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CADmonkey@lemmy.world 9 months agoNah, lets just call all lonely men “incels” and sweep the problem under the rug, surely that will never be a problem.
If you don’t want to be called an incel, don’t blame your loneliness and lack of sex on anyone else. Everyone is lonely, it’s nobody’s fault unless you want to blame society as a whole which will get you nowhere. Continue to grow as a human and don’t stop trying to find new avenues of reaching out to others.
And most importantly, never expect someone to like you in any way, no one is obligated to you.
You guys are missing my point. Im not talking about incels, I’m talking about people who just call all lonely guys incels. The way everyone is happily downvoting me when I say this are proving me right.
Sorry, I did miss the point. I’ve literally never seen it happen the way you describe it.
I have and experienced it. Though admittedly any traumatic experience often makes you see things which aren’t there.
Incels are called incels. Lonely guys are lonely guys. If you’re being called an incel, there’s a reason.
I can literally call you anything right now in this comment, and there’d be a reason.
That “no smoke without fire” thing is disgusting.
No one does that.
We are all talking about incels. Nobody here has a problem with lonely guys. I think you’re missing everyone else’s point.
You really swung for the fences over somebody saying “calling all lonely men incels are bad.”
You ABSOLUTELY proved his point, this comment was so damn extra in relation to o what you replied to.
In my experience people aren’t calling lonely men incels, they’re calling men who are wholly unlikable who blame their loneliness and lack of sex on other people incels.
In my experience, I JUST watched you call somebody an incel because they said not all lonely men are incels. 🤷
who are wholly unlikable
Well, I participate in such arguments because the only people fully unlikable are those who are fine with calling others fully unlikable.
Everyone is lonely, it’s nobody’s fault unless you want to blame society as a whole which will get you nowhere.
I don’t see anything wrong with blaming society as a whole. There are definitely general problems with it at all times. Like in Nazi Germany or, say, Victorian England and any other time and place, each in its own way.
This phrase feels as if you are putting yourself on the place of “society” to feel strong and the person you are addressing on the place of somebody opposing it.
If they feel that too, then sure as hell they won’t listen to you if they have dignity.
And most importantly, never expect someone to like you in any way, no one is obligated to you.
This works both ways.
I don’t mean to put myself in the place of anything - I just meant that the better course of action is to find improvement rather than fault. It’s a situation where being able to put the blame on something does nothing to improve the situation. We’re lonely because there are too many people is all.
There’s a lot of people at fault for things in my life and if I worried about blaming them, I wouldn’t have had the time to get educated and grow as a human so that I could move past the things they are at fault, I was just trying to broaden that idea into something more general.
Ah. Then I’d say that dealing in blame is emotionally the wrong thing to do for long in any direction. Only dealing in duty and correctness is worse. Dealing in wishes and dreams is what helps me when I remember about attitude.
“The downvotes made me more incel or something”
Thanks for helping me prove the point
No, they’re not. Lol
Is your point that incels are whiny bitches? We all knew that already but thanks for the reminder, I guess.
A lot of people in this very thread are dumb enough to think that saying sometimes isn’t an incel is the same thing as defending incels, and that you must therefore be an incel yourself. It’s really pathetic.
Incels aren’t just lonely. That’s not even their defining characteristic. They are primarily egotistical, misogynistic, assholes that no self respecting woman should suffer. Loneliness is just the symptom of that.
Nudding@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Being lonely and being an incel are two very different things.
CADmonkey@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Yes, but they do tend to get lumped together and dismissed the same.
Nudding@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Okay.
CADmonkey@lemmy.world 9 months ago
See? You are doing it. Be sure to dismiss this response as something coming from an incel, my other half thinks it’s funny.
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
One is a symptom of the other (both at a societal level and an individual level)