flicker
@flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Mentally ill woman in my late 30s.
I’m here to help!
(Formerly of lemmy.world and of kbin.social before that.)
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
“Punching someone in the head can be just as fatal as stabbing.”
I’m genuinely surprised people don’t know this.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
Punching someone also has the risk of being fatal.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
I don’t like arguing from a legal standpoint, because a legal standpoint is not necessarily a moral one, but where I live, things are different.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
I keep thinking… nobody (that I know of) was mad when that one guy called the other the n word, and threatened to beat his ass, so he bashed his face in with a twisted tea. A woman gets slurred at and spits in a guy’s face, and it’s okay to hit her? Three times? She’s not allowed to defend herself?
It’s hypocritical. Either hate speech is violence or it’s not.
(In case it’s not clear, I may not have violence in me, but I fully believe twisted tea guy did the right thing.)
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
That (and that history of mental illness) make me think they should’ve put her in a mental institution. The woman is not well. The attention from this isn’t going to fix it either, that’s for sure.
I mean, there’s video of her getting beaten on by a couple of men either earlier this year, or last year. She said before the whole knife incident that she’d kill the guy if he laid hands on her, because no one is going to ever do that to her again. “Never again” is something I’ve heard from many other survivors. This woman has a responsibility not to be around others who might trigger her (especially while she possesses a knife) but I feel like that’s the survivor mantra.
And I feel like she’s not getting grace that I would get in her position.
Now I love sharing what my fiance thinks when stuff like this happens, and his opinion is, she shouldn’t have escalated it, she was wholly wrong, 15 years is dumb. It’s hilarious that we have very different reasoning and the same conclusion.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
I think if you were all up in someone’s space screaming at them, there’s a certain level of expected spit contact there just from talking, right?
Which is another reason you and I wouldn’t be in this position. Gross!
But I do want to clarify I don’t think she should be able to just like, walk away scot free from this. I just whole-heartedly disagree with people who want her dead. Or who think that fifteen years isn’t a long enough sentence. Fifteen years is a long time. People are way too ready to discard people in this country.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
He said video showed Hodges hurled slurs at Cruz, and that she only used the pocket knife — which she bought at a dollar store moments before the altercation, prosecutors claimed — after she felt threatened.
Hodges took off his jacket in the video, “the international symbol in New York City for ‘Let’s go, we’re going to fight,’ and rolls up his sleeves and hits her,'” Schuman told the court.
“While he’s still berating her, he called her a f—-t and a t—-y and she spit on him.”
So let me first say, I took that word for word, in the order you see it, from an earlier New York Post article. I hate giving them any attention, but the screenshot of a headline we’re commenting on came from a blurb from the same website, as an ‘update’ to the article I linked. It really shows that ya’ll didn’t actually read anything, and are just commenting on other comments. They were at a bodega, where she allegedly cut in line. That’s what started all this. She was supposed to ‘get him fired’ when he was off duty? You know how hard it is to get a postal worker fired?
So they’re just two people at a bodega. She allegedly cut in line- I can’t see her saying she did, or didn’t, or where there was any reported camera footage. This dude starts screamin and cussin. She spits in his face. He hits her three times, she knifes him with the knife she just bought next door.
The fact that people are jumping to defend a guy hitting a woman for spitting in his face, because it’s “escalating” and disrespectful, but ignoring that it was a response to escalating and disrespectful behavior, is ridiculous. You don’t blame the guy who got knifed for yelling slurs first? You don’t blame the guy for striking her after getting spit in the face? Why is she supposed to quietly and meekly accept this behavior when he can make her feel unsafe?
A man makes me feel unsafe and then hits me, three times! Three! I should absolutely knife him. I probably should’ve knifed him after the first time. (I’m kind of a big wimp so I don’t think I’d be able to knife a guy, but I for sure would be right to defend myself.) And you know what? I’m a dumpy, middle-aged, short white woman. If a guy hits me even once and I knife him in self defense, and then say, “he deserved it,” there are a lot of people who would be agreeing with me.
- Comment on A postal worker in Harlem attacked a trans woman. She fought back and fatally stabbed him in self-defense. This is how the NY Post framed it. 1 week ago:
This is so disgusting because she totally deserved to stab him in self defense. Getting hit three times necessitates self defense.
And I, a ciswoman, laugh when shit gets real because I have weird berserker blood or something. I can’t control it, so if I’m going to stab someone in self defense, I would probably be laughing, too.
- Comment on Never Forget. Please dear god don't forget 1 week ago:
“I’m scared,” says Ralph.
But I am an author, and take control of this story. Ralph does not understand fear. His existence was short, his history nonexistent, his understanding of the world and his place within it unreal, characterized by the agony of going from non-being, to screaming awareness all in an instant.
The author has returned Ralph to the imaginary realm from which he sprang, freeing him, and any unwitting victims who witnessed his short, confusing reality.
Truly, the only monster here was the first narrator, a casual god who created Ralph only to serve as an instrument of suffering.
- Comment on My wife says it's thanks to wearing sunscreen and avoiding cigarettes 1 week ago:
I was just talking about this in another thread!
I avoid the sun at all costs but my slightly older sister used to burn on purpose to get a tan every summer. I don’t smoke, she does. She has a lot of very deep wrinkles- I have none.
