You first said looks and height are not major factors. Are you not aware how much height is important for girls In dating. Ask any girl what type of guy she wants and tall is always in answer. Height is most important for girls. Now your second sentence is that if someone rejects you for height then they are not good partners, but the guys who are 6ft tall have no problem in dating a girl who says she will never date a guy below 6ft. So this is just a cope saying that if someone rejects you for height they are not good partners. In fact the guys who say that, they will date a girl who says I don’t date below 6ft if they are given chance.
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TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months agoWhat do you mean?
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
You need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it’s simply hindering you. Not only that, it’s only superficially true. It doesn’t conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.
This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
It is not a way of thinking it is just the truth.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
Naw dude, it’s manufactured and it’s limiting you. You’re not gonna overcome that until you figure out how to destroy the part of you that believes this.
ivanafterall@kbin.social 4 months ago
What would you say if I told you there are girls who actually prefer short guys? Hell, some people just like variety--I appreciate tall women, short women, medium women. I like 'em all.
Having said that, I have met the girls you're referencing. They do exist. A few months back, I went on a coffee date with a girl. Just before it, she made some joke about wanting to make sure I'm tall, because she hates dancing with guys who are shorter than her, so she just wanted to make sure. I wanted to vomit. I very rarely encounter a girl taller than me. I'm ~6'1, maybe pushing a little higher on a good day when my posture is okay. I want nothing to do with a girl who so values my height. Because if it's THAT important, you're literally one 6'3 guy away from a relationship crisis.
There are girls who are like you say, but they are absolutely not all like that. You just need to focus on a better class of prospect.
agent_flounder@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Whatever group online you’re commiserating with about this stuff is wrecking you.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
There is no such group
yukichigai@kbin.social 4 months ago
This is what Andrew Tate actually believes.
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
That asshole is more deserving of age restriction than porn - if you ever hear a nephew bring him up you need to stomp that shit out immediately. What a fucking clown.
mrnotoriousman@kbin.social 4 months ago
As a short dude you couldn't be more wrong. Get off incel forums and go talk to real people. Just make sure you shower first.
Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Ohh now I get why I am not getting girls, I never took a shower since birth, thanks for advice man
Montagge@kbin.earth 4 months ago
Weird, then why did 6'4" me have such a hard time until my late 20s?
db2@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Don’t feed the troll dude.
TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
I think men can often get stuck in ruts where they become their own worst enemies, especially in dating. They have a plethora of media telling them half truths and skewed perspectives that create a feedback loop of negativity and self-fulfilling prophecy.
Even if OP can’t escape that today and instead posted this to hear answers that affirm this defeatist ideology, other readers may benefit the good advice others have put in this thread.