I know it’s hard, I also have lots of experience getting over fears. I was myself extremely socially afraid and afraid of all kinds of things in a less severe manner.
I have an Singaporean girlfriend right now who is similar, who I’m helping through it as well.
Believe me, I know the struggle. It’s so unbelievably hard to do things you’re afraid of and the main problem is that it all happens inside your head. All the effort you’re putting in is basically invisible to an outsider. They might push you because they don’t see how much you’re already doing, which just makes it worse because you start feeling like you should be doing more, and then on top of feeling afraid you also feel like shit because you do “so little”, which is not little at all.
You can do it, I believe in you :D if you want any more words, I’m here, I don’t wanna ramble on and on lol
If you’ve got people at school that you talk to, just throw out a “I was thinking about seeing Project Hail Mary after class today, want to come?” if they say no, they say no.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
aaaaahhhhh
My parents fucked up my brain…
From birth to like 12 years old… I wasn’t allowed to go outside by myself…
Just home all the time… or in school…
Never played with a peer outside of school…
Every time I wanna go outside… its with mom…
so the inertia just remained…
I think I first was allowed to walk home by myself in like 6th grade… I was 13
after that, I only went to the library like a few times…
But besides those rare moments, never been alone outside (besides home or school or walking to and from school) by myself…
Feels like climbing mt everest
Like I never even felt brave enough to like… ask someone to just hang out after school hours…
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I know it’s hard, I also have lots of experience getting over fears. I was myself extremely socially afraid and afraid of all kinds of things in a less severe manner.
I have an Singaporean girlfriend right now who is similar, who I’m helping through it as well.
Believe me, I know the struggle. It’s so unbelievably hard to do things you’re afraid of and the main problem is that it all happens inside your head. All the effort you’re putting in is basically invisible to an outsider. They might push you because they don’t see how much you’re already doing, which just makes it worse because you start feeling like you should be doing more, and then on top of feeling afraid you also feel like shit because you do “so little”, which is not little at all.
You can do it, I believe in you :D if you want any more words, I’m here, I don’t wanna ramble on and on lol
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
If you’ve got people at school that you talk to, just throw out a “I was thinking about seeing Project Hail Mary after class today, want to come?” if they say no, they say no.