Do you have them locked in a trunk somewhere?
How can i become a best friend for someone ?
Submitted 1 year ago by Albin7326@suppo.fi to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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Varyk@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
sbv@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Step 1: let them out
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
I didn’t locked anybody in any trunk. But i need to know what is friendship and how that feeling begins.
AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 1 year ago
There’s no one answer that’s true for everyone. It’s like asking how you can be the perfect spouse for someone: it depends on what the person is looking for.
But there are some norms and generalities. Some attributes that most people want from a friend are:
- They can trust you because you keep their confidence, you don’t make fun of them when they make mistakes, and are otherwise sensitive to their feelings.
- You act with their best interests, at least sometimes even over your own.
- You’re candid with them, but not hurtful.
- You’re interested in some of the same things
- You enjoy each other’s company
Note that the are exceptions to all of these. Some people want to hang out with someone they feel superior to. Some people gravitate to people who reinforce their own inferiorities. Etc.
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
I met many peoples in my life and triend to become friend. But i failed 😅. But now in this just few days i feel like i find something like a friend. He heals me and taking away my loneliness and sadness away from me. He spends time for me also he never talks anything wrong or never making fun of my drawbacks. I need to be a good friend for him. Thats why am asking.
And you’re right everyone have different ways to be a good friend. And thanks for sharing 😊
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Just think of all the things that they do to make you happy, and be sure to do the same for them!
Alchemy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You sound like a good, genuine person. That’s a great trait to have in a friend. One thing friends often share is a common interest in activities, be it food, cooking, hunting for mushrooms, going to museums, anything that you enjoy.
AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I guess my advice is you’re wanting to be a friend to someone in particular is to really listen to them. When they tell you about something going on in their life, try to imagine what is like for them - what it would be like for you. Feed that back to them (“Wow, I’d be nervous if that was me, were you nervous?” and that kind of thing). Be genuinely interested in what’s going on with them.
I’m glad you found someone who seems to care about you. Good luck.
PseudoSpock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 year ago
It happens naturally or not at all.
sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 1 year ago
It’s hard and may not happen. As Forrest Gump said:
Bubba was my best good friend. And even I know that ain’t something you can find just around the corner.
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
[deleted]sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 1 year ago
Just life. I’m in my 50s. People change, move, fade in and out of my life. Over the years I’ve had many acquaintances, a handful of good friends, and one best friend. Now my best friend I’ve been friends with for decades. We may only email/text/call every couple weeks/months, and at this point we don’t meet up but once or twice every year or two. When we do, it’s like no time has passed. The same stupid jokes, the same taste in entertainment, similar philosophical discussions, etc. The bond was forged through experiences we had growing up together. I can’t see developing another friend like that again because I lack the naivety, energy, and freedom (really just youth) that I once had.
I said it may not happen, because it’s a commitment. Not a conscious one. It’s, as I said before, life. Situations come up, life changes, close friends move away physically or emotionally. They may come back into your life, they may not. But having a “best” friend is something I think I took for granted a long time before noticing that a lot of people’s “best” friend is often talked about in past tense.
On the other hand, I have some friends who have a best group of friends. That is to say, a handful of people who have stuck together for decades and really work as a best friendship group. I’ve always been a little envious of that.
mateomaui@reddthat.com 1 year ago
get a dog
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
I will get one when am away from my parents. Bcz they dont like pets 😬
deven@kerala.party 1 year ago
Do pets have freedom?
mateomaui@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Do you have a non-wearisome point that doesn’t completely ignore the colloquial reputation of “man’s best friend” and the lighthearted intention of my reply?
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
This is the most wholesome thing I’ve read today, and I’m more realizing how much I needed it. Thank you!
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
Wow… my question is just helping others too…
Happy to hear 🥰
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
Best friends don’t bail each other out of prison.
Best friends get arrested together.
Synthead@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You’dbe surprised how much more excellent your friendships become from being patient, attentive, and engaged listener. Let them say exactly what they mean to say with no interruptions. Don’t make suggestions or opinions. Let them be heard, and occasionally comment on what they’re saying so that they know you’re listening.
I find this to be kind of a rare thing in a lot of people. Most folks just wait for you to finish so that they can say what they want to say. Simply listening is a great way to get to know someone better and show that you care.
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
I think this will work exactly for me. Bcz my friend have alot to talk with me
NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 1 year ago
Be the friend that they need, and don’t try to make them into the friend that you want.
But also, be careful… don’t get used by someone who doesn’t actually care about you.
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
Ok… i will keep in mind that. In my life i always ignored many because they are not right for me. 😅
GrammatonCleric@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Can’t force it. Has to happen randomly on its own through circumstance.
Blizzard@lemmy.zip 1 year ago
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Meho_Nohome@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Why is that guy not wearing shoes?
Schmeckinger@feddit.de 1 year ago
If you had 13 toes your feet would be hot too.
Albin7326@suppo.fi 1 year ago
What you mean and why 12 peoples upvoted it ? Any secret meaning that match with my question ?
figaro@lemdro.id 1 year ago
It is just funny. Don’t kiss strangers from behind… or at all probably. Unless there is consent. Then have at it.
But mostly no, don’t kiss strangers.
radix@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Just absurd humor. Don’t mind it, memes in a secondary language are difficult.