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Everyone in my life is competing with me more. 🫶
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Submitted 3 months ago by Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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db2@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Boozilla@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Social media? Are they constantly flexing for clout? I have had some friends and coworkers like that. Every interaction with them feels like reading a nonstop humblebrag on Facebook. It’s tedious AF. I avoid them whenever possible.
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I avoid Facebook social media like the plague. If anything I might isolate myself to much and everyone thinks I am purposefully thumbing my nose at them.
Boozilla@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I think, hopefully, that style of social media is on the decline. It’s not the FOMO must-have powerhouse it used to be. Younger folks seem informed enough to avoid it, or at most have a generic-bland “stub” account.
jbrains@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
Let them. How does this hurt you? What is your actual challenge here?
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 months ago
It’s just hard, to feel like you don’t deserve any of the success that you’ve worked very hard on.
partial_accumen@lemmy.world 3 months ago
It’s just hard, to feel like you don’t deserve any of the success that you’ve worked very hard on.
How does this manifest? As in, you’re proud of an achievement, share it with your friend, and they say things that diminish it? Can you describe a scenario where you’ve experience this with your friend?
jbrains@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
What is the relationship between “they are competing with me” and “I feel like I don’t deserve any of the success that I’ve worked very hard on”?
bigcanuck42@lemmy.ca 3 months ago
Could be many reasons, super depending on the dynamics of your friend group but in mine I find when things are looking up for my others can be feeling of jealousy can seem like they are being competitive. If you have examples (as anonymous as possible) just to gauge from?
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I recently got a new job and my friend knows how much I make. Ever since they have been complaining how they hate their job and how they are under paying them. They constantly tell me how much of a slob I am and that I don’t do enough. Then they talk about how they need a new job and how they told their employeer they need to pay them more. It’s consuming my life.
partial_accumen@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Friends should build you up, not tear you down.
boletus@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
You need to tell your friend that you don’t appreciate this behaviour, and perhaps make some new friends. It’s also not your fault or responsibility if you’re in a better situation than someone else, but if you can help bring other people up that’s good.
andrewta@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Without more info and without knowing you:
It’s either a perception issue. You feel like they are competing with you and yet they really aren’t.
Or
You’ve surrounded yourself with people that are highly competitive. So they make everything a competition.
Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 months ago
If I’ve surrounded myself with hyper competitive people like how do I let them know I don’t want to compete and I just be cool with them.
breadsmasher@lemmy.world 3 months ago
This isn’t a “wow thanks im cured” comment, this is something that takes years to work on - just care less. Let it just roll off your back.
Or stop being friends with shit people
sxan@midwest.social 3 months ago
First, I’m sorry. My Lemmy client shows you have 5 replies, but I can’t see what they say. I may be repeating others’ comments.
You may not be able to. Competitive people are competitive. Unless you are willing to concede their superiority in all things, or to refuse to compete, they will compete. It’s just some people’s nature.
Most people I’ve met are competitive only in areas: where they’re capable of competing. My brother-in-law is the most competitive person I know, but he’d never accept a programming challenge from me and would surrender, because he simply has zero knowledge in the space. But he’d race me downhill skiing, even though he knows I’m a better (or, maybe, just less conservative) skiier. So I avoid competing with him most of the time by refusing to participate. I just say “no, not interested.”
It might work for you. If they’re the types that treat that as weakness and start using you as a punching bag, then I suggest you’re better off finding new friends, 'cause those kinds of people are just worthless assholes. But if they’re just run-of-the-mill competitive, because life’s funner for them when everything is a game, then just saying you don’t want to play might be OK.