Chose wisely
Comment on Dating apps from 2018-2022 were wild. Might still be but I've been monogamous since late 2023.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Out of curiosity, are you monogamous with someone who was asking for a bukkake on the first date or did you choose more wisely? 🙃
Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 3 days ago
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Congrats! 🎉
Speculater@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Not OP chose the wild girl. Do not regret.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
An ex-wild girl can be both very mature and exciting to be with, and someone you can build something solid with, but it has to be “ex” wild, past deep introspection and/or therapy. Ofc if you just wanna bang and don’t care about building anything, the wild girl is a better pick, lol.
Speculater@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Respectfully, I think your take is trash.
Wild girls can be mature, adventurous, and open minded. If they choose to settle down, that sense of adventure doesn’t necessarily die.
Your presupposition relies on the fact that sexually open women need therapy and introspection. I vehemently reject that supposition.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Literally can’t be “wild” and mature/responsible, not in the way OP and us were talking about. If you’re such a lost hedonist you’re asking men you met the same day to give you the bukkake special, you’re fucked in the head and need serious help. Like I said, an ex-wild girl will still be adventurous and exciting, she will just have tamed herself so she’s more discerning (she likes facials in the context of a loving, commited relationship, for example 😅).
hansolo@lemmy.today 2 days ago
I don’t think your take is terrible, just missing something.
I came upon a woman (no, not like…OK, maybe like that, too) who had survived some real life shit. Done therapy, blossomed into a latent wild one enjoying being free of the bad shit. I met her in her finding herself wild prime. She helped me refine my own chaotic negligent wild into a more charismatic swashbuckling wild. We validated each other and together we were better than apart.
Her having gone through some major shit, and having had therapy to build her back up to have self-confidence, is what made her mature. The wild part was just blowing off equivalent levels of steam for a few years. You’re not wrong about the parts, but they don’t have to be in that order.
Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sometimes I ponder