I’ve experienced similar quandaries in my life before, but you have to ask yourself, “would I think any less of my friends/family members if they asked me for help?”
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FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months agoI know, but they’re my friends and I don’t want them to think less of me since I’m asking for handouts.
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 8 months ago
meco03211@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I’d maybe be a little hurt that my friend didn’t think they could ask for some help.
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Fair.
Lemjukes@lemm.ee 8 months ago
American individualism and ‘bootstrapping’ is one of the great American Lies. There is no shame in needing help because broken social systems failed you. Anyone who would think less of you for needing help with medical bills is someone you don’t want in your life anyway. if we were truly a civilized nation you wouldn’t be having this problem.
foggy@lemmy.world 8 months ago
You could ask a friend to set one up for you, which could help lessen that stigma
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
That would just make me feel guilty for asking them! I’m a guilt-ridden mess!
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 8 months ago
What if you have something that needs to be caught early? You need to get to NY and find out and not fumble around in the dark in Indiana. I’m not shitting on the doctors in Indiana either, some places are more specialized and it sounds like your doctors are more general health or things they see a lot.
otter@lemmy.ca 8 months ago
Great advice already here
Another thing is that you’re not directly asking any particular person to donate. They have the option to just share the post with others (which is also great because there are more people out there who also want to donate/advocate on your behalf).
You can also include a message similar to what you have here :)
Hope
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 months ago
You can also include a message similar to what you have here :)
Very good advice! Thanks!
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 8 months ago
If they’re really your friends, they will be happy to help you.