Worlds of difference.
- Comment on I am not a builder… but that does not seem right 1 week ago:
God, thank you. I have a long history of trauma such that ‘jokes’ about an unfun, unhealthy life aren’t fucking funny when they could be a cry for help in ‘joke’ form. I’d much rather offer someone who’s ‘joking’ the support they might be too afraid to ask for than to ‘laugh’ at a ‘joke’ about a bad time.
- Comment on I am not a builder… but that does not seem right 1 week ago:
This is entirely alien to me, and I can’t understand it, but… As long as you’re happy? I hope you are. For the most part, at least. If someone insisted on talking at me for long periods I’d lose my dang mind.
- Comment on I am not a builder… but that does not seem right 1 week ago:
I hope you’re joking when you say your marriage is hell. If you’re not, maybe consider not being married? You deserve to not live in hell.
- Comment on respect dandelions! 1 week ago:
I am entirely over ‘blank won’t fuck you’ as a response to shit. It’s cliched and trite and kills a conversation.
- Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving? 1 week ago:
Naw, just ADHD and my eyes jumped to the shortest bullet first.
- Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving? 1 week ago:
You needed five points to get to saying you don’t know what I’m talking about?
- Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving? 1 week ago:
I encourage them to continue trying. For science.
- Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving? 1 week ago:
Please don’t believe literally anything you read that references procreation genetics. It turns out, humans are complicated, wars happen, some people value people for their feet more than their faces… there’s literally no data that’s concrete enough to be valuable enough, and anyone telling you otherwise is doing so either because they’re lying to themselves, to you, or selling something.
Source: having read quite a lot of it over my many years on this earth, and watching it be destroyed time and again. Hell, I could write a paper arguing that people typically choose mates based on their appearance, their intelligence, their height, their income, their geography, their history of family trauma, their interests, their smell… And find documentation of various dubiousness to support each argument.
- Comment on Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving? 1 week ago:
These words are in English, but the sentiment is so foreign to me I can’t seem to comprehend it.
…might be fried from work and classwork, tho.
- Comment on For the little guys. 2 weeks ago:
Lol I’m ridiculous
- Comment on For the little guys. 2 weeks ago:
I’m glad this was your takeaway as well because it felt to me like the second person was belittling the first, and… they really should shut the fuck up.
- Comment on Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia? 3 weeks ago:
The boyfriend (also ADHD) and I both have it for people making eating sounds, like eating with their mouths open. Your mentioning smacking made me think of that. Agh!
- Comment on Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia? 3 weeks ago:
I get real mad when people use ADHD as an excuse to be an inconsiderate bag of dicks.
I prefer to be interacting with several forms of media, yes. But I don’t need the sound up on all of them, and if I did, I’d put on my BT headphones and mix the sound levels individually. What an asshole.
- Comment on Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia? 3 weeks ago:
I’m ADD as hell and I couldn’t have got with someone who played their things loud like that. I can tolerate one audible thing, but multiple?
- Comment on The joy of a family that values education celebrating the graduation of their son 3 weeks ago:
Identifying nazis should never be niche.
- Comment on Pope Joan 4 weeks ago:
You know that was why they stopped with calling them weird.
Because it was working.
- Comment on The new AMERICAN pope doesn't even speak AMERICAN 4 weeks ago:
He also made a statement about building bridges.
For those among you who don’t speak Catholic, this was a direct call-out to Trump. Francis was known for saying you should build bridges, not walls.
- Comment on Palworld confirms ‘disappointing’ game changes forced by Pokémon lawsuit 4 weeks ago:
Oooh, thank you for reminding me that game exists. I still haven’t played it, and so many people have told me it’s good!
- Comment on Palworld confirms ‘disappointing’ game changes forced by Pokémon lawsuit 4 weeks ago:
There are over 1,000 pokemon. I think it’s a Tolkien situation- where famously, you can’t write fantasy without using ingredients that Tolkien created, because if you do, obviously it’s from Tolkien, and if you didn’t, the reader is asking why not? That kinda deal.
If you set out to create a game involving collecting, or even looking at and cataloguing, a bunch of different fantasy creatures, you’re going to have some that are at least a little similar to pokemon. The electibuzz/grizzbolt example you gave is a fantastic one. You’re claiming it’s stolen, but that there is a cat creature with a single lightning bolt in it’s belly. Versus a… monkeything? Covered in them. My point here being, even if they didn’t steal (which, I’m sure they did, there are other, better examples) at a certain point you have to accept that with 1,000 pokemon, there’s going to be overlap, so you either need to just be up front about the stealing, or you need to spend 5x the amount of development time making sure none of your creatures have overlap.
Personally, Pokemon has been around for more than 25 years. Even if they released a million games a year, they shouldn’t get to gatekeep ‘all creature-collection simulators that you use balls for and that you can ride like a dragon.’ Fuck that. They got infinite money back on their initial investment, and they shouldn’t be allowed to just own the ideas. This is the kind of bullshit that makes me (a lifelong pokemon fan) want to never, ever, ever give them money again.
- Comment on Prices are out of control 4 weeks ago:
You could also demand to see the kerrygold’s papers, and then leave with it.