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What happens if you and your GF break up or get in a fight where her parents side with her?
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Submitted 11 months ago by iluvit@reddthat.com to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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Nomecks@lemmy.ca 11 months ago
Kookie215@lemmy.world 11 months ago
It’s always a bad idea to move in with your partner’s parents if you don’t absolutely have to. I think teens and early 20’s is too young to move in with a partner period but I also met my husband when I was 17 and moved in with him almost right away and thats been working for the last 18 years. I still think we’re the exception to the rule though and it’s not exactly a healthy way to start your adult life.
etchinghillside@reddthat.com 11 months ago
It’s a unique situation. If you’re not signing anything and are not combining finances – then it seems fairly low risk at a glance. Try not to get anyone pregnant.
What are your reservations? Is this your first time living with someone else outside of your family? Does this help you two save money in some way? Are there other stipulations to this arrangement?
Yermaw@lemm.ee 11 months ago
Knowing literally no other details other than your ages and the fact youre asking strangers, I would say bad idea. It might be a phenomenal idea though with more information.
iluvit@reddthat.com 11 months ago
[deleted]hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Things that might be helpful:
- how long y’all been together?
- what’s her relationship to her family?
- how many people and how big is the place?
- (when) do you intend to get your own place?
- what country and would you be able to afford your own place soon?
- are there specific reasons you would move in other than “she lives there and we wanna be together”?
- how far is the move from your place currently?
- can you find me an image of a kitten? I love those.
Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll
LilDumpy@lemmy.world 11 months ago
How long have you known each other? How long have you dated? Do you know her family? Do you like her family? Are you both located in the same location? Is her family ok with the age difference? Is this a serious relationship where you see yourself settling down?
themeatbridge@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I moved into an apartment with my girlfriend (and her roommate) after being together only a year, and we’re married now. We weren’t much older than you are now (22 and 21). The concerning part is the rest of the family.
You’ve answered a lot of questions, so don’t feel the need to respond to these, but you should know the answers for yourself.
Would you share a bed? Will you be able to hear her parents getting frisky? Because then they will be able to hear you. What if you have to take an epic shit, but her mom has just called everyone down to dinner? What if you go to take a shower and her father has clogged the drain with hair?
What is your alternative plan if you don’t move in with them?
Sharing a roof means intimacy with everyone in the building. There’s very little privacy, and escape is complicated. If you see her as a forever partner, and don’t mind making yourself vulnerable to her family, then actually I probably still wouldn’t do it even under those circumstances.
iluvit@reddthat.com 11 months ago
themeatbridge@lemmy.world 11 months ago
It’s one thing to know it happens, and it’s an entirely different thing to hear it happening live and in real time.