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- Comment on The only way things can get better is by acknowledging that things aren't as good as they could be 1 day ago:
However, being dissatisfied and talking about how bad things are isn’t sufficient to make anything better.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 day ago:
Nope. I’m not supporting the feminist victim narrative here.
I’m just making a simple statement about what exclusive spaces do and do not mean. It’s not hateful to men to have women-only spaces.
Plenty of misandry exists in our culture, mostly fed by that victim narrative you’re espousing. But the simple act of making a woman’s club isn’t an example of misandry.
- Comment on Prime Video subs will soon see ads for Amazon products when they hit pause 1 day ago:
I hope they don’t call themselves “professionals” then
- Comment on Prime Video subs will soon see ads for Amazon products when they hit pause 1 day ago:
I have worked for a mega corp. I fought bad decisions by arguing with management about bad orders.
As a tech friend once told me, “It’s your job to make them understand”
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 day ago:
See that’s a problem.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 day ago:
Women-only spaces aren’t misandry
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 day ago:
That sucks. MRAs are idiots, and should have just moved to form their own men-only spaces instead of trying to ruin the women-only spaces.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 2 days ago:
If they’re gonna play that ‘women only’ card, then they should remove all works created by men and move them to a proper open museum.
Why?
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 2 days ago:
I disagree. I love my men-only spaces.
- Comment on Prime Video subs will soon see ads for Amazon products when they hit pause 2 days ago:
So why are they taking the checks? Why not fight?
- Comment on How come liberals dont hate conservatives the way conservatives hate liberals 2 days ago:
But they do? All the conservatives I listen to or hang out with don’t say a word of hate about liberals. But all the liberals I hang out with hate (as in actively, as in take time out of conversations to spend words and energy and time doing this), they actively hate conservatives.
They complain about conservatives. They say they’re evil and inhuman and ascribe all sorts of evil intent. They express the desire to purge them from the neighborhood, to disenfranchise them. I’ve seen calls for blood, many times.
When I hang out with conservatives, we don’t even talk politics. We talk about cars or whatever. There’s no time spent on hating anyone or anything. We talk about problems facing us, how the week went, etc.
Maybe the liberals I know just happen to be extremists, I don’t know. But that’s my experience. Liberals sit around and talk politics and how bad conservatives are. Conservatives sit around and talk about all sorts of stuff, and almost never mention liberals.
- Comment on Prime Video subs will soon see ads for Amazon products when they hit pause 2 days ago:
Jesus christ do these people not understand what “Pause” means? It means my roommate just walked in and wants to discuss something. It means we’re looking at the freeze frame to see some aspect of the shot. It means the same damned collection of events should happen any time a “Pause” control’s been triggered since the invention of playback.
Why are the UX people not fighting them on this? Why does design have to be about breaking everything these days?
- Comment on what is this game 3 days ago:
That’s Pac Man 2024
- Comment on There are songs we've gone our whole lives without hearing and our favorite song might still be out there. 4 days ago:
Yeah there’s other music that I enjoy more now, but I put on Nevermind the other day and my voice was hoarse within ten minutes. Sang that whole thing through at maximum volume in the car.
- Comment on There are songs we've gone our whole lives without hearing and our favorite song might still be out there. 4 days ago:
I’m an uber driver. I had a passenger and we got to discussing what kind of music she likes. She said “Little Wing” so I told Siri to play some “Little Wing”. Of course Siri knew what I was asking for and played some Lil Wayne.
Passenger said she liked Lil Wayne because he’s got different moods. “Sometimes I just wanna chill, you know? Like it ain’t gotta be all go-go-go all the time you know?”
So I asked her if she’d heard any BB King before. She said “Who’s that?” So I told Siri to play The Thrill is Gone by BB King.
She was like “Ooooooh! This is chill as fuck thank you!”
I had just learned about BB King the previous day from another passenger, when I had the Grateful Dead playing some blues. The passenger from the day before was an old hippie, and she was telling me about seeing BB King and Led Zeppelin at a place called The Psychedelic Supermarket in Salem, MA back in the 70s.
I also showed this younger passenger Since I’ve Been Loving You by Led Zeppelin. She was so stoked to have some new music to get her friends to chill to, since they all into that go-go-go music all the time.
I love being someone in a position to introduce people to new music. I love my job.
