Should 21-23-year-olds be allowed to date older people?

Submitted ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

Do you believe young women (or men) who are 21, 22, 23 or 24 should be allowed to consent to relationships with older men or women who are 10 or 20 years older? I know we should have free will, but should we be allowed to self-destruct just because we “can”?

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Lucky_777@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You’re an adult by then. Do what you want.

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FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You are making assumptions here. Twenty-something year olds are allowed to date anyone older they like, the only restrictions that apply go the other way age-wise. And dating older people doesn’t automatically lead to self-destruction. So what’s your point?

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darkmogool@feddit.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
why not?

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gilokee@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
There’s a formula which I believe was created by xkcd: half your age plus 9. By this logic, a 20 year old shouldn’t be dating a 40 year old…but also, who cares? Adults can do what they want.

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FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
What’s your solution to this total non-problem?

How is it society “self-destructing”?

You seem to want to control what other people are doing with their lives, so I’m just going to tell you to fuck right off

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radix@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Who are you delegating to “disallow” such a thing? Like a law?

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spongebue@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Allowed to? Sure, you’re well into adulthood and that’s not something you want to legally regulate between consenting adults.

But from a societal norms perspective, the minimum age of “half your age plus seven” holds up pretty well. 34 year old dating a 24 year old? Sure! 44 year old dating a 24 year old? That gives me the ick, but I don’t think that should make it illegal.

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rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I don’t want to live in a society that encroaches on interpersonal relationships enough to outlaw large age differences between romantic partners who are all consenting adults.

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- YaBoyMax@programming.dev ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  The age of majority is a pretty arbitrary line that we draw; I don’t see how this would be fundamentally different. We already “encroach” on interpersonal relationships by not allowing adults to date minors (which again is defined completely arbitrarily).
  
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  - BlameThePeacock@lemmy.ca ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    The age of majority (or various ages) are somewhat arbitrary, but it has to be drawn somewhere because it’s used to allow a whole bunch of activities rather than just for relationships.
    
    There’s a significant difference between “you must be this age to be considered old enough to make your own choices on a variety of things” and “here’s a specific range of people who you are not allowed to have sexual intercourse with”
    
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JASN_DE@feddit.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
…they are?

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- 14th_cylon@lemmy.zip ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  exactly this, they already are, so what is the point of your question, op? if you want to ban something, go back to your church, you will find like-minded ~~souls~~ morons there.
  
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