Comment on Dating apps from 2018-2022 were wild. Might still be but I've been monogamous since late 2023.
Speculater@lemmy.world 3 days agoRespectfully, I think your take is trash.
Wild girls can be mature, adventurous, and open minded. If they choose to settle down, that sense of adventure doesn’t necessarily die.
Your presupposition relies on the fact that sexually open women need therapy and introspection. I vehemently reject that supposition.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Literally can’t be “wild” and mature/responsible, not in the way OP and us were talking about. If you’re such a lost hedonist you’re asking men you met the same day to give you the bukkake special, you’re fucked in the head and need serious help. Like I said, an ex-wild girl will still be adventurous and exciting, she will just have tamed herself so she’s more discerning (she likes facials in the context of a loving, commited relationship, for example 😅).
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 days ago
With respect, I think we’re all reading our own experiences into this. What you are seeing as a “lost” hedonist, I am seeing as a woman who knows what she likes.
Also, please don’t disrespect hedonism. You know one of my favorite hedonistic pleasures? Eating. Big shocker I know. You know what makes food taste better? Cooking it yourself. You know what also makes it taste better? Sharing it with someone.
My absolute favorite hedonistic joy (I have two, same pleasure level, the other one is making music for a large crowd and everyone feels frisson at the same time) is to cook a large meal for people who need it and dine with them. Better than heroin (please don’t test this), better than sex. For me, at least.