or what?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  You should add your age for context. You’re either a normal adolescent/young adult figuring shit out like all of us have to. Or you can consider yourself part of the spectrum, maybe in aceflux. You can do that at any age to be fair. I would just wait until maybe ~25 before you make your own identity ruling here. And keep in mind stuff changes over time still even after you’ve reached that age, maybe just at a slower pace.

  In the end, you do you. I would recommend honesty with your partners. They could be pretty pissed when they find out by accident that you’ve been more like holding your proverbial nose to enable intercourse.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there or has there ever been information illegal to possess or have?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Having info on the heliocentric solar system could land you in a dungeon or worse back in the day.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think conservative feel the same need to burn it all down as everyone else felt when trump won again?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  This is too simplistic. I know conservative voters who didn’t vote for 47, many not even for 45. Conservative is a value set and the Venn diagram of that with MAGA is far from a perfect overlap. If you replace “conservatives” with “47’s cult-like followers” I would come closer to agreeing with your take. I do take issue with “everyone else” though. I think that doesn’t hit the mark either. I think there is more purple between this red team/blue team thinking than there are both extremes of this scale added together. Stop digging deeper trenches. And don’t shoot your political opponents.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to disparage first responders on 911. Why aren't nurses included with fire and police departments? Did we not take care of people on the backend of the rescuing?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol I read that as “first responders or 911” as in nine one one. I would say the addition of a / might have clarified it. But that doesn’t diminish my failure at reading comprehension.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to disparage first responders on 911. Why aren't nurses included with fire and police departments? Did we not take care of people on the backend of the rescuing?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m fairly confident that you are generalizing this a bit and that there are police and fire fighting departments on this planet that employ nurses. In general though, first responders who get injured end up in the same system than the people they save and need medical attention: hospitals. If you are in need of nurse aftercare, you are probably off on sick leave - so what would the nurse actually do? Especially in the smaller bf-nowhere operations, I don’t see how you could justify the cost. Plus, most firehouses have paramedics already. They’re not the same as a nurse but bring a lot of similar skills.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did I used to be homophobic? Am I?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  If we are honest with ourselves, we all have biases that end in -phobia. They are on a siding scale and get more pronounced in certain situations. The assholes in society don’t gaf about their biases and don’t care if they say or do hurtful things as a result. The more enlightened people know about their lizard brain biases and try their best not to act on them.

  Maybe you are a bit homophobic. But you are aware of your biases and you can make sure you don’t act on them in a way that is hurtful to other people. Knowing is half the battle. So don’t beat yourself up over it. From what I’ve been reading in your post you are doing it right.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some franchises with characters that personify countries?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Asterix

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There is no simple answer to this. It’s like at least three factors interacting. How much empathy do you feel towards the other person? How close is your relationship on the scale of strangers bumping into each other on the street to best friends forever? How big an issue has any of this been objectively (or as close as you can get there)? So that’s three sliding scales to adjust to get an outcome. The closer a relationship is, the harder this can be because there is history and people (I’m including myself in this) can be very petty.

  Just judging by the hints you dropped you should probably reconsider your approach to your coworkers. And I don’t mean you need to be submissively apologetic all the time and share everything from your private life, even your hemorrhoid problems, with the crew. You’ll probably make your life easier just on a human level plus improve odds of promotion if you do more of that, even if it feels more line cosplay to you. I share your “grow the eff up”/no bullshit stance but that only works in a group of like minded people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s the wrong label, anti-intellectualusm. Sense of reality might do it more justice. I think there are two factors at play. 1) how much does higher education cost you? Does it put you in debt you’ll be lucky to have paid off before you retire? Have other people gotten degrees and still ended up unemployed? Why get majorly in debt to get no job in the end? That’s more a North American specific problem. I’m in Asia and I haven’t heard anybody shit talking college degrees in favor of the trades. 2) We need plumbers and carpenters and welders and whatnot. And due to declining birth rates in many places and the fact that the numerous birth years of the boomers are retiring and will continue to retire in the short term, we are running out of sparkies, masons, and HVACs. So if you had to career advise people today, you’d be silly not to bring up a profession with near certainty of getting a job once you’re trained up.

  Shitty work environments exist in more high brow professions as well.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Through the Lens of Time" was one of the silliest episodes yet [Spoilers]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Think about it

  I have done that. I’m just more forgiving than you. They may have shot the go ahead scene and cut it for an unrelated reason. They may have decided not to want to get Romijn or Mount do another ADR session, which costs money. The Paramount/Skydance merger loomed heavily over this season’s production with tight budgets and uncertainty for the future. I’m not saying the episode is perfectly put together. I guess what I am saying is that you are hung up on one detail here. I suggest you give it the Elsa treatment.

  This is my perspective: this is a silly show. They did a musical episode, which I really didn’t like. They did a documentary episode, which I could’ve done without. I feel Babylon 5 did a much better job with this kind of meta TV episode. They took the established “space dad” Pike character and made him unsure and hesitant this season and I don’t know why. They are taking a soap approach to relationships within the show. The show is a dead man walking with its end after 5 more episodes already decided. All new Trek shows have already been axed and I’m not optimistic about the success of Academy. S31… With all of this going on in the background I choose to smile that SNW exists and not cry because the stories are wonky here or there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would you ever give up your right to leave a bad review about a company?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  People are mad. There are mad people on both sides.

