Brainsploosh
@Brainsploosh@lemmy.world
- Comment on The rise of AI in everything is creating an imbalance, thus we need more IA to restore harmony. 4 days ago:
Intervention and Action?
- Comment on I want a boyfriend, but I feel like I don't deserve to have one, and I keep alternating between those two thoughts which is making me feel confused. Is this normal? 2 weeks ago:
First of all, I’m impressed you’re reaching out for other perspectives. It’s far too easy to get stuck with your thoughts beating down on yourself.
Something therapists often train you to ask is “are there external reasons for those thoughts?”, as thoughts come and go much of their own volition, that’s just how brains do. Sometimes there’s good reason for thoughts, a lot of the time it’s just “what-ifs”.
It sounds to me that there are multiple layers to your story. Saying you feel like you don’t deserve someone as well as the ruminating self doubt sounds over such a long time sounds like Major Depression. It’s a nasty thing that makes a lot of other things harder, medication and therapy usually make things easier so that you have the resources to affect whatever else you’d like to affect.
If medical attention isn’t available where you’re at, you’re still gonna have to adress those issues, it’s just going to be harder. You will need a way to get out of ruts, set strengthening habits, build and use a support network, and learn to manage the depression. Again, all to free up resources to address the rest.
A lot happens within us when we lose a partner, and even more when we survive one. Maybe some of the self doubt comes from that, maybe from how you were coping, maybe from feeling down for an extended time, maybe something else. Therapists are trained in talking through these things, but journalling and talking to friends can also help. One tool is to aim to understand your feelings and with compassion accept that you felt and did as best you could, you can easily find others.
As for the sexuality thing - depression does weird things both to self image, libido, and sexuality. I had a bit similar experience to your’s where I found no attraction or lust, but as I got better a lot came back (and some things changed).
On the off chance that it’s actually not just depression messing, I’ll mention that sexuality is a complex thing and it’s common to have thoughts and feelings about it, just as it changes and develops with time, people, situations, etc.
It’s entirely possible to be attracted and sexrepulsed, sometimes it’s helpful to split attraction for different aspects. You could be aesthetically attracted to someone who appeals on looks, or you could be romantically attracted to someone you’d like to court (or be courted by), beyond sexually attracted by someone you want to share bodyparts with you, some people will tick multiple attractions (including ones not mentioned here). With some forethought and clear communication, it’s entirely possible to build long term relationships around all combinations of these, and crucially without one or more of these.
I would agree that genitals are gross and weird, but then again I like doing stuff to them on people I’d like to share pleasure with. As someone else mentioned, I would never enjoy handling my own genitals the way others seem to enjoy immensely, and vice versa. Beyond basic hygiene (wash with water, let dry, keep clean of litter), that’s just how genitals are.
Then there’s also contrasts between being repulsed by the thought, not understanding, and not wanting to stimulate such genitals. All are valid, and with a little insight you might live happily with where you’re comfortable. If the thought of someone handling your genitals repulses you, maybe don’t do that and make sure to choose a partner that accepts that. If you don’t want to stimulate someone with similar genitals, you’re encouraged not to, it’s common enough to be called “straight”. If you don’t understand but you’re fine with someone enjoying your genitals, choose someone you enjoy enjoying you.
In the spirit of pride month you might have access to resources for the terms ace/asexual, aro/aromantic, gray/graysexual, RA/relationship anarchy, heterosexuality, situational sexuality, reproductive health.
- Comment on I want a boyfriend, but I feel like I don't deserve to have one, and I keep alternating between those two thoughts which is making me feel confused. Is this normal? 2 weeks ago:
Could it be vitamin D from the sun?
- Comment on It's not supposed to make sense... 2 weeks ago:
Thank you for your answer!
Maybe I’m too dense, but what happens with other quantum states that aren’t position/velocity based? I’m thinking things like when we collapse spin, e.g. in entangled particles.
I’ve heard that entangled particles are “one use”, I’d assume they can be restored and possibly re-entangled, but how?
- Comment on It's not supposed to make sense... 2 weeks ago:
Honest question: what happens afterwards? When we’ve stopped observing, does it reassemble into it’s superpositive form? Are we depleting quantum states somehow?
