Submitted 19 hours ago by poisonapple@lemm.ee to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
I’ve been friends with my gf for 6 years and we only just started dating. I kinda always had an on-and-off crush, though, and was always open to staying friends OR dating, even when she sadly had a bf.
A good long term relationship is mostly about being friends. If you guys already have that it’s a great start
I think any good relationship will make you friends, and it isn’t awkward, it’s great! But having been married a while, it is something you need to work at. With a long term partner they can end up in a bunch of different types of relationships with you - as well as friend, romantic parter and lover, they might be the equivalent of business parter, or boss/employee (for various household and family chores / projects) and learning how to do all those things well, and without ruining the other parts of the relationship can be challenge.
But if the balance is just between ‘friend’ and ‘gf’, I’d say the trick is knowing when to prioritise one over the over. There are times I’m horny and want to take things in that direction, but I realise my partner would rather have a cup of tea and complain about work. Equally, we might be getting intimate, and I’m tempted to make some dumb joke, because it’s funny and that’s what I do with a friend, so I have to weigh up my priorities (mostly sex wins, but sometimes I say the dumb thing and we both have a big laugh and then make dinner.)
Idk every friendship is different. As everyone is saying a successful or healthy relationship is gonna require you and your partner to be friend-like when you’re not being otherwise intimate.
So with that I’d say really never, but it’ll always be awkward if only one if you had an interest in that.
rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 hours ago
It’s only awkward if you feel awkward. If you do, take a moment to think about why and then consider talking about it with them
Azzu@lemm.ee 18 hours ago
Exactly, awkwardness is something entirely personal. Ask any other person and they might say dating after a friendship is never awkward or that it always is. It’s irrelevant to ask anyone else about awkwardness.