  Consumers can feel very empowered by a few hundred followers and one bad experience. And that translates more into a diss track, embelished and dramatized, than an honest review. Entrepreneurs justifiably fear this because this can hurt their businesses significantly. So they fight back with this legal retcon attempt. It’s most likely not enforceable - and they probably know that too. If they wouldn’t mind you speaking positively about you online, they cannot keep the negative stuff out either (as long as it is based in fact, libel is a different story). This little boiler plate serves only to give pause to the consumer. It plants a seed of restraint in their minds (if they actually read it).

  Humans are a complicated species.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We can all agree kids shouldn’t be watching porn. We do not agree on how to achieve this.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is playing horror games a good way to get desensitized to fear, or it gonna backfire and make my anxiety worse?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That was only option 2.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is playing horror games a good way to get desensitized to fear, or it gonna backfire and make my anxiety worse?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You need to try for yourself. Or consult a therapist who knows you well enough. Us idiots on the internet cannot look inside your head.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Through the Lens of Time" was one of the silliest episodes yet [Spoilers]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think “vibe scripted” is harsh. The writers were bumping against the restriction that they need ::: spoiler spoiler Chapel blood next to anybody when they enter or exit the place. That’s why the alien buys it. Scaredy pants tries to go out on his own and gets fried. They wanted to avoid another entrance/exit on screen to keep us guessing how this Star Trek Inception works. :::

  It’s a version of “commander, you better take a look at this.” It keeps the suspense up for the audience as Riker saunters over, maneuvering over multiple chairs, to take a look at the corpse of the mortal enemy of the federation. In a real military, Worf would say something like “heads up, Romulan casualties on the premise, everybody be on the lookout.” That’s to prevent the commander or anybody else from getting shot by a possible half-dead Rom in the rubble. But that’s not great television. It’s just script writing 101.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I rewatch Deep Space Nine Duet episode, why Bashir didn't resurrect Darkhe'el?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Gul Darheel is dead and buried on Cardassia. Smug Dukat tells Odo he attended his funeral. That’s kind of a big ask for Bashir to accomplish resurrection from DS9.

  Marritza suffered from the HDJ syndrome as well. It befalls characters whose death fits the story - and it is a more impactful ending with Kira almost mourning the loss of this guy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a word for the happiness in finding the exact right word?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Wortfindungseuphorie.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s not universally true. Necrophiles may be past that, according to preference.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Kids are probably old enough to get it. I would just think that you will be loading a shotgun that’s going to shoot you in the face down the line. Either the ladies will get in each other’s hair or, worse, they’ll team up against you. I think your girlfriend is either insane or not entirely honest when she says she would be fine with your arrangement. I would sooner suggest you look for a place closeby. I’m guessing the 15yo is eye rolling you hard and the 13yo will soon not care about you either. You’ve carried them through the divorce rough spot with your unique living arrangement. Take a bow and let it go. Provide a better environment for your new relationship.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But everyone deserves a threat and if you live in the USA, then tip is required…

  That typo is more apt than intended.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is "AI" the end of truth?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We are just asking old questions here. The printing press, novels, and pamphlets were the end of truth! We struggled, many people died, but life moved on. Then newspapers, more death, radio, world wars. Television, photoshop, the internet - fewer deaths in between but still. And life moved on.

  Every new medium brought a phase of uncertainty (and possible carnage). That’s where we are right now. Every time we think “this is the worst EVER.” Until the next thing comes around. We will figure out the slop tsunami as well. I think fewer people will die than during the reformation.

  Some people will successfully bend truth to generated video or whatever. But in the end, most will not succeed. Because we get wiser at spotting the bullshit. Q Anon showed us the learning isn’t a linear development; it follows more of a two steps forward, one step back pattern.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it better to: [A] watch videos content on a flagship/midrange smartphone that you already have, OR [B] get a cheap tablet (say, around $200 USD) to watch videos?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Have you ever noticed the difference in screen quality before? Did you ever watch a YT video on something slightly better than a cathode ray monitor and thought to yourself: “hmm, this is shit.”? If so, don’t cheap out on the tablet. Maybe a used iPad might even be ideal. I’m leaning Apple here because Android tablet screens tend to be worse on average and there will be fewer good ones on the resale market.

  If you don’t want a big TV, how about a smaller one that you can cast content to? Just as another suggestion because other folks have already suggested laptops.

  As you get older, your eyes turn to shit and most of this won’t matter that much. So you’re right to be cautious on the spending.

  I proudly watch movies on my phone. If I don’t want to watch Paw Patrol or Frozen it’s the only way to get some not-made-for-kids content in. And I can take it to the toilet and continue watching. And I don’t mean porn, just to clarify. Sure, as the cinematic experience goes, it isn’t what Christopher Nolan had in mind but shit happens. It’s that or nothing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not a geneticist, I don’t even play one on TV. But i’m fairly confident in saying: evening out? That’s not how this works. When your daddy’s sperm combined with your mother’s egg, a whole host of chance processes happened to make up your genes. It’s random as far as I can tell. It isn’t just averaging out between them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If there's a sort of "apocalyptic" event but there are still surviving communities, will people be able to make eyeglasses again, or are people with vision issues gonna be fucked?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It took centuries to get to disposable contact lenses while trying to figure out the physics, both in optics and in manufacturing any sort of spectacles, at the same time.

  Will the survivors of the apocalypse be able to pick up where we left off or will they essentially start from scratch? That depends on the apocalypse and on the survivors. Do documents and knowledge survive, perhaps in a stash or in digital form? Do the survivors include an optician or a material engineer? Chances look good if that’s the case. If no, life will get a lot harder for many people.