Comment on The worst pick-up line I've ever gotten

• Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’m NB and sometimes I just let my friends enjoy one of the biggest cultural events of their childhood without making everything about me because I’m capable of seeing that their actual actions are supportive of me.

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  • Maven@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    And I’m glad you’re able to do that and have people around you that support you. This doesn’t change the fact that I don’t enjoy people who promote something that funds people like me dying.

    If you’re able to get over that, that’s awesome and I believe you deserve good things, I am simply not able to.

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    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      There is no ethical consumption. Even a bunch of the food in America is funded by prison slave labor. I’m not going to blame other people who are poor and discriminated against because of what rich people do, that’s the entire point of the psyop / propaganda.

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      • Maven@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I agree completely. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism… You’re entirely right.

        However, just like I choose not to use Facebook, I can choose not to talk to certain people. I don’t understand why that’s such a bad thing.

        I also wouldn’t talk to someone who says their idol is Andrew Tate.

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• norimee@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’m sorry you have to deal with so many ignorant and apologist people.

  Everyone who exuses the hate Rowling spreads because of the Harry Potter cult is partly responsible for the harm and danger this causes to trans and non binary people.

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• Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I guess it is bad in the sense that it’s not great pick-up line to use in your case, but I do like the creativity. Would’ve been better used to someone with some Harry Potter stuff in their bio though

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• whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  wowwww a trans person sharing their experience being heavily downvoted.

  let’s all say it together!!

  Lemmy is transphobic as fuck!!

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  • starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I think the people downvoting took “quoting Harry Potter sounds like you hate me” as “quoting Harry Potter means you hate trans people” (stated as fact). The OP said this is how it feels to them, we shouldn’t downvote people for sharing how they experienced something.

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  • irreticent@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Being non-binary is not the same as being trans… and perhaps they were being downvoted for a different reason.

    I always find it odd when people assume why someone is being downvoted. You never know why someone votes the way they do.

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    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      It can be. I’ve had two surgeries to neutralize the parts of my body that were gendered.

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      • disgrunty@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        How’d you get access to that? It seems to be a major pain in the backside (at least here in the UK as a person afab) getting anyone to actually take NBs seriously in terms of the medical side of things.

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    • whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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      • irreticent@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Not necessarily. One can be non-binary and not be trans. I know someone that identifies as NB and they never “transitioned” into their current self. They’ve always been that way and never transitioned.

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    • Maven@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’m not the gender I was assigned at birth. What’s your definition of trans then???

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      • damnedfurry@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Gender identity doesn’t get assigned at birth. There is no “gender” field on a birth certificate.

        Sex gets identified at birth (at the latest, usually before, during pregnancy, unless specifically requested to keep it secret).

        Two reasons this is important to point out:

        • Assignment implies that the act of assigning is what makes it so. It’s not. If a doctor says that a male baby is female, it’s not now female just because they said so. “Identify” is a much more accurate description of what the doctor is doing.
        • The whole premise of “transness” being a thing relies on the notion of sex and gender being two distinct, independently-variable traits. So be careful not to conflate them. It causes needless confusion, since conflating them literally undermines the whole thing–after all, if “sex” and “gender” are equivalent, then it’s objectively impossible to be trans.

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      • irreticent@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I never claimed to be an expert. I am admitting now that I am somewhat ignorant as to what the exact definitions are, but from what I understand from what my NB friend explained it is that if you transition from one gender to another that makes you trans. NB are neither gender so there was no transition between genders.

        I guess one could make the argument that they transitioned from being gender-labeled to being non-gender, but IMO that’s a stretch in an attempt to label NB people as trans.

        That being said, there is nothing wrong with being trans. I was just trying to make a distinction as was explained to me by a NB person.

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    • whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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      • irreticent@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I stand corrected; non-binary people are transgender. I apologize for my ignorance. I just didn’t know.

        What I also don’t know is why you’re so angry. All that happened was I didn’t know something. I learned my mistake, apologized, and hope you’ll relax a little and realize that not everyone knows everything you do. Please don’t be mad at someone’s ignorance.

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  • Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Maybe just don’t be a raging asshole about everything all the time. Image

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    • whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      in what way was I an asshole in this comment exchange? pointing out transphobic behavior? I can live with that

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      • Cryophilia@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Victim complex. Maybe instead of making everything about you and your struggles, just take it for a funny post that has literally nothing to do with trans people.

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  • damnedfurry@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    wowwww a trans person making unfair assumptions/criticisms of people for quoting an extremely popular piece of pop culture.

    let’s all say it together!!

    Being trans is not a prejudice pass!!

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    • whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Someone literally just shared their experience as a trans person, and it was downvoted.

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• whoreticulture@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The downvotes are because you dared to be trans.

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