As an introvert you can't teach me how to be an extrovert but I can learn to like being around people.

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• Karcinogen@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Introvert ≠ antisocial. Introvert means when you’ve had a long day you want to go home and be by yourself. You can still be outgoing and sociable.

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  • QuarterSwede@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Correct.

    Introvert means you give away energy to others and you need to be alone to generate it.

    Extroverts do not create their own energy which is why they need to be around others.

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    • soggy_kitty@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      This is worded in a way to imply introverts are superior and the single source of “energy” to the world. This is incorrect, especially as extroverts can feed off each others energy. I know plenty of extroverts who create their own energy and love to share it with others.

      For this reason I like to phrase it slightly differently.

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  • Daft_ish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I think what your overlooking is a long day consists of constant social activity. Unless you think taking a nap after hiking in the woods makes you an introvert.

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  • Ilflish@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Shy + Introvert = You don’t want to meet people or go out

    Lazy + Introvert = You are good with people but they should outweigh the culmination of tired you will feel after going out

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• megane_kun@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  This is true, I concur. However, I won’t last for however as long as extroverts being with other people continuously. Give me some time to breathe every once in a while, even if for short periods.

  As an aside, this is also part of why I kept my smoking habit. I know it’s frowned upon by people, and I’ve got to stay away from other people to do my thing. The nice side effect is that it gives me a good five minutes or so of alone time, which in social situations, can mean the difference of me suddenly spacing out, and being able to last the entire ordeal. I haven’t really found a good replacement for this, unfortunately—of course, this might just be my addiction speaking.

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  • Daft_ish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Coffee pot can be an ok substitute. Only its trading addictions (for a much lesser one).

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    • megane_kun@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      I had to look up what a “coffee pot” is, but I am still not sure if it meant what I thought it meant (a literal pot for coffee, perhaps a french press, coffee maker, or even an espresso machine if you’re really deep into it), which, if my guess is indeed correct… I’m sorry to say, it’s already a habit of mine to the point that I have to have my morning smoke with coffee.

      But yeah, if you mean something else (based on the second word, it might be), it’s illegal where I live, not even for medical purposes (but I’ve encountered people who use it recreationally). Indeed, it’s said to be less addictive than tobacco.

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• key@lemmy.keychat.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  How do you learn to like being around people?

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  • RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Step 1: Learn which folks are good to be around.

    People that go 100% all the time and expect everyone else to be the same way are not fun people to be around.

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  • Daft_ish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Some people are cool to be around.

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  • megane_kun@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    For me, the first step is meeting people that I actually would not mind being around with. And people who are actually fun to be with, and do activities with that I want to do, but I can’t do alone.

    And then keeping in mind that most people I’d meet aren’t really out to hurt me. Most won’t help me either, but either way, they’re just minding their own business and that I’m just another person to them, at least at the start.

    And finally, learning the art of when not to give a fuck (and when to). I still suck at it though.

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  • intensely_human@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    For me it was fixing my boundaries so that I wasn’t always getting abused when I interacted with people.

    When things got fair, and I learned how to respond when things weren’t fair, in a way that made them more likely to be fair later, I found myself much less drained by interactions with people.

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• TenderfootGungi@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Introverts use energy being around other people and need downtime to recharge.

  Extroverts gain energy being around other people.

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  • Kolanaki@yiffit.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Extroverts gain energy being around other people

    Average extrovert:

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• TootSweet@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah, but also don’t “learn to like being around people” just because people nag and give you shit. Try to be honest with yourself about what will ultimately be good for you, and don’t let negative thoughts keep you from doing it. But also don’t fall for thinking that being around people is objectively and universally right living and that spending time alone is bad or wrong.

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  • Daft_ish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I don’t mind a little nagging and shit taking. It’s fun to dish it out sometimes too. When I say I can learn I mean from other people. If it were always an unpleasant experience I’d learn the opposite.

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