Comment on How does employing a rapist not constitute an unsafe work environment for female employees?

• kava@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I think this attitude where some traumatic event ruins people for life is toxic. Trauma is part of life. People can move on and have fulfilling lives.

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  • ParsnipWitch@feddit.de ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    “Trauma is part of life”? Murder and dieing is also part of life. Sorry, but that just doesn’t make sense. Trauma in a clinical sense is certainly not “part of life”.

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    • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      They’re rape apologists. Everything they’ve been doing is part of a framework of Motte and Baileys they have constructed to justify and defend rape, and rapists.

      Notice they’re talking about the nature of trauma in life when this is actually a thread about OP dealing with a known sexual predator at work? How they have been talking about redemption, punishment, and the death penalty when NONE of those things are eve tangentially related to OP? That is purposeful and intentional.

      They derail threads like this, where there are clear-cut cases to hold someone off, because they oppose accountability on a moral level.

      They do it because they’re rape apologists.

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    • kava@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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  • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    And so therefore a rape victim should just put up with rape and move on. They’re still alive so it doesn’t matter, and their rapist should be able to live with no consequences.

    By your twisted logic, you can justify doing anything to anyone as long as you don’t kill them. Rape does affect everyone for life, especially the ones who have claimed they moved on from it.

    What makes you think someone won’t turn around and use your own reasoning to justify doing something to you?

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• HawlSera@lemm.ee ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I can’t send a corpse to therapy for any amount of time that’s long enough for them to recover from being dead, I can say differently about being traumatized…

  And honestly as someone who’s used therapy to recover from trauma, I find the idea that “It would unquestionably be better if you were murdered instead” to be so absurdly offensive and dismissive, as if anything of value to me and my continued existence is suddenly moot because I’ve become “Damaged Goods”

  Seeing Murder as preferable to Rape is a highly misogynistic way of thinking that draws too much from patriarchal standards about a woman’s worth.

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• dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Murder, for the victim, by definition, is not a traumatic event.

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• aidan@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Death is always an option, revival generally isn’t.

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