- Comment on Wise words 2 weeks ago:
You can say stupid on Lemmy
- Comment on Klarna’s AI replaced 700 workers — Now the fintech CEO wants humans back after $40B fall 3 weeks ago:
Yes, let’s go back to the company who’d sack me and loads of my colleagues on the whim that an untested notion of a tool might work.
I’m sure they’ll value me this time
- Comment on Got some more folks?? 4 weeks ago:
What’s brown and sticky?
A stick
- Comment on ‘It’s real y’all’: People are sharing their tariff receipts, and my wallet is not ready for what’s coming 1 month ago:
The manpower is there and will be driven by necessity and availability. There’s nothing to suggest that manpower is inherently different, the goat herders and lavender farmers do their work manually not because they’re stupid or hard working, but that it’s the best available job. You might have some whining in between though, that’s what the protests and fascism is about.
In some sense, high paying tech/service jobs are just leveraging infrastructure (of communications, education, networking, political stability, power, etc.) to create the high profits enabling the cushiness of workplace.
Manufacturing doesn’t require that. It might be that with the plan signalled in the intense government (which is the main driver of infrastructure) cuts, there will be no other option in about 10-15 years time. Or at least with a larger class divide.
The strange thing is that it also generates less wealth, meaning less money for the rich folks to get rich off of. Is it just short sighted, or do they have a planned exit?
- Comment on Papa I'm scared 1 month ago:
“You are what you eat” the Blue Fairy’s wisdom echoed, as Pinocchios gaze turned towards the elementary school.
- Comment on Could wastewater plant simply heat up water past 500C to decompose all chemicals and output clean water? 1 month ago:
Raising water temperature from 10 to 500 degrees requires about 500 calories/mm3. That’s 2 MJ/litre, meaning if you want to heat 1 liter/second you need 2 MW with perfect insulation, so a power plant of say 10 MW.
A post industrial world citizen could probably get by on 200 l/day (US averages about 300/day. That needs 2 kW/person/day.
Total global energy production is about 630 EJ which averages out at about 12 TW.
Meaning if the whole global energy production went to treat water in that way, we have enough clean water for about 6 million people.
- Comment on A Stunning Fusion Rocket Could Cut Interplanetary Travel in Half—and We'll Try It in Just 2 Years 2 months ago:
Still blocked, but thank you
- Comment on A Stunning Fusion Rocket Could Cut Interplanetary Travel in Half—and We'll Try It in Just 2 Years 2 months ago:
Article is capped at 18 views/day so can’t see numbers.
But theoretical cap of energy from a would be something like E_kin = (\gamma -1)mc². Witgout knowing anytging about the mission or engine, a 50 kg probe at a velocity of .9 c means an energy requirement of about 1,0e21 J.
Fusion of H2 to H3 yields about 340e9 J/g meaning we need about 300 million kg of fuel at 100% conversion rate, or a third if we manage He3 reaction.
Realistically heating, engine efficiency, deceleration, vibrational damping and such would probably lower efficiency to at most 40% and we end up at 750 million kg of fuel to propel a 50 kg payload.
Seems unfeasible.
- Comment on Fuck geometry 6 months ago:
They’re about as imaginary as numbers are in general.
Complex numbers have real application in harmonics like electronics, acoustics, structural dynamics, damping, regulating systems, optronics, lasers, interferometry, etc.
In all the above it’s used to express relative phase, depending on your need for precision you can see it as a time component. And time is definitely a direction.
- Comment on Jesus Christ 7 months ago:
In English yes, but not in closer languages like Aramaic, Hebrew (יְהוֹשֻׁעַ (Yehoshua)) or Greek (ἰησοῦς (ioesous)).
Source (a little long but interesting read)
- Comment on Jesus Christ 7 months ago:
Should it more accurately be Yesus?
- Comment on If reality worked the way hiring managers and job interviews thought it did companies would have to fire everyone when they purchased new software since no one would have any experience using it. 7 months ago:
Apparently privileged men apply when fulfilling 60% of the requirements. Women and minorities 100%.
Maybe that’s why they have the ridiculous reqs?