hoshikarakitaridia

@hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They predicted it⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Actually a really funny anime imo. Very inappropriate and weird, but sometimes they strike some real satire.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Steam had already shown its true face, GOG and itch.io are fighting censorship alone.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah unlike other big companies, Valve still has some trust to rely on. Let’s wait for what they’re saying and doing first.

  Also, the quickest path to success will always be to reignin the payment processors. Which should be a no-brainer anyway; they should have no influence on content decisions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Itch.io Re-indexes free NSFW content, are in ongoing discussions with payment processors to re-introduce paid content⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Honestly I’m really happy with how itch.io is handling it. Making sure they still get their money, but quickly reintroducing the games, and telling us the exact reason why they had to disable those games in the first place. Great management.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hideo Kojima has "learned so many ways to kill people"⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  He looks so proud as well in the picture. Iconic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Battlefield 6 won't cost $80, but EA aren't ruling out future price hikes "to capture the full spectrum of pricing"⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I enjoyed 3 and 4. After that it was just a very drawn out crescendo.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Digging under the racism, still searching for the funny.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone else find it suspicious that there wasn't any criticism on here about Stop Killing Games until after it hit 1.4M signatures?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s also a threshold where Industry Groups will start astroturfing. Especially when it comes to worker’s rights or consumer’s rights.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Best plex/jellyfin compatible streaming box⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I know on Android jellyfin in particular has a native app but also findroid, which is not world changing but good enough.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Best plex/jellyfin compatible streaming box⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Just tried out Kodi on Android but I’m sorry, the app sucks. No native addon browsing, the keyboard is custom but incredibly small on my phone, navigation is weird, there’s no back button and my main buttons on the phone get hidden so I always have to manually show them again. The design is unappealing and for some reason it really wants access to my devices microphone.

  Literally the worst one I’ve tried and I didn’t even get to the video player, which everyone says stops working every once in a while.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Personal Responsibility⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The grades one pisses me off.

  I’ve seen so many people become disillusioned with university because their professors were bad and the grading was absolutely inconsistent. To say it’s that simple is a gut punch to them and it drives me insane.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's weird how we say "go to sleep" as if sleep is a place⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Sounds fancy. I hope it’s not expensive to use.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We need to start calling it Simulater Intelligence (SI): here's why:⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This.

  I have taught highschool teens about AI between 2018 and 2020.

  The issue is we are somewhere between getting better at gambling (statistics, Markov chains, etc.) and human brain simulation (deep neural networks, genetic algorithms).

  For many people it’s important how we frame it. Is it random word generator with a good hit rate or is it a very stupid child?

  Of course the brain is more advanced - it has way more neurons than an AI model has nodes, it works faster and we have years of “training data”. Also, we can use specific parts of our brains to think, and some things are so innate we don’t even have to think about it, we call them reflexes and they bypass the normal thinking process.

  BUT: we’re at the stage where we could technically emulate chunks of a human brain through AI models however primitive they are currently. And in it’s basic function, brains are not really much more advanced than what our AI models already do. Although we do have a specific part for our brain just for languages, which means we get a little cheat code for writing text in comparison to AI, and similar other parts for creative tasks and so on.

  So where do you draw the line? Do you need all different parts of a brain perfectly emulated to satisfy the definition of intelligence? Is artificial intelligence a word awarded to less intelligent models or constructs, or is it just as intelligent as human intelligence?

  Imo AI sufficiently passes the vibe check on intelligence. Sure it’s not nearly on the scale of a human brain and is missing it’s biological arrangements and some clever evolutionary tricks, but it’s similar enough.

  However, I think that’s neither scary nor awesome. It’s just a different potential tool that should help everyone of us. Every time big new discoveries shape our understanding of the world and become a core part of our lives, there’s so much drama. But it’s just a bigger change, nothing more nothing less. A pile of new laws, some cultural shifts and some upgrades for our everyday life. It’s neither heaven nor hell, just the same chunk of rock floating in space soup for another century.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Deserved honestly⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah that is the weirdest way to flirt. If she touches you, that’s more clear but touching your food is not really understood as a display of affection.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨WhisperX — Automated Transcripts w/ Timestamps and Speaker Tagging⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It might take a while, but when your PC is working on it you are not and searching for words might be easier ^^

  I’m excited to hear how well it works ^^

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨WhisperX — Automated Transcripts w/ Timestamps and Speaker Tagging⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Long videos or voice notes where you’re usually just looking for a small snippet.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨School legend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But not as big as th-

  I’m sorry

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did Diddy get off with so much? ⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes. As much as I hate Diddy, the big charges were very hard to prove and one could say this outcome speaks highly of the jury’s regard for a just outcome, and proves they put feelings aside.

  Feelings are valid, but you are supposed to leave your feelings at the front of the courthouse, otherwise verdicts would be very volatile and trials would be an indictment on the person, and not what they did.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Depends on how long I think. If it was just 5min that’s fine, if it’s more than that it’s at least weird and at most a dick move.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dream on⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Nice

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Was my ex really sorry/guilty?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Echoing the rest of the comments here: as soon as he knew you were 13, for him to continue dating you is fucked up.

  Also for him to blame you for making him date you is absolutely bizarre and stupid. HE decides whom to date.

  And now to answer your question: I can only assume he doesn’t feel sorry. I could believe he might feel guilty but that’s because he realizes how fucked up the whole thing is. I can’t say for sure, and I don’t think he really tries to reflect, otherwise he wouldn’t even have gone that far.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Baldur’s Gate 4 may happen eventually, but not with Larian Studios⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  That is so stupid it makes me mad.

