Comment on How do I get rid of my dead name in iPadOS settings?

SplashJackson@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• noughtnaut@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’m glad you ask about things you don’t know. You’re a smart person.

  A dead name is a person’s given name, in the context of a person having transitioned to a different gender and also changing their name to match the gender they identify as. It is bad form to then continue to call them by their birth name.

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  • azulavoir@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    It could also be, perhaps, someone’s given name before adoption gave them a new one. Or perhaps a meddling relative suggested a “better” name, and then the person went back to the one they were born with, leaving the relative’s name idea dead.

    It’s not trans-exclusive (I fall into the latter category I mentioned) but it’s definitely a mostly trans concept

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    • pewgar_seemsimandroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      is a marriage a option too? (gay marriage included)

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      • cynar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Not generally. It generally refers to first names more than surnames. It also strongly implies that you actively want to kill the name off, not just move to the new one. It’s changing names with prejudice against the old one.

        Refering to someone by their maiden name is generally not considered insulting. Dead naming someone (after you’re aware) is extremely insulting.

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    • Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That was new to me. Thank you for sharing.

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    • pyre@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      that’s really interesting never heard of that scenario before

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  • bitcrafter@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    So does that make the new name the undead name, and therefore like a zombie name?

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    • Queen___Bee@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I know you’re joking, but for those who don’t understand sarcasm it’s more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one’s origin family/tribe.

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  • SplashJackson@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Oh, I’ve been calling it my slave name

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    • magnetosphere@fedia.io ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      lol that works, too!

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