- Comment on Glorious Victory 4 days ago:
Maybe you’ll be teaching them that changing course brings no relief from punishment
- Comment on Glorious Victory 4 days ago:
Yeah but the humility in their actions shows they did.
- Comment on Why do people still eat beef when we know it's terrible for Earth? 5 days ago:
Each individual is facing the following choice in life:
- sacrifice to save the planet, and fail
- or not
People want to immediately jump to “if everyone would just …”
Nobody is looking at an “everyone does X” button. People only have their “I do X” button available.
So that is literally the answer to your question. Very few people would sacrifice the civilization to eat a cheeseburger. But nobody has that choice or that power in their hands. Their choice is eat the cheeseburger or not, and the survival of civilization stays rigidly the same between those two choices.
- Comment on [Serious] Do you know of any processed snack foods with some vitamins? 5 days ago:
+1 for talking to autistic adults. There’s no better source of information on what works and doesn’t work in autism.
- Comment on [Serious] Do you know of any processed snack foods with some vitamins? 5 days ago:
Jesus christ. My most powerful negative memories of being an autistic child were when communication between me and adults would devolve into manipulative tricks designed to help me.
- Comment on [Serious] Do you know of any processed snack foods with some vitamins? 5 days ago:
I mean, there are literally multivitamin gummies at any decent grocery store. If you want a processed food snack that’s got vitamins that’s where I’d start.
My advice, being on the spectrum myself, would be to be open about the fact that they’re multivitamin gummies, ie don’t try to lie and present them as “desert”. But tell him you’d like to treat them as desert even though they aren’t so he can help get some vitamins.
- Comment on A conversation with my wife 5 days ago:
Nobody expects the Spanish circumnavigation!
- Comment on A conversation with my wife 5 days ago:
Bless your mother
- Comment on Because of smartphones, pocket TVs were never a thing. 5 days ago:
same reason
- Comment on Because of smartphones, pocket TVs were never a thing. 5 days ago:
For when you need to see something that isn’t touching your eyeballs
- Comment on If you have a bank account or a car, you can never use all your money or all your fuel. If you spend all your money or use all your fuel, you will be fucked. 1 week ago:
ITT: people who think fuckedness goes away as long as you don’t acknowledge it
- Comment on If you have a bank account or a car, you can never use all your money or all your fuel. If you spend all your money or use all your fuel, you will be fucked. 1 week ago:
Sometimes big dicks get fucked by tiny dicks. Right in the pee hole.
- Comment on If everyone had access to healthcare the net benefit of treating the mental illness and other disabilities holding them back would easily cover the cost of the healthcare itself. 1 week ago:
I didn’t speak until I was 4 years old. Safety issues were handled by teaching me to swim, light campfires and bonfires and fireplace fires, use power tools, a little firearm safety, and how to interact with horses without getting kicked.
Mom knew I was a special kid, so she pushed me out the door a lot. Like she knew I was extremely different. I distinctly remember her and I sitting at the kitchen table, and her saying that if my face didn’t show emotion spontaneously I was just going to have to fake it to fit in because the world wasn’t going to work if I kept my wooden face.
I had a ridiculous temper. I fought (as in physically fought) my friends often. It always led to cathartic release and an improvement of our bond, which boy fights predictably do.
Sometimes I feel extremely fortunate to have grown up in the 1980s and not today. The way autistic kids are coddled today can be utterly inhumane. It instills in them a self image as a broken person who cannot fit in. That self image is far and away more damaging than autism.
Now, I know some people are unable to vocalize other than incoherent groaning at the age of twenty. I wasn’t that bad.
But among the kids who were enrolled in school, able to form sentences, I had it pretty bad and my little shithole town just treated me as “one of them weird kids”, and it worked out. Our cultures have had autistic people since the dawn of time; the expertise coming out of labs isn’t the only source of wisdom on how to help them lead good lives.
- Comment on Handyman suggested cutting hole in 1330 sq. ft. attic for second attic ventilator. Does this make sense? 1 week ago:
Is it possible the 1500 cfm fans are intended to be run at lower capacity, and are just sized for a factor of safety?
- Comment on If everyone had access to healthcare the net benefit of treating the mental illness and other disabilities holding them back would easily cover the cost of the healthcare itself. 1 week ago:
As an autistic person my primary struggles are productivity and self sufficiency. What factors in their life got better if not those things?