  WotC and Hasbro are truly the Dalton’s of tabletop gaming.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OF alternative fediverse?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  The Csam caching is the worst issue.

  So many countries basically regulate that if you have Csam on your PC you can go to jail. So if you’re hosting, and even if it gets deleted, that still means it was on the server. And that shit is bad.

  Legally frightening.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  To me it sounds like something other than depression, however it doesn’t matter because you are clearly right, these are extremely unhealthy thinking patterns and it is a symptom of maybe bigger issues you need to address.

  And it is true, everyone deserves love and there’s nothing about you that makes you categorically undesirable. Just some things specific people like or don’t like about you.

  You should consider talking to a therapist, or at least someone who is not involved with you day-to-day but understands you. Having someone reality check your thoughts, especially those ones, can be extremely helpful to get a better frame of reference against those toxic thoughts, that are often times not rooted in reality.g

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I think this is not the right community for random news

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  You too, it sounds like you got this on your own already even if it’s difficult, but if you need to talk you can hit me up anytime:)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Sounds like you’re going through a lot.

  First off,what other have told you is the best basic advice. There’s nothing you can do and you have to assume she won’t change her mind. You also said you are 23 and you feel like you are being childish. That’s absolutely not true, if someone broke up at 30 or 40 or 50 or whatever with a long time friend it would be just as rough. This situation is hard, and there’s no learning unfortunately and no preparation, it just sucks.

  And that is what I would say as well: it’s fucked up. It sucks. It’s fine to feel betrayed and sad and angry and lonely. It’s very fair to feel that way, because you lost something important. It’s ok to not feel ok and it’s normal to be so moved by something so hard.

  Maybe there’s something to say for changing your routine a bit. Finding other friends circles that she is not involved in, trying new hobbies and everything. That way you have something new to think about and other people to talk to - this might help with her being around parties every now and again.

  Also make sure you take care of yourself, start building up a new routine.

  It could be beneficial to talk to her when your feelings towards her are not as strong anymore, but it will always be awkward and there’s nothing to expect from it. It will just be a conversation and who knows where it goes.

  These are all steps that can help you move on, but of course there is no handbook for breakups so this could look very different for everyone.

  Although I haven’t been in your situation it sounds really rough and I’m sorry you have to go through this. I’m sure you’ll find someone else who loves you and will stick around.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Just a reminder... (with thanks to Ice Cube)⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  (Okay)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fediverse Report – #116⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This does not address the issue of load balancing and choosing the server though. This only works if the standard option for your server is reliable and rotated per registration.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Is it normal I still feel bad even though I’m trying to do good and redeem myself?

  Yes it is. People hold on to regrets for a whole host of reasons. Some more understandable than others.

  But being good is not a value. It doesn’t stay up or down and it doesn’t get “remedied” in the traditional way. The amount of caring for others you do is awesome.

  And yet, not saying no is an extremely unhealthy habit. Everyone has boundaries, and other people don’t realize how things drain your energy if you don’t say no. If you’re not looking out for yourself, who is?

  The things in your list, almost all of them are nice in theory, but in practice they can run you into the ground.

  • battling your instincts and personality
  • feeling very guilty about every little mistake
  • doing odd jobs no matter the person or task or how much energy you have
  • not saying no

  Look at this list. This looks almost self-destructive. It’s a testament to you that you are able to survive considering all these habits, but this is way past noble.

  Please say no if you feel you need to, never agree if you you really don’t want to, only do odd jobs if they are appropriate, extend some grace for all of your mistakes and never suppress your personality. These are selfish things, but you are the only one who can be selfish for you, so look out for yourself.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s good to reflect on things, but you are beating yourself down for it. That’s never appropriate, especially because people like you, who are self aware and want the best for others, are very much needed in this world.

  Let’s say whatever you did that ended the marriage was bad, and they’d both be together if you didn’t do it.

  You were 6. Even if you intended this, how the hell is a 6 year old gonna be able to grasp the consequences of their actions. People can do really bad things at any age, but at such a young age, most of the things that happen because of your actions are out of you hands.

  Do other people blame you for it? Because that is fucked up. They should know better. You are already reflecting, but blaming literally never helps anyone. And that goes for yourself as well, don’t blame yourself, no matter what you did. You can take responsibility and try to repair the damage to the degree you can, but never blame yourself for not doing things that you are unable to do. Do your best, and that’s all you can do. Mistakes are par for the course.

  Marriages are made of 2 people. You are not part of that marriage, even if you are part of the family. If your sole actions managed to split the marriage, that suggests so much else was going wrong. Did they trust each other enough? Why were they not able to handle whatever their child did? How come they didn’t make up again after whatever you did, or they didn’t at least try? See how many avenues those two have to fix it? But they didn’t. That’s not on anyone else, but them. A working marriage extends a truckload of trust, grace, and love to each other, and I suspect, even if your actions rocked the boat, that boat was a nut shell with fish sized holes in it. There’s no other way your actions could lead to this. Your actions might have been the match, but look at the barrels of gasoline that fueled the fire. At that point, there’s so many things that can destroy the marriage, because the marriage was very shakey in the first place.

  Trying to think of the worst things you could have done to lead your parents to part, there’s nothing a 6 year can do that makes them responsible for it. Please don’t beat yourself down - the amount of self reflection you do leads me to think you are an awesome human being and people around you should be grateful for how much you care for them.

  TL;DR There’s no way in hell you were or are responsible for what happened to your parents marriage, no matter what you did.